its called a dance party, not a talk party. Dj's hope to tell people like you to stfu by turning the volume up to very high levels (although also because it just sounds cool) because talking people are a real killer for people who are there to get their groove on.

dont go to a dance party alone. its just no fun unless you're a real party animal who can win over people just by his attitude but sounds like you're not really that person. Also, i think most people have an aversion against loners, especially on a dance floor.