I posted this on another forum and got crap responses from people basically calling me a doormat and now telling me any new ideas except a threesome suggestion which neither one of us are into, so I am going to try here. I am not a doormat by the way, I do these things to show my future husband that I love, care deeply for, and appreciate him.
I love my fiance, so I work hard to please him. So, I am looking to surprise him with something new to do. To not get answers suggesting what I already know, this is what I do:
I do the cooking and baking, so a fancy dinner is not really special for us. It was special in the beginning because he had never had a girlfriend that cooked. I never meant it to be special or romantic anyways, it's just something to bring to the marriage table and I like cooking.
We do the role play/BDSM thing during sex often. It is extremely pleasurable, but now it is kind of normal for us.
He gets hand, back, foot, scalp massage all the time. He works hard so I want to help him unwind after a long day. So, he enjoys this but it is kind of expected at this point. That's fine, I know he gets sore and he is grateful for every little thing.
The latest thing is when in the bath or shower, I massage and bathe him thoroughly, he doesn't need to do anything except turn around so I can wash his back and lift his feet so I can wash the bottoms. So, at first it was all new and special...but it's going to be a regular thing so I need to please him with something new.
Any new ideas? I would prefer answers from men, because I want to know what men like, not what women think men like.
First off, let me congratulate you on knowing and ACCEPTING your place as a woman. Despite what the pussyboys and closet lesbian feminazis here will tell you , what you're doing is a GOOD thing.
A man has several needs from a woman, otherwise a woman is as useless to a man as a third ear. (needs that you SEEM to have fulfilled, but let’s go over the list anyway)
A woman HAS to be of the domestic type. What does this mean?
Well first off she MUST know how to cook, and cook thefoods HE likes, while simultaneously watching his intake. For
example; A man (like myself) might LOVE cheese in all its
forms and types. So One of my favorite snacks is a grilled
Cheese sandwich, A woman who knew how to EXPERTLY cook this
SIMPLE thing would be regarded highly by me. I KNOW though,
That they're loaded with fat and carbs and whatnot. So a good
woman wouldn't TELL me "you're going to get fat eating those"
she would suggest something else, or make substitutions if I
REFUSED to take her suggestions. (which is my prerogative as
a man, and THE man of the house)
Secondly, she MUST know how to keep house. This means cleaning, washing, dusting, vacuuming, clothes washing/
drying/pressing(ironing), bathroom maintenance(no, you don't
have to get out a monkey wrench. but you know what I mean),
and most importantly ORGANIZATION.
How many times have a seen a woman who says she's a "good woman" whos house is a shambles with piles of clothes
and/or things that should be in storage somewhere. A clean
house begets a happy man, and no corners should be cut. Dust
every other day, vacuumed once a week, wash the floors every
day, wash the walls once a month (more frequently if he's a
smoker), etc.
Thirdly, she must know how to keep HERSELF! (and this is where one of my suggestions come in, so pay attention!)
Picture if you will; It's 7:30 pm and the sun is waning in
the west, ending a particularly beautiful spring day. Your
man guides his car gently into the driveway, a work weary
hand reaching up behind the sun visor to activate the garage
Door mechanism. As the garage door rumbles to life, he
coasts into the garage and with a deft flick of his wrist, he
disengages the key from the ignition and opens the car door.
Inside you hear the garage, and quickly move to the door
that connects the door to the kitchen in order to greet your
man with the appropriate excitement. His mind weary from a
day full of figuring heavy mathematics, his shoulders seeming
to have the weight of the world placed upon them, he sighs
attempting to shake the burden of work from his back for the
night. Reaching the door he twists the knob and pushes it
open, only to greet his woman......
In sweatpants/overalls, hair cut short and not particularly
well kept, face not showing even a hint of makeup, and a
stain marring the front of her shirt. She's slightly
overweight, dumpy, shoulders slouched and hands plagued with
nails upon which the cracked and flaking remnants of nail
polish resides.
Now compare that with
more coming
contd..
