Sorry if These are confusing. Its late.
Alright. ^^;
First off...We have known each other for about 3 years, and we are really close. I love her very much, and she loves me.
But...This is really just my problem...
Im really just average looking, not perfectly fit, and have a few other flaws...But those flaws seem to really get to me. I just am really self conscience about those flaws..It Drives me up a wall.
It kind of gets in the way of me paying attention te her..and that does not help.
And the second one..
She can be...Easily depressed at times. she has had a rough life, and has a few health issues, Including Breathing issues that pop up from time and such.
But when these things get her down...I try to help, mostly by doing things with her like hanging out, or listening to music, or just talking about anything. I dont know if its me...But I cant ever shake the feeling i`m not helping at all.
Any comments would be VERY Apreciated
Stop thinking about yourself, just think about her. If you love eachother like you say you do, then you DO help her whenever you're with her. Either don't bring up her past, OR try to get her to talk about it more in depth with you.
Hmm... I wasn't in your shoes, but my ex was. In my case, it wasn't enough just to show effort. There had to be results...
So... in relation to you, I think you need to sit down and analyze the problems that she chooses to confide in you. Think about what to say and choose your words carefully, but... most of all, believe in your words--have your emotions backing them up. From what I can deduce, there's also a confidence issue on your part. Be reassured and love her more (show the latter slowly but evidently). When she does bring the problem up, be silent and listen to her. Hold her hand, look her in the eye, just let her know you're there, then... once again, say your emotions.
I... wasn't much of a thinker back then, so my words were all emotions. It's a little risky if you don't have practice speaking on the spot, but if you speak in a normal state by your feelings, then your words are true, no? Try it out. See how it works.
Wah, Thank you guys. :D I apreciate the comments so far.
-OP
I'm in the same case, with someone who's had a rough life, and gets depressed at times... When she's being depressed, or having her emotions doing cartwheels (which seems alien even to me), I just try to be there for her, and avoid bringing my own problems into the conversation when she's already stressed over her own...
Like others said, go with your emotions... I'm normally a big thinker and an analytical person, but I tend to say my emotions with her, and I'd recommend anyone to do the same...
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>>7 This is the Love & Romance board, and even though many stories sound similar, it's still everyone's right to post their problems, and benefit from all our collective ability to support and help assist each other... Not everyone's situation is exactly the same, and everyone deserves the chance to be heard and helped...