I'm in a nest of rats (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-11 21:23 ID:HHYH+3mj

Warning, it'll be long, but I need serious advice at this point, so I'd like to ask you to read it through.

Ok, here's the exposition. I liked Girl 1 since beginning of last year, then Girl 2 came along and I fell idiotically in love with her. We broke up and I told the reason for the breakup only to Friend 1. Friend 1 isn't really friends with Girl 1. Friend 1 is my greatest friend, we have some shit behind us.

Thing is this. I broke up with Girl 2 in summer, Juni to be exact. I told Girl 1 couple of days ago how I like her and stuff. Anyway, that's kinda secondary because she told me that Friend 1 and a couple of other people told her about the reason why I and Girl 2 broke up. Now this sounds like drama, but I can neither see the reason why Friend 1 would tell her that nor do I see a reason why Girl1 should be be lying to me about it. It came totally out of nowhere with them having almost no connection to each other and I seriously don't know whom to believe. Thing is, seeing as Friend 1 is really a good friend from me, I of course don't believe her, but you know this thoughts that linger that tell you "what if?". I asked him about it, he denied it.

So far, I have no way to prove either thing. What should I do? I probably won't cut out the contact with either, because that would be just dumb. I'm also kinda torn, because 1 of those things just has to be true, either Girl 1 or Friend 1 lies, no middle ground.

So, fully aware that this is a drama bomb, should I pursue this issue, like questioning either of those 2 to maybe get some piece of truth certain? Or shall I forget about it entirely, repeat "Ignorance is bliss" and keep living happily with those 2?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-11 21:33 ID:U39YRpX0

Oh, they had this question on jeopardy the other day, I believe the answer was WHO GIVES A FUCK?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-11 21:37 ID:Heaven

>>1
...This is drama? Does this even matter? No, really. Don't you have more important things in your life whether to fret over how a girl knew why you and your ex no longer are dating? Isn't that a good thing?
Is accepting that either can be telling as much truth, and wait until you naturally discover the truth x years laters really such a problem? It's also useful to automatically assume ignorance rather than malice. Your friend might have casually (without noticing) said some things that clued others in on the situation.

I don't mean to belittle you and your problems, I'm just confused... The priorities differ greatly from my own, you see. Not that I'm great in any shape or way.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-11 22:21 ID:HHYH+3mj

>>3
OP here. No no, you're kinda right, I may be blowing things out of proportion, it's just that the breakup thing wasn't really flattering to me and I kinda assumed that it would stay in the dark. And no, it was something really couldn't just be hinted at, you'd have the full thing to understand even a bit.

You know, >>2 kinda had the right approach, I know that THAR INTERNETZ doesn't care, it's just that I kinda wanted to get a second opinion on this(from the internet, hurrr) without asking anyone I know. I'll probably just assume ignorance or pry Girl 1 for more information until I find something which either directly contradicts or overlaps with the things I know otherwise.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-11 22:32 ID:U39YRpX0

>>4

I was just looking for an oppertunity to try that line, otherwise I wouldn't have replied at all.

Just fuck Girl1, and afterwards she will in a fit of intimacy tell you everything you need to know about this thing. Next you need to manhandle Friend1, because he's obviously been doing Girl1 behind your back, even knowing you like her and everything. Man he's a real asshole, it pisses me off!

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-02-12 07:13 ID:HYIo2SVr

The best way to approach this is with subtlety. You don't want to lose the friendship of Friend 1, nor cross the girl of your dreams off your list either. Adding to the fact, both parties seem to have expertise in the art of deceit. You my friend, have quite a dilemma on your hands. Hence the logical and most effective thing to do would be to catch either party off guard. It would probably be more practical to work on your Friend 1, seeing as you are more acquainted with him.

The idea is that every time he takes a piss, playing games, driving, sleeping or checking out chicks, you pounce him with the question.
You see, unlike girls, guys have much difficulty doing two tasks at the same time (another reason why it’s not best to try this with that minx you have your eye on). Thus whilst being preoccupied with said tasks, your friend would find it difficult to simultaneously weave you in his web of lies. It might not work the first time, but if you pick the opportune moment, you will have the element of surprise and he will spill the beans like a charm. Persist, persist, persist.

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