I'm currently dating a girl that's really into kigurumi, if you don't know what it is it's basically cosplay on steroids. I was accepting of this, as a matter of fact I even sort of liked it at first. But we've been dating a year now, and I still haven't seen her without her mask. For her, it isn't just a hobby, and her costume isn't just something she dons every once in a while. I respect and understand that, but I'm her boyfriend of a year, and I had always thought eventually I would get to see her unmasked. It makes me feel highly dejected she wouldn't let me see her real face. I don't want it to tear our relationship apart, but it's starting to tick me off. If she can't be real with me, if she can't be herself instead of her little anime persona, maybe I shouldn't be dating her.
The best way to get her to show her face. Is probably to comfort her about it. I mean, just let her know you don't really care what she looks like. Whether it's burnted, scarred, nothing but skin... I mean... how does she eat and drink?!
but as I was saying. Just let her know that even if it's the ugliest face known to man, you won't treat her any different. Unless it's treating her better.
I don't think she's scared about being ugly, I think she sees the mask as her identity. It's like asking somebody, for her, to rip their face off and let you see their insides.
U.G.L.Y....she ain't got no alibi..
>>13
So this would be fine if you loved the mask. But you don't.
It's going to come to the point where you'll have to put your foot down and say 'my way or the highway'. If she doesn't take the costume off, then she's not the right person for you dude.
Part of me feels it's unfair of me to want what I want though...
>>13
She may need some help if thats what it is.
But really, will she not bend it just a little or even once just for you?
Why does she have the mask on so much?
What caused her to be like this?
How does she eat or drink?(No seriously, answer this question, I'm wondering)
Well I don't know, she never eats in front of me since it's hard to do it without her mask. She absolutely refuses to bend it a little, usually whenever I bring it up she instantly switches the subject to sex to get me horny and then we end up doing it and it's fine. As for what caused her to be as she is, she's claimed she's always had the mask on. Basically, whenever talking about it she'll just become really cryptic and then have sex with me as soon as possible to make my mind wander away from it. And before we had sex she would use the pity thing, and I would feel really bad because I was trying to change her.
maybe she has something in herself that she doesn't want you to see...
>>18
ouch. This really seems like one of those things were you will have to put your relationship on the line for. You'll have to decide if you are willing to go that far to see under her mask.
lol, so, what mask does she wear? And does she do a voice too?
I don't actually know the name of the character or if it is actually one and not a creation of hers, but it has long pink hair. And her voice is actually a bit manly.
Love doesn't need to be 100% appearances but if you truely want to see her face then ask her that you want to see the person behind the mask that you love or something like that. Ask her sincerely... And well ask her if she's afraid or something like that you know. Have a long serious talk and if she tries to avoid that then I guess she's trying to runaway maybe... From reality...
Well I hope it works out. Good luck- Kira.
>>18
It obviously bothers you.. as I think it would most people. She's not being totally truthful with you. I believe it's an issue of trust more than anything - she can't even trust you, her boyfriend, with whatever problem it is that she has to hide with the mask persona.
Try to talk to her. If she tries the sex gambit, tell her to stop it, that you're serious. If she tries the guilt gambit, tell her that she's the one being unfair and selfish (because she is) and that you really just want to know the real her. Make it clear that you're there to help and support her and that you really care for her, but it's become a real issue in your relationship.
My way or the highway - don't let her jerk you around anymore. Good luck!
Amused at the number of serious responses here.
Look at it this way. You love her. Do you plan to live with her one day? What about marriage? Are you thinking this far ahead yet? If you are, then you need to let her know. A girl will only give her full self to someone she knows won't abandon her. The words "I promise to be here with you forever" are the ones that make a girl take down her final defenses.
If you aren't that serious about her, you don't yet have the right to ask her to share her most private self with you. If you are, then you both need to be willing to share everything with each other. Being together forever means holding the vomit bucket when she's got a hangover, giving back rubs, having to smell each other's farts, enduring each other's bad days... If you two are serious, then you have every right to ask her to share this part of yourself with you, but she needs to know where you stand.
wait...how do you know it's not a guy again?
also, if you football tackle her- will her mask come off? if so- you can get her into sports and just wait for the happy accident
Maybe you have yet to show her your true face? That is why she is keepingher distance?
I want pics.
I know, I know, OP should put on a mask! That way there's no reality divide.
thats soooooo weird... :( she should definately take off the mask... poor u o.o; man ur romantic life must be weird. how can u go out together? does she sleep with a mask on? does she shower or something?! is she really a she not a she but a he?!
