Guy friend or more? (33)

1 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-07-28 23:54 ID:jdxY8V60

I have this guy friend, we've been friends for a year or two, but we've known each other for about 6 years. We were in band together. He's a very nice guy, great friend, into video games like me. We get along well. I used to have a crush on him, but I found out (about a year ago) that he viewed me as just "one of the guys" and that I "wasn't his type".

I'm not sure if that has changed recently. He's moved to the town that I go to college in, and we've hung out and had fun.

How do I know if he likes me or just views me as a friend? I've sensed some sort of shift in his feelings, I just can't pinpoint what they are.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-29 00:03 ID:q4vzL0FU

Go on a date.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-29 00:05 ID:Bi/d1ZWj

Need moar details OP. Waht does he do that's different?

4 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-07-29 00:23 ID:jdxY8V60

He seems more open, more friendly. He's also more interested in hanging out.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-29 00:36 ID:Bi/d1ZWj

Ask him on a date then. Somewhere where it doesn't seem like a 'date' but it's you two together. Things should develop from there.

6 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-07-29 00:50 ID:jdxY8V60

I hope so. At least then I'll hopefully know where I stand, lol

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-29 01:03 ID:wcm5o8DT

Ugh, be careful about this stuff. There was a guy who I was best friends with for a couple years, you hardly saw him without me. I wanted to date him for awhile but eventually moved on because I was "one of the guys." As of recently, he starts fights with me every time he sees me. Everything changed for, as far as I can tell, no reason at all.

Be careful...

8 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-07-29 23:21 ID:jdxY8V60

Will do. I'm entering unknown territory, lol

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-01 18:55 ID:e+UGO4jj

Stick it in his pooper.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-01 19:10 ID:Heaven

>>4

> He's also more interested in hanging out.

Hate to say it, but maybe that's because ...

> He's moved to the town that I go to college in

And he doesn't know many other people?

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-02 14:05 ID:Heaven

>>10
You're probably right, but that also gives her a good reason to draw him in her nests.

12 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-08-04 02:25 ID:jdxY8V60

He became more interested in hanging out before he moved. He might have just wanted to form a bond to take with him when he moved. I don't know.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-04 11:08 ID:bSlwnmYo

>>12
Don't overthink what he was up to - just use the opportunity you're given and seduce him!

14 Name: Casiodorus : 2008-08-12 23:21 ID:27c2R3iS

Fuck his brains out!

15 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-08-13 01:16 ID:jdxY8V60

I would seduce him, but I have no idea how to seduce a guy, lol

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-13 02:37 ID:2iFNdLkn

Use your charm points my dear...winks!

17 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-08-13 20:17 ID:jdxY8V60

I see. I'll have to be careful, never seduced anyone before. That, and I've no idea how he feels about me

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-13 22:17 ID:szni6zZh

>>17

seducing guys in 3 steps (I'm a guy, but 50% gay if that helps you)

-1 be friends (you got this already)
-2 date each other (just have some private time with each other, can be you and him going to the arcade halls, or having a dine at a restaurant, up to what he and you like)
-3 start dropping pencils (as in, show that you are interested in him, depending on what kind of guy he is you can make funny and sexually arousing remarks (works on 99% of the guys if you do it subtle)

19 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-08-14 02:09 ID:jdxY8V60

>>18

takes notes uh huh, thanks. I'll work on my subtleness. I'm the type of person who tends to just blurt out what they're thinking when they're nervous.

20 Name: Casiodorus : 2008-08-15 19:45 ID:27c2R3iS

Then just blurt out "Hey, I like you a lot. Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" Well, maybe not that bluntly but close to it!

21 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-08-18 01:14 ID:jdxY8V60

>>20

Haha, well, I wasn't thinking that bluntly, but close. Something along the lines of "I know we're friends, but just how do you see me? A friend? More? I'd like to know where I stand." Your thoughts?

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-18 03:11 ID:kL+I3yzL

>>21
That's good imo. Straightforward without sounding desperate. Also, not totally giving you away - he might just think you suspect him to like you and want to know; in fact he might end up telling you himself.

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-19 13:05 ID:27c2R3iS

yeah let us know how it goes and if you have any questions dont be shy- this isnt btard 4chan. however,if its your first time having sex id ask /sexual some questions too

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-19 13:08 ID:27c2R3iS

dont forget to shave "down there"! it's annoying having to venture through a forest to get to "the prize". ;)

25 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-08-20 00:47 ID:BT7eW+yx

>>23 >>24

Ha, I'm not looking to sleep with him, but thanks for the help. Right now I'm just focusing on dating him

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 21:06 ID:DCihlL/T

>>25

dating eventually leads somewhere so it doesnt hurt to be prepared :)

but if your focus is dating him and you already know him as a friend. as a guy id recommend you lightly flirt with him. guys are dense, so dont think its gonna be instant. but eventually, he'll see you as a female. and when he starts to then you can make your move.

but moving from the friend zone is kinda hard. but its simple to find out when he likes by looking at the people he looks at when you walk with him. maybe you have the personality but you dont dress the part.

whats your wardobe like and when you 2 are together what does he normally wear?

27 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-08-20 22:14 ID:BT7eW+yx

>>26

I usually wear casual clothes, a pair of jeans and a t-shirt. He usually does the same, or sometimes a collared shirt

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-21 05:28 ID:xGf22mOu

>>27

ok well lets take this slow. we're not in a rush

why dont you try wearing something different around him and see his reaction. instead of something casual why dont you wear a tank top and skirt with flip flops or wedges depending on the weather.
see what he says when he sees you
ask him for his opinion if you look good in them. if he says yes then you know to stay with that look if you want him to be attracted to you.
if he asks why the change in your dressing then say you just felt like switching it up. and see if you catch him checking you out throughout the day. if you catch him checking you out, call him on it in a flirty, friendly way and see if he blushes

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-28 01:22 ID:27c2R3iS

don't forget to wear clothes that show off your...assets. (breasts, ass, legs, whatever he may be into)

30 Name: Twizzler : 2008-09-07 22:25 ID:5JDklWYb

So, Carla (fullmetalpeaches), this is Kevin.

To the regular members of this part of the 'verse - I am not joking when I say who I am is the one she wants. Normally, I am not this diplomatic or awkward, but through the Internets various magical wonder, I have found out about this place.
I am tired from last nights football game and doing shitloads of homework, so bear with me - I do not troll.

Lets get down to it: Carla, just talk to me on msn; you have it and you are on right now. Just ask me.

btw; how to seduce a guy in one easy step:
>>20

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-07 22:47 ID:Heaven

Kevin you're doing it wrong

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-08 00:37 ID:Heaven

The plot thickens... o_o

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-08 07:44 ID:Heaven

This incursion of identity into my haven of anonymity scares and confuses me.

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