I Need Your Help (14)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 02:18 ID:ThHswgU1

I'm 19 years old, and I like a 15 years old girl. I'm not very sure if it's okay. I think that age's difference is not important at all, but maybe is a little unpleasant for this girl. What can I do?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 04:17 ID:8SZLfArf

If she'll be creeped out then don't ask her out. Duh.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 12:31 ID:7wGKDdFz

Depends on where you live, if you live in a country with more conservative age of consent rules (like USA), things could be more tricky.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 12:54 ID:Heaven

Pedo. DIAF!

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 15:13 ID:Heaven

Strangely enough, I work with a guy who is 19 this year and also going out with a 15 or 16 year old.

None of us really have a problem with it. Only thing is, coz she's underage, can't really take her out clubbing and stuff.

As for what you should do, think carefully if can actually communicate on the same level as her.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 22:31 ID:OvWAu8/n

You might want to get an idea of how her parents might respond.

If you feel that they might not handle this well that might very well be the biggest difficulty that you'll face in figuring this whole thing out. After determining that you can attempt to figure out where to go from there.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-07 23:56 ID:kOfPCwJc

I am actually 16, and date a 25 year old man ... It's love, no matter how other people see it. And my mother understands it.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-08 00:37 ID:ijFpLems

>>7, don't you mean 15? Because I have the almost certeza of it.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-08 01:01 ID:AFrbZ2ud

I'm a 26 year old male, and am getting into a relationship with a 20 year old female, so it's nothing huge, with that age difference, but right now, it's a big deal as she'd be a minor, and you'd be an adult... However, there can't be anything physical, depending on your area of residence...

If your feelings are true, you can wait & be patient, when it comes to the physical stuff; (Incidentally, even if parents are ok with things like that, still, refrain... Someone who has a grudge against you could easily try to make a public situation out of your activities...)

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-08 01:29 ID:Heaven

>>8 you are what ?

>If your feelings are true, you can wait & be patient.

what he said

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-08 03:50 ID:59mv2cuR

>>9

thats cool, no problem with your situation, but this situation is a bit different. depending on where OP lives, it might be illegal for him to go out with her. find out what the age of consent is your area.

case in point:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/16862643/

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-08 04:55 ID:Db/LQyfe

>>11 I don't think it's illegal for the OP to DATE the girl. Dating doesn't have to involve sex.

>>OP What do you mean by unpleasant?

Also, does the girl like you too? Does she think the age gap is a problem? Find out.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-08 06:51 ID:MNOJw7T/

The sex isn't illegal either if nobody else finds out.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-06-09 02:06 ID:OdJluHzk

I thank you all for being this interested. I think I can get some information directly from the girl. She is my friend, and we are getting really close-by. Maybe we can just date like friends and start talking about it. I don't know if she likes me "likes" me... but I think I can find out.

By the way, I thought about just dating her, no doing something else... That could be in a couple of years, if she likes to be my girlfriend...

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