Failling Gracefully (10)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 13:33 ID:Q5dsTNRd

I've asked some girls out and then been rejected. Leaving things a bit awkward.

I'd just like to know if there are ways of taking rejection gracefully and walk away from the situation, especially if they're a friend, without ending it in an awkward manner.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 15:20 ID:Heaven

Lol, misread the title as a "Falling from Grace" thread.

3 Name: Nibbles : 2007-03-25 19:45 ID:bI1E2q9P

Well you just need to hang tough, don't let some bitch get you down. Lifes too short to waste crying and hurting, keep looking mate you'll find yourself a real knock out. If one says no, another may say yes, just have to learn to read a girls body language, get to know them, learn about them, grab their interests, girls love a guy who listens,then when your sure she likes you make your move.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-25 20:09 ID:Heaven

a good chuckle usuall does it

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-26 07:02 ID:Heaven

"LOL, PHYSCE!"

6 Name: Kira : 2007-03-27 08:16 ID:EYzJDnQX

Well it happened to me once... With a friend. Well after I got rejected... It felt too ackward for both of us... So she said she didn't want to be friends with me and it was same with me... I told her that don't talk or e-mail or do anything with me anymore. After that my feelings have gotten stronger and I felt happy as well because that experience had made me really strong.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-27 22:50 ID:qS7w2m1s

Well, if you do ask a friend, and they say no, and then think things are too awkward, they weren't really friends to begin with. A real friend wouldn't care. Plus, when you get married, your real goal is to marry your best friend, cause eventually the magic goes away and you have to live with her for the rest of your life, she should know you and comfort you the way a good friend does.

As for rejection, its a good idea to ask out your potential lover with the full expectation of rejection, it doesn't hurt that way. Thats always worked for me.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-28 08:58 ID:NF2gWJ+E

Well, I told my best friend that I liked her, and we continue to be the best of friends and have a great time together, because she told me she likes me as well. BUT, it doesn't seem like she is ready to take our relationship any further :( One of my friends says that she is just playing with my feelings, but I would be really shocked if she was that kind of person. I'm gonna pick up the courage to ask her and straighten it out soon...

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-29 02:38 ID:0lZVrOtx

>>8

i think the best friend situation is the best kind of base to start a relationship on. only trouble is that they can be a kind of slow-boil.. sometimes it takes time for someone to see a good friend in another light.

i'd say don't rush into things and take it slow. you don't want to start getting demanding and pressuring her only to injure your great friendship, too.

good luck!

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-03-29 05:09 ID:yYvo+T0R

I have been in that situation many of times, both being the rejected and rejector. It does not matter which one it happens to be but I always react the same. I walk away and I never speak to them again. It is throwing away a friendship in a way, but it was already ruined by falling for that person. Maybe it is cold, but it seems graceful to me. There is no room for awkwardness as long as you don't act hurt or bothered by it.

The sting fades eventually and you find someone else or someone else finds you and you'll forget about that other person in time. I don't even remember the names of some of the friends that rejected me in the past.

If you are unable to cut ties like that, act as though you never asked. Hopefully she will act like it never happened either and in a few days it will probably go back to normal again.

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