So me and my best friend have been friends for 7 or 8 years now. We have alot of fun together and have our own unique sense of humor. She has a bf shes been with off and on for a few years now. No telling the exact amount of time, they fight argue she crys and they break up all the time. Recently we started fucking around and we eventually had sex while she is currently with her BF. Me and her kinda a crush (no sex)a year or 2 ago also since which i have been in love with her. Did not keep me from dating and having other girlfriends seeing as she had one herself. She has never cheated on her boyfriend before. The first time was with me last week, she said after this we have to stop. She said she is very attracted to me and likes me alot and that she loves me. So basicly it stopped after our night of sex. Now im stuck feeling shitty and in love again. She said she wants to stop but she still constantly flirts and wants to come stay the night cuddle and watch movies. So im confused on what to do, i am deeply in love with her she already knows it, we are bestfriends. Basicly i do everything for her cause her bf is an asshole, i just have no idea what to do.
have a talk with her and just ask if she wants to be with you, if she said yes then great simple. only when she says no because of this and that, then you got a problem.
She tells me she wants to be with me but she loves her BF. I just dont get if she completely loves him so much that she would cheat on him with me. She told me i would treat her better she knows also.
Lastnight we went to the bar, i hadnt seen her in 2 days either. which is unusual cause we see eachother daily. But her bf is going out of town for a week so i figure she wanted to spent time with him and try to think out what happend between us. Well lastnight at the bar we were talking and i thought we would never speak of the night we had again but she wouldnt let it drop it was actually starting to piss me off cause she knows howmuch it hurts not to be with her. Anyway she was like ur too nice to me i like assholes or some shit. Which completely pisses me off i almost snapped and the only reason im so nice to her is cause her life is so shitty now and she get enough greif from her BF. So i kept my mouth shut. Well her BF is now out of town for the week and she wants to come stay the night and watch movies and such.
which is how all of this started int he first place.
if you really like her, i think you should make her choose between you and the bf, if not in the end you are going to end up getting hurt.
if she chooses bf, then at least you know you position and still be friends.
anyway what she's doing is two-timing, if she could do this to current bf and you end up together, high chance she would do the same thing to you. dont think that because its 'you', she wont cheat. think about it.
I like >>6
He uses persuasive ultimatums and doesn't afraid of anything.
Just use this: Picture her with her BF's s cock in her mouth,say..in the afternoon and that evening she goes to you and you kiss her on her mouth. Get it?
Go with >>6
She likes you because you are a constant in her life. She loves her BF, but gets tired of him. So she USES you as a sort of breathe of fresh air from her asshole BF. You should be pissed off at both of them. Him for being an asshole and her for using you.
i agree with >>10
be a man and say no to her flirting, it doesnt sound like shes the kind of girl you can trust, dont let her use you. Its fair enough that you have feelings for her because you are friends, but dont let that cloud your judgement
You guys give horrible advice.
If you like this girl, and she likes to spend time with you, then spend time together, what's the problem?
Do you just want sex? Why force exclusivity on both of you?
If you really really want her, enginneer a breakup between her and her boyfriend, if not then just stay a cuddle buddy, but then constantly pressure her for sex. That way she'll be forced to choose.
Don't listen to Taler. If you engineer a break up and she finds out, then you are fucked.
Taler, I think you give horrible advice. If he likes her romantically, he can't "just spend time with her" without more complex emotions getting involved, especially if she's responding romantically. What she's doing is cheating on her boyfriend with him. If OP can handle being the "other man" that's all fine and well, but I don't think I could handle doing that to somebody, nevermind that it wouldn't be fair to me.
I mean, if he feels in love with her, and she says she "loves" him, then clearly it's not "just sex." Unless you believe that she's allowed to "love" two people at the same time...
Anyway, constantly pressuring her for sex will probably drive her away/make OP look like an ass (which may work, hey, since bf is apparently an ass as well.) Engineering a breakup would be horrible, as well.
OP, I think you need to make her choose, either you or her bf. This limbo is not fair to anyone involved.
Make her choose, unless you like threesomes.
You still haven't decided yet? Jeezes..THE COCK in her mouth, THE COCK!!