>>8 is completely right. Ever hear the saying true love is patient? I know of a girl who met a guy online and just like you, SHE went to see him. She ended up getting pregnant and hes turning up to be a complete deadbeat who doesn't want to get a job.

Now I don't believe in online relationships, maybe only in the case if it was local. And your story reaffirms what I feel. This is going to get long, but bare with me please.

I feel OP that since you've never had a relationship before you desperately want this to work. I understand how that feels! But you've got to see through this guy's bullsh*t! He's already saying he wants to pull you away from your life.... when in truth a relationship should add to your life, not just him or everyone else. Also he's giving you an ultimatum. That isn't fair at all, why won't he come to see you?

And as much time you've chatted and talked on the phone, YOU DON'T KNOW HIM. His true colors are already showing and being alone in a different country with him does not sound smart. If he was a real man, he would be saving to see you. Cut him off.