You know those Japanese or Korean TV dramas? Where a girl has pale skin, dyed hair with bangs, big round eyes, etc.? And plays the role of some innocent/happy girl in the drama? Well, I kinda look like that (not on purpose).
The problem started a few years back, when Korean/Japanese dramas got really popular. All of a sudden, I got asked out a LOT. I mean, A LOT. I never got asked out before when I was in high school. So after high school, I didn't know how to handle it. I thought it was only my paranoia at first, but even my friends would make random comments on it:
"Eyes like her's aren't really common on this side of the pond."
"She looks like she could be Korean or Japanese ya know."
And one guy who I was kinda interested in, commented behind my back to my friend, "I like her a lot. I don't know... She just looks like the perfect asian girl!" (Yes, he actually said that.)
I feel that, a lot of guys ask me out because of what I look like. They don't really listen when I talk to them. Or they don't really care what I have to say. For a few dates, I was really mean to them as well, and they still called me back...!! I gave up after a while, and just stayed away from guys. It became a fear.
I didn't actually get my first kiss till this year, with my first boyfriend. It was fine at first, and he never pressured me into doing anything I didn't want to do. But he went away for college, and I tried to keep the relationship intact. But I notice that he never calls me. He never calls anyone, but I figured that if he could say "I Love You" to me, he'd call maybe once a week at least? And the few days I went to visit him, I felt that he was trying really hard to get me to sleep with him. I would try to talk to him, but he'd say I'm really childish. He barely spoke to me during the visits, but would give full attention when trying to get under my shirt. That trip didn't make me feel great at all. And after I got home, he just didn't call. I'm SO scared that he's only with me, because of how I look. I realize that we really have nothing in common. And he really does not have anything to say to me.
I scared that I'm going to keep attracting guys that only want this look, but not ME.
Has this happened to anyone else? Anything I can do?
As I can see it, probably the one that has to look for a man is you. I mean, don't reject those wo likes your look, but find someone don't watch TV :P
And probably you need to be grateful you get aware of that "little" problem.
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> You know those Japanese or Korean TV dramas? Where a girl has pale skin, dyed hair with bangs, big round eyes, etc.? And plays the role of some innocent/happy girl in the drama? Well, I kinda look like that.
Go out with me? If we're both on 4-ch, we at least have one other thing in common already.
Geh. Why are you complaining?
"It's so hard being pretty.." Please. Don't whinge about the gifts that you are endowed with. It just means you have more choice. If you have the smarts to match your look, you will quickly learn the difference between shallow and genuine guys. Take a step back and look at how he interacts with other people. That should give you clues to his real nature.
Same opinion,... You have more choice, but are faced with the same problem as anyone else: Is your partner with you for his sake or for you? The answer is always a mix, but not always an healthy mix.
So you need to get more experience at evaluating others and act accordingly: if your current relationship does not satisfy you, terminate it, so that you can start another one.
And next time, make sure you have more interests in common that you can share. It's ok for someone to be with you because he likes your looks, but it's not ok if it's the only thing that keeps you together.
It's not very hard to distinguish both situations: if your boyfriend shares with you his feelings and ideas (not only about you, but about what's important to him), and is willing to do stuff with you, asks questions about what you are doing, and what are your opinions on different subjects, you are well off.
If he interacts little with you, does not implicate you in his life, and has little curiosity about you, except the sex part, then I guess all the red flags are up, and you just need to move on.
It's a sad truth of life, and it's good you're realizing it now. No matter what men might say, they really only want you for your looks.
>>1
You suck.
"OMG, so many guys want to go out with me! Oh no, whatever will I do?"
I'm sure that not every one of them were in it just because of your looks. Sure, looks factor in (even for me), but they aren't everything. I'm sure you pissed off guys who actually liked you as a person.
For the most part, I guess I have to agree with >>4 and >>5.
uuuu ;_; I wish I knew more girls like you.
So anyway, yeah. You say you /look/ like a TV drama star, but do you act like one too? If this is causing you serious trouble, you may want to change your image and attitude (as a last resort)
Now, if you'll excuse my Dr. Phil impression, you should say to yourself, "I deserve someone who'll respect me for who I am."
Don't accept every invitation for a date. Get to know the guys beforehand. The good ones listen to you, let you know a little about their lives, keep their promises, and are genuinely curious about YOU, the person.
What do you expect from other people?
It's looks first and character second with everyone. I bet you're not different. You'd also rather date someone good-looking and then check if he's got a nice character.
you're an attractive woman
take advantage of it to have as much wild sex as you possible can until you turn about 28 when you'll be old and ugly and your pussy wont get wet anymore
you're an attractive woman
take advantage of it to have as much wild sex as you possible can until you turn about 28 when you'll be old and ugly and your pussy wont get wet anymore
Apparently the menopause now starts at 28. Another triumph for humanity.
My mom says " I love goats "
if you're looking to fish for compliments, I'm sorry to say that you've found the wrong place.
This thread is a good example of how much the internet is scared of trolls now a days.
also, why the hell did you bump a 2 year old thread >:(