Hi, to all singles
Post it here all your activities, how you enjoy your single life, the dilemmas and all..
let's talk everything about our single life and even your single's dating life..
thanks
i'm single XD well.. very enjoyed my activity i think ^^
just hang out with my friends, closed with some boys without any special relationship ^^
I still live home and we're a large family, so it's not that lonely for me. But I'm moving out later and I wonder how that'll be ..
I just sit at the computer and have fun with Adobe's programs.
He is awesome. In all sense of the word.
Funny, good-looking, athletic, full of surprises.
You wouldn't know it from just looking at him.
I can't help but smile when I see his face.
He ticks literally all my boxes. Which is a first, because I'm such a picky bitch.
How can one person be so awesome?
I'm single and here I am...
...on a textboard
I live at home currently, but moving to an apartment soon, and while it puts me physically closer to my friends, I'm admittedly concerned that when they're not around, busy and whatnot, or when school's out of session & they head home for breaks, and without my family around, I might wind up being even more alone than I'm used to, and that scares me right now...
Not much of a dating life here, as I'm the type that's afraid to try to "meet girls"... I had someone I fell for, who I randomly met, but it fell apart, because of her lying to me about a lot of things...
I have several girls who are amongst my friends, including one I really like, and who likes me, who's into everything I'm into, but can't ask out because she's with another good friend of mine, and I would never drive them apart...
I'm not the type to just go to bars on my own & pick up people, as I'm more of a geek type... But on the plus side, some of my friends promised to try to help me out in meeting people, so I'm hopeful (while at the same time a little afraid it'll never happen and they'll just forget about helping me out...)
I'm a single girl, but I'm not really enjoying it... but maybe it's not killing me, either.
I used to constantly dwell on how lonely I was, and I hated myself so much for it. It's only been recently that I've looked up and stopped focusing on my single-ness, and I've been a lot happier. I won't lie and say I don't get upset about it, or that I still don't think about it, because I definately do! Almost all of my friends having boy/girl friends, and I get really upset being the 5th wheel sometimes... But, even though I know I'm geeky, and I know I'm not confident, and I know it'll be pretty hard to ever find a boyfriend, I try to not concentrate on it so much, and I enjoy life more because of that. I hate walking around and looking at my shoes, so why do it?
I still hope for a boyfriend, though! Although, I can handle waiting until it happens, I think.
(#7 here)
>>8
That actually sounds like what I'm going through right now, (except for the obvious fact that you're a girl, hehe)
I definitely get upset about my singleness & hate myself for it, as I always feel like the 5th wheel when I'm with anyone these days, and I get sick of seeing everyone holding hands & whatnot...
I worry that I'm geeky, and not confident, and I feel like I'll never find a girlfriend, but a friend reminded me yesterday that "It'll happen when you least expect it", and I reminded myself to not focus on it, instead try to be confident & head-up, if I ever expect to impress someone...
i jsut got single again recently...
apparently, i have been mailing to this girl of some sort, in which i met her in a certain convention in our place.
i wish she was just as single as i am.
>_<;
I have the same problem, except I was extremely awkward in my conversation. Now I am dreading going back to school and seeing my friend.
>"It'll happen when you least expect it"..
Cliched, but so true.
Up until now, in my nineteen years of life, I've probably had what? One weak confession? And now, in the year that I don't have time for relationships, three people have confessed to me out of the blue in the space of two months. What a mess when two of them found out about each other. A year ago, I would have never imagined my self in this situation. I probably would've given one of them a chance too.
i guess you really have to build up your confidence... it's just plain sweet if you could put your shoes in front of her and talk about your interest with her.
sometimes, as simple as "sincerity" could make all of the difference.
I am single here. For a few weeks now. Sometimes it feels good-- like when I'm with my other single friends and stop caring about the dating life. But other times I get lonely and really crave for a date, or just meeting someone. My last boyfriend wasn't very affectionate and.. other things.. as I would like in a person. =\
I start college orientation next week, and then classes the following week, so I'm trying my hardest to just care about that and other things that I enjoy doing and stuff. But I still can't help but hoping maybe I'd meet someone nice and things actually working out...
But it'll happen when it happens, right? I'm really shy with new people, but I can be really open after a while. My friends enjoy me a lot, so there must be someone out there who'll enjoy me too.Hrm.
I have been single for my whole life so far and i am not missing something.......
well, let's just say that you should enjoy your life first in the meantime
I have always been single but I have also dated plenty, it is fun and all but it would be nice to find some stability with someone. I am not really looking for it, but should a good opportunity fall into my lap I will certainly take it.
At the moment I do have an eye on this guy and he seems to have his eye on me but do to circumstances the only way for anything to happen is if I make the first move. That isn't my style, I have never had to make the first move and I don't know how. If things were just a little different then I think he would make a move on me. He is in a situation where he has to be very cautious or he could lose his job in case he was reading me wrong and I decided to complain. Not that I would, but there are women out there that scream harassment over the tiniest thing.
(>>17, that's probably why he might never make a first move... We guys now have it harder than ever to even flirt, to be paranoid of things like that anymore, thanks to how easy it is for any girl to scream harassment at a moment's notice...)
I am single and working a normal crappy ass job. But, during my spare time I play some games, eat what I like, and rest indoors the entire time.. But, that's only because in a week i'm about to move to a different location. So, I can't really get involved with anyone at the moment. But, afterwards, we shall see what will happen :)
>>15
Indeed. I never thought I was missing something until I had it and then lost it.
well, at least, you are really enjoying your life right now.
sometimes, you just have to wait, then someone will just ring on your door ;)
>>18 Yeah, that is just the way it is now and I could go on about how my gender is ruining relations between men and women but that is way off topic. But since we are talking about singles I will say that being a single man probably isn't such a bad thing. Take a look at women these days, they make me ashamed!
