I'm a guy and yes there is a girl involved. In my eyes shes extremely beautiful, and for once she matches all the criteria my parents try to impose on me when finding a potential girl friend. Dont get me wrong I really dont care what my backward parents think but I figure it would be nice to not get yelled at. In short she meets me and my parents expectations in so many facets. Now at first we werent even on an a talking basis.. actually she had no idea I existed. She was just some girl I saw on the bus, at the cafe, and even at the mall. Fast forward to now not much has changed as I have only talked to her maybe 3 times over a 1 month span. Despite this I have always had her on my mind and just recently I have garnered up enough courage to really socialize with her. And yesterday is where it seemed to all have gone wrong.
Initially whenever we conversed all I brought up was how crowded the theatre was.. or how good her friend was at dance dance revolution.. and what movie she was seeing. And pretty much all I got out of these lame attempts was her first name so naturally I decided to do some facebook lurking. Her friends page matched exactly the crowd she was with whenever I saw her.. mostly girls her age somewhat obese, and definitely not as attractive as her. I also happened to notice a feminine guy friend or two who always stared at me weird whenever I talked to her. Not in a straight way either. Anyways I took note of the school she went to and contacted some friends from the same school to meet up with me (I didnt tell them that I liked her). Well I ended going with them and she ended up being in the same place. My friends knew her and I took note of how they acted around her. Normally these guys are the type who cant help themselves and flirt with any girl around however I noticed they only greeted her and made small talk. So I thought maybe for once they acknowledged there actually is a girl out of their "league" so to speak and didnt bother trying to hook up with her. Fine with me I thought.
I shrug the whole situation off and tell myself atleast I am friends with people who are in the same social circle with her.. progress can be made. I waste some time going around with my friend, and ended up buying a ton of crap. Mall starts closing down, and I am going down an escalator with my buddy. There she is at the bottom with her incredibly tomboyish friends waiting for the elevator. I wave at her and she just looks at me however she dosent wave back. So I look at her through the crowd around her and see her hand is being held by what seemed to be a guy with hip hop clothes and a pair of boobs. Everything that had to do with her rushed through my head. All the times I talked to her while she waited for her manly looking girlfriend playing ddr. The same New Era hat/Sean John/ Nike air wearing dike-a-thon that seem to be crowding around her. Meh calm down dude its probably a relative I tell myself. Forget the sophisticated form fitting clothes this girl normally wears she was wearing some giant ass hoody over the everything that looked like it belonged to one of her dike buddies. Holy fuck I thought.
When I got home I struggled through all my newfound rage for lesbians (no longer present) and life's blatant unfairness and managed to turn on my pc. Her picture graced the screen and illuminated my room. I noticed something again.. the way her head tilded.. it displayed her right ear very very convieniently. On that right ear was two very nicely placed diamond earrings, and no earrings on the left ear. For the whole night all that went through my head was the stupid generalization I heard in grade 3 that if someone wore single earrings only on the right side it meant they were gay.
Anyways heres the cliche part: Am I freaking myself out? Should I even bother?
If she's lesbian oi bi, the friends at her school must know about this no? Kinda weird though if they didn't, would explain why they didn't flirt.
If seems you are getting obsessed with her, and this always ends up badly. goodluck. Ohyeah , don't do something stupid as ask her out, because if you got denied you will keep seeing her on the bus,at the cafe,the mall etc..with the feminine guy pointing and laughing.
So find out whatthefuck she is.
Well the friends at her school arent completely friends... more like buddies. Im afraid if I ask I might ended being deemed one of those guys they know who ended up trying to chase the "lesbian".
I'll try and find out some how but the odds seem against me. Now that I think about it I have never seen her talking to a guy who didnt look gay. Except when she is approached that is, like when my friends saw her. Also after reading my 1st post over again I might sound anti-gay in a few ways. Thats not me in any way.
I was just upset at the fact that if she is in reality lesbian, than my chances of her being attracted to me would become zero... unless I grow woman parts overnight.
Well the friends at her school arent completely friends... more like buddies. Im afraid if I ask I might ended being deemed one of those guys they know who ended up trying to chase the "lesbian".
I'll try and find out some how but the odds seem against me. Now that I think about it I have never seen her talking to a guy who didnt look gay. Except when she is approached that is, like when my friends saw her. Also after reading my 1st post over again I might sound anti-gay in a few ways. Thats not me in any way.
I was just upset at the fact that if she is in reality lesbian, than my chances of her being attracted to me would become zero... unless I grew woman parts overnight.
Dude, I feel your pain. The first time I really fell in love with a girl I worked up a lot of courage to confess to her. In my case we got along really well and had a lot in common. So imagine my surprise when my confession was met with the response “Oh my god… I’m sorry… I’m a lesbian… Didn’t you know?” If she is a lesbian than that will suck really hard. But I can tell you as someone with experience it will get better. It will hurt for a long time but it will get better.
I agree, find out first, than go from there, if it works, hey, you lucky!