Female, hetero.
When I was new to love and sex, I wanted a guy similiar to the girl you described, >>1. Nice, caring, not-threatening.
But when you gain some experience, you start to look for more challenging companions ;)

So, atm I'm in a relationship with a guy who resembles most of the features I like in men.
Personality: independent, self-confident. A little bit of a chauvinist attitude is fine, I'm really misogynistic myself.
He has to share my sense of humor, which means laughing at little children hurting themselves and calling movies like "Saw" and "Hostel" comedy.
He should be smart and interested in politics, knowledge about IT and mechanics in general is a big plus. Not afraid of written words and culture.
Being smarter than the majority and knowing it, thus acting like an asshole = teh sex
(Being stupid, but thinking you are great and acting like you are better than people around you = total failure)

Looks: doesn't really matter. He should be taller and stronger than me. A big belly is sexy <3
(Like Obelix, you know? ^^ Strong and big)

I'd like him to toss me around sometimes, not being too understanding, but with enough common sense and social skills to keep me interested and realise the really important things and critical situations in a relationship.

Asshole on the outside / reasonable, mature man on the inside.