Guys, what do you think of these? Is it possible to fall in love with someone you've never met? I've been talking to someone OL for over two years now and I find myself thinking about them all the time. I think they feel the same but I've proposed meeting them once to a group thing and they never turned up even though they expressed an interest in doing so.
Am I fooling myself?
they can work. if theres a big distance its not likely though
I know someone who met his (now ex) wife that way, so these relationships can work. Odds are he/she is a chronically depressed hikki though, so I wouldn't get your hopes up.
OP here. The distance isn't that great but I'm in a relationship I'm not happy in and trying to get out of and that's causing me a lot of anguish too. I think about this person all the time to the point I'm worried although I don't feel messed up in any way (fooling myself I know). I'm so confused tho' because he seems to want to talk to me and he gets upset if we have a disagreement or don't talk for a while. Every sign seems to indicate interest but I'm very, very confused about him not wanting to meet me when he had the chance..... I don't want to marry him or anything but it's strange to me and it really gets me down.
Apologies if I seem emo-ish. I'm confused and maybe emotionally all over the place too right now. I don't have anyone to talk about it with. The few friends I have don't know I go online and I can't even begin to explain to them about this guy.
OP, I'd warn you that if you're in a bad relationship you'll be emotionally compromised and unable to evaluate this new internet guy properly. As to him not meeting you, did you ask him about it? He might have been busy. On the other hand, if it turns out he's so shy he doesn't want to go outside that doesn't bode well.
>>5
OP again. No, you're right and I understand that. I didn't want it to go anywhere necessarily but I wanted to meet him y'know just to see and also to kind of make the relationship we have real. I asked him about it and we didn't talk long and he just said he'd had bad experiences meeting people before but didn't have a problem meeting me. When I raised again the possibility of another group thing in a very roundabout way, he said that the town he lived in wasn't worth visiting.
I don't know :(. Maybe he just wants to keep it an online thing but that depresses me.
>>When I raised again the possibility of another group thing in a very roundabout way, he said that the town he lived in wasn't worth visiting.
I'm not the type to date online (or at all, really), but speaking as one of the shut-in types that >>5 was warning about, I'd say this comment by your new beau doesn't bode well.
>>7
OP again. I agree. I've been thinking about it alot and I think maybe I am fooling myself. Maybe he just really likes talking to me but that's it. I can understand him not meeting me first time round but when the possibilty for another opportunity came up two days after we discussed it and he still turned it down, I think it's pretty clear he's not interested like that. I feel so miserable and stupid. Thanks iichan.
>>4
all i can say is, leave your man before even talking about liking this other guy.
i was on the other end of this and got hurt. you probably don't want to hurt your boyfriend.
are not real
your heart people steal but identities conceal
so here's a tale of warning for girls and boys
laptop computers can be dangerous toys
OP: I love you.
Bear my children.
(but srsly, you sound like a pretty cool person. I think you might have a lack of self-confidence. Just work on improving it and it will help you in the long run, whether it be with future relationships or this one.)
OP again. I thought about this all day. I didn't realize until I wrote it out how strange it is. I know I need to sort out my own relationship first, that's right. I wasn't trying to make it a replacement but more wanted to take it offline at the least because this person has come to mean alot to me. But if he really liked me he'd make the effort, if he got the opportunity handed to him on a plate then he'd jump at the chance. So I guess I know the answer. The difficulty for me now is in removing myself from him completely because it's too hurtful otherwise but I also don't want to be mean to him. I dug myself quite a hole and I'm ashamed of myself too. Thanks again iichan. It's good to talk and I appreciate your time.
Sorry to go off subject here, but how the hell does one have an online relationshi completely based on email exchange? How do you keep the conversation going? It seems likes once the basic exchange of likes/interests, things would seem to fizzle...
If you're in love, that isn't much of a problem.
Of course, there is the question of how it starts off.. All that comes to mind is through interaction in a synthetic environment, ie. MMORPGs.
Uh I'm not to uptodate on all internet lingo. MMORPGs? Huh? A type of role playing game?
Yes, of the massively multiplayer online variety.
Sometimes referred to as a "persistent state" game. In an MMORPG, the game continues even after you close out to go do something else. The game world is always active and always changing.
Honestly, I think Internet love is pretty pure.
You fall in love with how the person is, not how they look or sound, etc.
I was in an Internet relationship for two years, and really the only problem is there's no psychical contact. You cant hold or kiss the person. You cant take them out to dinner or the movies.. Im now in an actual relationship with a local guy and its much much better, for me anyways.
If you're up to it, go ahead!
Players talk with one another most commonly through in-game text based chat mediums. They can also join guilds with other players, fight against other players, and in some games even marry another player.
I just want to remind you that you should be careful. People are different in real life, then they are online.