the other night my best friend admitted for falling for the same girl as me, and he knew clearly that i've been holding my affections for her for some time now. i'm not exactly an open guy, im fine with being around girls and talking to them, but going further and establishing a relationship with one has always been an extremely difficult subject for me. im really self-critical and insecure of my ability to actually be a decent boyfriend.
actually ive been attracted to this girl since high school now, but another friend of mines was her boyfriend since then and only recently broke up with her because of cheating. as for my best friend, this is not the first time we've fallen for the same girl. a few months back he was going out with a girl i met in my first semester of college whom i had finally gained confidence to talk with her comfortably, i held back and didnt say anything that time and before i knew it, i introduced the two to each other and one thing happened after another.
unfortunately not long after that they broke up on a major holiday and i was the one who had to pick up the pieces of my friends broken heart. i swear to god he was a mopey bitch for the longest time. then just last night, long after i talked to him on the subject of the current girl he comes up to me and confesses that he likes her too, knowing all too well that we're going to be rivals in this.
at this rate im starting to stress out. i have this undying loyalty to all my friends, and when its put in a situation like this i have no idea what to do. all i know is that if i do or do not end up dating this girl is that my life may change forever. in the next year or so i plan on moving away to transfer to another college, and ill have to be away from her. on the other hand if i do actually end up with her i might just change my plans and stick with her. but if things go wrong and they end up dating i dont think i could stand to be around the two of them without feeling resentment and jealousy.
as for the girl herself, we're pretty good friends too. but she works with my best friend at the same job. so that does absolutely nothing to help me in this situation. maybe im just a fucking idiot, but i also have that stereotypical conflict where im afraid to see what happens when i confess and she declines only to make our current friendship awkward, and to be perfectly honest i've seen that shit happen way too many times to even count.
so yeah here i am, wondering what the fuck i'm gonna do. and if im gonna do something, it better be done soon, at least thats how i feel on the subject.
Tell him about your feelings of loyalty. If need be, neither of you should make a move.
Whatever you do, talk about it.
I've been in love with a girl, and two of my friends went out with her. The first one talked with me longly about that, and I hold no grudge against him.
The other one just seduced her without even talking to me about it, when all my other friends warned him that i had a crush on her. I'm really having a hard time even facing him now.
And as the blunt proverb says: bros before hoes.
wow, you know i cant believe i forgot that line.
yeah now that i think about it i've been so selfish this entire time, its harsh but ive come to understand that love comes and goes like the seasons, if bad shit goes down theres always another time.
well in any case i suppose ill have a talk and see if the results turn out well.