Anyone have any ideas on how to pursue this guy without seeming too forward? I don't want to come across as "easy".
>>18 here.
>>20
Totally true...
>>23
Actually... I think "Hey, I was just wondering if you'd like to go out sometime, for bite to eat after work or something" would work wonders... It certainly doesn't sound "easy", and I'm sure he'd be more suprised and flattered by you being so frank than anything else...
Considering how hard it indeed is for guys to flirt with women anymore, a woman almost practically has to make the first move, and make it a direct one, if the guy is to have any idea if it's even safe to proceed any further...
>>there are women out there that scream harassment over the tiniest thing.
Damn straight. I was almost expelled from junior high thanks to this bitch who falsely called harrassment on me when I scored higher than she did in a class activity. Even with pretty much the entire class testifying in my favor that I did nothing that could remotely be considered harrassment, I still came within an angel's breath of expulsion. Fucking suits, too terrified of negative backlash from a girl's parents to even consider listening to the guy's story.
I'm 24 now, single and a virgin. Never even considered dating a girl -- there are just way too many ways in which a woman can fuck up a man's life. I'm sure as hell not going to gamble my future on a lark.
dating...life?
yeah ill get back to you when i get one
>>23
Ask him out for an -exclusive- thing like >>24 suggested. Don't make it a group thing, you don't want to send mixed signals: many guys will consider this a "I only like you as a friend signal" and move on despite the girl feeling it might be a 'safer' way to proceed. While you're at it, don't go with the subtle hints as most guys simply aren't tuned into that wavelength. Again, as 24 suggested, the vast majority of guys like women who don't play games, who are straight up, open and honest: "I think you're cute/attractive/sexy (or "I like how you do __ or are ___"), would you like to have dinner sometime?"
I stare at message boards and my background listening to music all day long, I have no friends to hang with and the only thing I'm good at is drawing.
Every time I've tried to make friends I've ended up being the fifth wheel, sometimes I even got invited to small parties with some classmates and their friends but even then I was always the fifth wheel. It's like people don't hear me when I try talking to them, they just ignore me AFTER asking me in PERSON to come to their party/house/gathering. =<
I think I've just let myself be lead on for the first time ever.
I dropped my guard for once in my life and let myself believe that he actually liked me. That's not to say that he wasn't guilty too. All the signs were there, and I'm a pretty wary person when it comes to matters of the heart. I should have listened to the little voice at the back of my head telling me that he was too good to be true.
Dammit, I feel so foolish. I guess this is what you call karma. After all those times I rejected other guys, I finally have some idea of they felt.
>>28
It is probably because you stare at message boards all day that you have no friends to hang out with. As for being the fifth wheel, you should learn to assert yourself. You can't expect people to socialise for you, you need to raise your own voice if you want to be heard.
>>29
Hopefully you won't become more introvert because of it.
>>30
Whenever I said something they got quiet, changed the subject or walked away. I'm not really shy and I try to "expose" myself as good as I can but its like one of those High school teen movies
where you see that nerd at a party trying to talk to girl and gets blown off before he even open his mouth.
And I'm not ugly -- Quite fashionable really.
I started glaring at message boards a month ago .-.
>>31
Unlike in movies, things rarely go that smoothly. Someone mentioned alcohol as a social lubricant, perhaps in some cases I would agree some dutch courage can help. Mostly though, you just need to keep trying, personally I don't need alcohol to talk to someone but we're all different.
What is it that you're saying to get blown off anyway? "Hey, did you catch the last episode of Gundam SEED?" I'm wondering where it might be going wrong, or if it is just the people you're approaching.
>>32
gundam, funny.
I usually don't get past "Hi, whatcha talking about?" or commenting on something they're talking about. (more than just "I agree!")
I'm moving shortly, will try more when I get there.
I have actually had the most success with free personal ads in various places (don't wanna mention URLs because that would sould like I was spamming).
Of course, part of that may be because my tastes are unusual. I'm a white guy who prefers black women. And I've had the most success meeting them with online personals.
>>34
Call me curious, but what sort of websites have you used to meet people, personals-wise? I find myself looking on craigslist frequently, these days, for not just personals, but all sorts of things...
>>35
Craigslist, coincidentally enough, is the one I've had the most success with.
it's me again... i have been sigle for the past 4 months...
and now, my ex is just... hostile to me.
>>28 I thought that only happened to me!
What exactly is fun about being single?
It's starting to depress me at the moment.
>>38 My thoughts exactly... I've been in that dark place that being single, being a 5th wheel, and what not leads to one too many times...
It seems like anymore, even when I'm with my friends, I can change moods at the drop of a hat, as it might start out fairly normal, but can quickly change to them not paying any attention to me, and me winding up like a fifth wheel...
That happened today, for instance... The day started out very promising, but the usual people ruined it by clinging to each other, and making me feel left out...
I did some crazy stuff last night, though, things I wouldn't have done normally, so I'm thinking of confessing to probably my best friend that I like her in a few minutes here over dinner, when I know she's with one of my other best friends, who is sitting across the room reading as I type this, waiting for my friend to come back...
I must be insane, but maybe it's the loneliness that drives you to do crazy things like this... Maybe I've just given up caring who I piss off or whatnot...