Help me get my groove back (10)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 22:55 ID:8/ZZk1Vc

'Sup guys.

I'm less than a week out of a relationship that spanned nearly my entire time in college (and some time afterward), and I've been in a relationship in some form or another since high school.

Now, I don't think I run much risk of a rebound, since the end of this relationship was a long time coming, to such an extent that I never even felt the urge to shed a tear over it. It certainly wasn't amicable by any means, and I can't imagine ever seeing or speaking to her again (I'm moving away anyway). It's over, through and through, and I really feel nothing but relief because of it.

I think I'm about ready to move on and find someone I actually like. Only problem is, uh, I haven't really been on the prowl for a good five years, and last I was, my dating pool was made up of girls in my classes. I don't have classes anymore, and meeting people online seems to be a bust (unless I'm doing it wrong, which it certainly possible).

So how do I do this? I'm not terribly keen on the bar scene or anything like that. I'm not going to have to go back to school just to meet people, am I?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 23:00 ID:7NyBU9L6

Stella, is that you?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 23:08 ID:xIRy7EyV

now that ur out of college, meeting girls will be a lot harder. find someone at work or through a friend.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 23:24 ID:C4Fa646h

I found that dating sites actually aren't too bad. A lot of geeky girls use them, if you like that. Try Plenty of Fish, OkCupid, and JustSayHi.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-02 00:03 ID:TQO8Y48M

you know anime conventions? If you'd ever want to meet people who were into anime, you'd go there.
And if you switch anime with your main interests, you could possibly find some people who have the same interests as you at any kind of meeting grounds and such. Online dating is probably best after college, don't date chicks at work, bad thing to do.
Meeting through friends isn't a bad thing though.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-02 00:25 ID:m6UzRf6/

What are your hobbies? The best way to find women is to find ones with similar hobbies. For example, if you like writing, do things like National Novel Writing Month that have local meetings in different cities, and you just might meet the love of your life. Or if you're into knitting, join a knitting club and hope you don't get only septuagenarians (unless that's your thing.)

7 Name: OP : 2007-11-02 00:53 ID:8/ZZk1Vc

I'm mostly into geeky stuff. Video and traditional games, anime, that sort of thing. Less geekily, foreign language, literature, music, some random outdoorsy stuff, politics, etc. I'm a pretty good conversationalist and can bullshit any interests I don't really have, though I try to avoid that since I lose interest in doing so pretty fast.

8 Name: OP : 2007-11-02 12:02 ID:8/ZZk1Vc

>>4
Oh dear, these really aren't working out so well. My highest matches on OKC are cheerleaders, and the other two sites give me very fat or ugly women.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-02 19:44 ID:jPQlas1c

>>7
You shouldn't bullshit interests you don't really have because there has to come a time in a relationship eventually where you show your true self. That's why it's best to just start out as yourself. Like >>5 said, conventions and meetings are good places to meet people with similarly geeky interests. I know the stereotype is that all the women at conventions are immature or furry or ugly or fat, but I'm sure you can eventually find somebody you're willing to date. You might be surprised.

As for the less geeky hobbies, I'm not sure, maybe hang out in bookstores to meet people, or go to clubs that play music you really like, or attend screening of foreign films. If you're into outdoors stuff, maybe start Geocaching; it's a fun sport that involves lots of hiking and there are usually local meetings for it where you can meet women.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-04 11:53 ID:E+gFxJ9E

>>8
In my experience, OKC only gives decent matches after you're entered a ridiculous number of questions. I think I have about 500 filled in, and the top matches are currently approximately the right kind of person, but that being said, my top matches are still only 70% and the system claims the highest possible match is 95%.

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