Looking as his woman, his property, that which represents him
to the outside world, should. Hair long, well taken care of,
and looking like something out of a shampoo commercial. Face
clean, with just a hint of make up to spice up an already
beautiful canvas. She wears a beautiful dress that not only
Looks reasonably fashionable, but shows off her shapely legs
and practical, but still stylish shoes. She's a model of
athleticism, going to the gym at least 3 times a week for one
hour workouts (or taking a workout a home, whichever is more
feasible) keeps her body fit, tone, and looking sexy. Her
nails are well kept and polished, never would polish be
allowed to crack and flake, for such would be to dishonor
her man. She knows that she is the avatar of his strength,
his ownership, his footprint as a master of his domain.
It takes her extra effort to look this good when he comes
home, but it's worth it. After all, he is her master.
Which one do you think he would rather see when he opens that
Door?
As a woman you should love cooking, you should love cleaning, you should love making yourself look beautiful
for him. Why? Because it's for HIM that you're doing it.
Your entire life should focus around one singular phrase.
"My duty and happiness in life is to make my man happy."
A woman has to be sexual.
How many times have I seen women who look good, cookwell enough, but are complete cold fish in the sack.
too many.
The phrase "A lady in the streets and a whore between
the sheets" is a hackneyed one, but it is something you should
Keep in mind when thinking of sexuality. Your level of sexual
Desire should match your masters in every way, though being a
bit more interested than he is can really spice things up
sometimes. This has a lot to do with your looks, as men are
visually stimulated when it comes to sexual intercourse.
You need to BECOME his fantasy.
If he likes redheads, you're headed to the salon. If he likes
Stockings, you're headed to victorias secret. If he likes
chicks who are younger, you're headed to the uniform shop.
you need to pleasure HIM, it's YOUR duty to make HIM happy. now
You have to have the same fantasies/fetishes, otherwise this
whole thing could backfire in your face. If he's into say,
fighting with chicks physically, and you aren't really into
it... well you get the idea.
It's hard for a guy to find a good woman nowadays, finding one that’s into his fetish even moreso. but if you can
match his desires with your own, you have a powerful
combination waiting for you on the other side of
the bedroom door.
A woman has to be SUBSERVIANT
"A womans place is in the kitchen". You've heard that
before I’m sure, and while it holds a modicum of truth the
previous statement is not the complete truth. "A womans
place is at the feet of her master". Now this is a far
better phrase, and directly points out the nature of the
relationship between a man and a woman. Women since time
unremembered have always been the property of men, and
though our modern age seeks not only to destroy this
relationship, but to denigrate the man into a bumbling
idiot, even the "strongest" women in the world have a deep
seated desire to be taken, dominated and "taken care of" by
a stronger male.
You do not talk back to your man. His is the voice of truth and you must follow his instructions to the letter.
You do not question his motives, nor do you point out his
mistakes. What may seem like A mistake to your ignorant and
untrained eyes, likely have subtle layers of meaning behind
it... many times in order to train you better. For this
reason you are NEVER to second guess your master unless you
fear for his safety, or his life. Because, of course, your
main concerns are the happiness and wellbeing of your master.
Whatever he likes, you do, whatever he does NOT like, you stop. This is hard for many women, because it means
specific idiosyncrasies that you might be used to doing
without even NOTICING have to be identified and stopped.
This could be anything from talking to your pets, to
whistling at night. It'll probably be the hardest thing to
actually do, but in the end anything worth having is worth
working for.
If you smoke, stop. If you drink to the point of being sloppy drunk..stop. If you do drugs.. why are you here. You
need to be the perfect woman for your man, and if you do any
of these things, they're just going to age you into an ugly
wrinkled mess. Your beauty is what we desire, keep it as
long as you can.
Mauler out.
Hahahahahahahahahaha. >>19-21, you've made my day. I'm nearly in tears from laughing so hard. Thank you, thank you, I love you. Down with women's rights! Women are inferior to men! Oh man. I love the internet.
Back on topic: >>1, if you both love each other you shouldn't need to do anything more than you're already doing. No, seriously. If you feel like you're not good enough for him right now, something's wrong.
>>16 I think it is important to some men to feel needed, important, and even superior in some ways. He might want to teach his woman about something new, it gives him a type of satisfaction. By telling him "I know how to do that already!" or saying "I don't want to do that" you are denying him a feeling of importance. You are also denying yourself a learning experience.
