A few months back I met a guy (Mike) through X-Box Live and we clicked right away. We would play games and be in videochats for hours on ends and still wouldn't run out of things to say to each other. Recently though he invited me to move in with him and one of his friends that he lives with (Chris). I almost took that offer if Chris hadn't told me that Mike had just recently come out of a divorce literally days before we met. I really like Mike and I know he likes me, but should I really move in with him or should I keep my distance. I need some advice T^T
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Have you ever been on a date with this guy? You've at least met him face to face, in real life, right?
I would wait a long time before moving in with someone. That's one of the last things you do in a new relationship. At the very least, sleep over a few times before you decide to become his live-in girlfriend.
I have met him before. He actually flew me out to visit him over valentines for a week. The thing is, after I found out he had just come out of a relationship before we met makes me kinda feel like I'm a re-bound girl 4 him.
You ARE a rebound girl, and all he wants you for is sex and to keep him from being so ronery. I don't know how you could even remotely consider moving in with a guy who just got divorced, and have only known for a short time. Are you that desperate? Forget this guy and find someone emotionally stable.
I agree that you are a rebound girl, but disagree you should forget him completely.
It sounds like probably there is something special between you two, but only time will tell. You don't want to ruin it by rushing into a full on rebound relationship with moving in with him and everything. I think the best thing to do would be to continue the relationship from a distance, and if things are still so good in a few months, THEN think about moving in with him.
>>5
So who else dates except for company and sex? Is there something else about relationships that I should know about?
>>6
I think I'll follow ur advice and keep my distance 4 now...I do want things to work out between me and him because thereis something special between us...so yeah...I'll keep it a long distance relationship then eventually move in with him...THANXS ^_^
>>7 money I guess.
I suspect a very large age gap between Mike and OP, and if my suspicions are correct... yeah, just be friends.
>>10
yeah there is a bit of an age gap between us...but i don't consider 5 years a huge age differance for that matter...he's actually 24 now...i don't think its that much of a differance but my friends and familiy say otherwise
That's practically no difference imo.
Don't move in with him yet.
It's way too early to do that. Have you slept over, or even been to his house before (it sounds like long distance, that's why I'm asking)?
That sounds long distance, which is bad.
Additionally, it depends on what game you were playing... if it's a console FPS I'll have to say hell no, don't move in with him (it's a sign of bad judgment; those shouldn't be played on a console).
Not to mention, if Chris had to warn you about his divorce days before your meeting... something seems off about that.
To be perfectly serious, all of that sounds like a really bad idea.
>>13
I have been over to his house...he brought me out to his place for about a week to celebrate valentines...i thought it was pretty sweet...strangly enough though...he said that if i felt unsure about sleeping in his house that he would be more then willing to pay for a hotel room for the rest of my visit...i think he just got tired of sleeping on the couch cuz I stole his bed ^.^
>>14
sorry...i missed this one...I knew that he had come out of a rocky relationship B4 i met him but i never knew it was that grand...i figured it was a long relationship like a 3 or 4 year one but not marriage...everytime i asked it or hinted i was curious about it he'd always say something like "Don't worry about it" or "Maybe someday"...I could tell it made him uneasy whenever we got onto that topic so i never really pressed the issue...when i found out that he got divorced and he met me thats when i felt like a rebound girl...i don't really wanna give up on him so all i can really do is keep trying right.
And whats wrong with consol FPS...
>To be perfectly serious, all of that sounds like a really bad idea.
Yep.
Unless you enjoy being trapped in a bad relationship.