Dilemma (3)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-15 22:35 ID:WG+FvzGP

I really, really like a certain young woman I know (we're both 18), but she is unobtainable, as she has a boyfriend. I have been friends with her since I was 12, and I would say she is definitely one of my best friends, as she doesn't ever judge me unfairly, and we can talk about pretty much anything. But... she has a boyfriend. I'm going to be going to University with her in September, and she wont really be seeing much of him: would it be wrong to try and steal her? Is all fair in love and war?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-15 22:53 ID:3C20vy5e

The "I'm a desperate guy who also wants someone he can't have" side of me would say "go for it!"... But you probably shouldn't do that, unless you can stand to risk your friendship with her. If you can... Sure, go for it. But if you want to remain friends, don't do it.

Now what you could do, and this could still put your friendship at risk, is to tell her how you feel sometime before you leave- the sooner the better. That way you both can figure out if your current relationship is still sustainable.

Keep in mind that I'm a guy with NO experience with women, other than friends who I have no interest beyond what there is now. I'm jsut saying this based on my minimal experience and what makes the most sense. Good luck.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-07-16 23:05 ID:Itr1aqr1

Wait for it, how long can that relationship last with her at college and him elsewhere? He's not going with you two to that same school is he?

Then's the time to slowly get closer to her, in a natural way. Maybe she'll end up breaking up with him! But, this also lets you learn a bit more about her (yes, I know you've known her since you were 12, but people change in college) and specifically how she might feel about you.

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