#8 here

>>9 Actually, a number of us do, I know I certainly do... I'm not one to fool around and find someone to just "pass the time" with, so to speak...

It seems like in the "old days", it was girls who talked about "commitment" and scared off guys who wanted to be "free & loose", and these days it seems like the opposite's true, more & more, where guys want love, while the girl gets scared of being "tied down" should we speak about our feelings or actually vocalize our being in love with them...

Here it sounds like the guy finally did say it, and got shot down by the phrase "That takes time"... I would think after 2 & 1/2 months, there'd be some admission of love there... After all, noone's talking marriage or anything, just saying I love you...

You can kind of sympathize, to a degree, when he wonders "Why am I staying with someone who can't even say she loves me after 2 and a half months, when someone here is also interested in me...

>>10
OP, I'm sure you didn't intend for it to come out quite that way... Everyone just has their own definition of love, and what it means... That's why some people consider love a one night stand, some consider it something to be said when you're ready to spend life with a person...

Myself, for example, I consider it to mean that you care more than a friend about a person, and though I don't intend it to mean I'm tied to them at the hip, it does mean that I'd give my heart to them...

I don't however, think the way he acted after you broke up was appropriate at all... I'm sure he was doing it purposefully to be vindictive, though... I've got to assume that was a rather mean way to "get back at you" for spurning his affection... And that's always the wrong thing to do, no matter how wronged he may feel he was...