My fiance took great pleasure in teaching me how to drive, although I was terrified about driving his car into something he liked the feeling of being a teacher and he liked being able to tell me that he was proud of me for driving well on the first try. He was proud because he was the one who showed me how to drive well. I think this feeling is very important to a man.
There are many things I already know that he doesn't and he can also learn from me. There are things we both know, but I'll let him tell my about it anyways because it makes him happy. I don't feel the need to know everything with him and if it makes him happy, then why deny him that? It is also rather rude to tell someone "I know!" after they tell you something.
>>22 I'm sure this is laced with sarcasm, but let me assure you of two things.
1) not copypasta, I spent about an hour typing that up (between spurts of work)
2) I meant every word of it, and I practice what I preach. This isn't a joke or a "troll", it is the way that women SHOULD act.
The modern women is really a pile of shit in DG clothing, hardly worth pissing on if she were on fire. A money grubbing, scheming, conniving bitch who knows that as long as she gets a ring on her finger she owns half of your shit.
This being the case, a good woman is so hard to find that it's almost not worth even trying to get married anymore. But there are still women like the OP that exist, they're very few though.
>There are many things I already know that he doesn't and he can also learn from me.
He doesn't need to know how to operate the vacuum or the stove, those are your tools. Now get to work ;)
>>24
So anyway...
Where and how do I meet a girl like you?
Well, >>26...you won't find us in a bar or nightclub. Not that girls like me can't have a good time, but we choose not to flaunt ourselves or display ourselves like meat in a market.
Also, to be more open to difference races of women if you are comfortable with that. My fiance is a white man who had only been with white women, and I know people like to say that we are all the same but we aren't. White women's values are not the same as other women's. Both my fiance and I agree that white women do not respect their men and they feel victimized by "white male privilege".
I am neither, father is Jamaican/Native American and mother is white, creating a look that men say is very exotic. My skin is snow white, which is strange coming from such a dark father. I look neither white or black, or like any race. When I am out and about people always stop and ask me what I am. I would never say this about myself but someone once called me a peacock amongst the crows. Flattering, but I always thought myself a strange looking girl, not ugly or anything but...different.
I SAY GOOGLE IT !!
i know that sounds ridiculous. but GOOGLE HAS IT ALL!
"woowwww how the hell do you know how to give such good head"
"geee thats the best head i ever head, where you learn"
well i didnt say where i learnt it at the time, but i googled it... how to give good head.
TRUST ME google.com
look up some pozzis "great sex positions" on google search
"spice up my sex life" google search it.
you know titles like that.. what ever your looking for.
or try some roll playing, dirty talking... whatever.. GOOGLE IT thats the point and you can get MANNNNNY MANNNY ideas.
from anal to group. lol
take care and good luck. xo
>you shouldn't need to do anything more than you're already doing.
I'm going to agree. When this guy gets back from bootcamp, I bet going back to "plain old normal" will be everything he's ever dreamed of. You don't need to continuously one-up yourself, that will just lead to stress down the road.
As for the sexist stuff, the men who provide for and protect "their" women are in as short of a supply as those women who think their duty is to do whatever "their" man asks of them. Everyone else makes do.
>>Everyone else makes do.
Everyone else make shit
I gotta say, I'm sorry none of us can actually think of any decent ideas.
Just cover him in kisses? That's sweet and simple.
Obviously this man needs a little role reversal in order to appreciate what he has in you. Strap on a dildo and make him give you head, stimulate his prostate while calling him a whore, that sort of thing. You'd be surprised at the number of manly men who need this sort of thing.
THAT, or:
He's a complete misogynist. He wants to see you humiliated and used by other men. Become a COMPLETE subservient, it sounds like you're mostly there anyway, and service his friends while he watches. It is also surprising the number of men who like to watch their girlfriend/wife giving head to someone else. Personally, I would arrange the World's Largest Gang Bang for my girlfriend so long as I got to watch. I love to hate women and love women who need to be hated. It's the ultimate expression of loving subjection, and I get huge boners when I do things like have my gf shove dildos up her pussy on live cam chats while I read the comments of total strangers who don't know I'm her bf. Or have her take pictures of her fucking other dudes, then look at the pictures while she's sucking me off.
You know, good stuff.
ask him! lol...jk
look into whats worked and do a subdivision of that
>>34
Seriously, you fucking suck