WHO KNOWS CYA CYA CYA! the mystery continues... {u could turn this into a mini manga}
okay...how did u even get to know her...?
online?...with her mask on?...
how do u go out...? with her mask on?..that's kind of just weird now...i believe maybe u just go to her house everytime...
as a fan of kigurumi, this is just not right...
obviously she doesnt take a shower, eat, when her bf is present
she must have slept with the mask on...
Hahah how did you dig this one out. It's like 2 years old and the guy was obviously pulling a prank on us. I mean c'mon, the girl lives in some kind of a mask/suit 24/7? Yeah right. How would she work, go to school, whatever. I don't think her family or people in her life would just let it go like that. People do mind somebody else's business always and that's pretty much a guarantee that this story is a prank. It's original though! lol
The boyfriend is not with her 24/7 faggot. I think that's the point.
the pics are still needed.. but but.. did the mask come off during these years?
OP, where r u?!
I see you question your sexuality quite a lot, calling me faggot and whatever. My point was that she (if this story is at all true) was living under a mask. Don't you think this guy would catch her accidentaly (with no mask on) at least once in the whole year they were dating?
Wow. This is cosplay on steroids.
You poor poor boy!!! I like to cosplay, sure, but I would never have taken it that far! Have you just tried talking to her about it?
:D
I question my sexuality because I called an anonymous poster a faggot once on the internet?
Yeah, I think you got me there.
I have to agree that, without pictures or any other evidence backing this up and along with some of the comments, this does seem like a fabrication.
OTOH, if this were true, how I wish I could have your girlfriend! Since I have a mask/enclosure fetish (on girls), it would be a dream come true for me!
On the third hand, assuming this was true, I'd be more concerned with what she's up to when she's not with you and (presumably) unmasked. After thinking about this, I come up with these possibilities:
Come to think of it, what's it like going out on a date/movie/whatever towing her around in public?
3. You've mentioned you've had sex, so that rules out the usual cross-dresser inside an animegao/kigurumi player. But that does NOT mean that "she" wasn't ONCE a "he" and the "she" is just wearing the outfit/mask until the "transformation" is done. The "manly voice" clue fits this. OTOH, in relation to #2, she could be using a voice changer, which would make me even more suspicious about who she really is--she could be your sister and you wouldn't know in that case!
4. The creepiest possibility, she's a split personality. This goes with #1, the difference being one personality doesn't know what the other is doing, and therefore she's not really cheating on you. I have read fiction where this was used: a girl brainwashed into thinking she's a different person with the mask on, but reverts to her "normal" self with it off. But what if something like that really exists? I was once married to a girl with split personality that came out when she got too drunk, and it's absolutely true that certain "triggers" will cause a certain personality to come out under certain conditions, so I wouldn't be so hasty to discount this. However, I would call it very unlikely.
>On the third hand
D:
fuck, I meant to sage. Sorry.
Dude, I'm jealous of you. I wish I could have a girlfriend like you. But I can imagine you would want to see your girlfriend's real face. BUT IT'S SOOO COOL, HAVING A REAL KIGURUMI GIRLFRIEND!!! XD
Dude, I'm soooo jealous of you right now. But I can imagine you would want to see her real face. BUT IT'S SO COOL HAVING A KIGURUMI GIRLFRIEND!!!! XD
Sorry, double post I didn't see the message come up the first time blush
"But we've been dating a year now, and I still haven't seen her without her mask."
ROFL
>I'm currently dating a girl that's really into kigurumi, if >you don't know what it is it's basically cosplay on steroids.
First time I read this, I didn't know what "Kigurumi" meant, and thought his girlfriend was literally cosplaying being on steroids.
no pic? its a HOAX !
yeah totally
Can not be anything other than a hoax ;)
damn, silence in the convo :-(
I was just starting to have fun.
>>52
The thread is three and a half years old...
LOL, I know, but in the last couple of months there seemed to be a bit more activity. And besides, I found this website in the last week of 2009, so I had enough to read. :)
bump
you look like fallilng in love with a doll;; i am a korean, so i can't typ your lagnuage very well. however, i'd like to tell you that you have to talk to your lover about what you want. if your girl friend is really loving you like you, she also can understand you and you guys' love is going on;;;
>>50
No shit. Really? I couldn't tell from the implausable premise of a kigurumi "dating" a normalfag and then kigging at all times.
>>1 im finding this very hard to believe this with some sort of evidence cus this thread could be just a joke made by sad,single,lonely Geek of sum sort but ill take everything back if u do so, right now this is a joke to me, sounds more like a movie plot idea for an psychological drama...
whut. Nice try.
where you from? this sounds cool and i would like to talk to you in private about this.