in love and lost (7)

1 Name: confused : 2008-10-09 03:46 ID:4omCuih8

I’ve recently fallen in love with a girl that I used to go to collage with. She is going to school about two hours away. When I asked her to go out with me she said that she did no want to do anything while we are so far apart but that I was sweet and she did want to see me again when she was back in town. I have managed to stay in contact with her but it is so confusing. Some times it most of the time we get along very well and talk openly but some times she seems like she isn’t interested in talking to me. She I know she isn’t stringing me along because she isn’t that type of person but I am constantly terrified that I am going to mess things up. I go from feeling like king of the world to feeling like I am in a war zone. I know I will see her again by winter at the latest but I am so uneasy. What should I do?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-09 03:50 ID:469MRAsH

Get with an other girl. This will make her realize how much she loved you, or make her jealous.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-09 06:35 ID:tg8bVLlJ

I think she was pretty clear. You have to be closer before she considers a relationship

4 Name: confused : 2008-10-09 10:28 ID:4omCuih8

2> I don’t thank that’s a good idea. She had trust issues in her last relationship.

3> I do realize that we can’t have a romantic relationship until she is closer and I’ve let her know I’m wiling to wait. Do you think that she is afraid I’m trying to push a relationship? I actually care about her and I don’t want to pressure her.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-09 10:37 ID:HizIU9Ad

>>4

Well,... a relationship on the cusp of happening but which in fact cannot be realized is for sure a confusing and ambiguous situation, so both your feelings and her behavior are understandable.

She did not flatly reject you, and that's a positive point. I guess your best hope is to deepen your relationship with her (get to know her better, spend good times with her) while being careful not to cross a subtle line (you don't want to come across as demanding an official relationship with her, but you do want to be seen as a special person for her).

So what you need to do is pretty clear, but not always easy to do.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-09 15:58 ID:FnUfCrwD

Abort ship, this will end badly. All the blabla here is wrong, she's just a bitch. I BET she has someone she's been seeing or someone she likes..you are just a backup plan.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-10 05:45 ID:Vj4f8fH6

>>6
I don't want to sound like a dick, but this poster is right. And I can say this from personal experience. Best to start the recovery process now, as hopeless and depressing as it may seem.

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