I don't know what to do (9)

1 Name: AnonymousMan7 : 2008-11-25 07:08 ID:BD1yNR9M

Well, here's a brief description.

There's a girl I liked a lot, and we were always real close to being an official couple, but there was always something interrupting us, whether it was distance, parents, school, etc. Now, she is with another guy, and I heard that she's really lost herself in all those bad things and began hanging with the wrong people. But I don't know what to do. I really love her, but I don't know what to do. I keep thinking about her when I meet another girl that I think I might like or she might like me. What do I do? I haven't spoken to her in a while either.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-25 13:28 ID:NCPbWZEO

Well,... Just contact her and get some news from her, ask how is she doing, etc. You might go out together and speak about each other and get the latest news. You may then be able to understand if she's having problems or if she's in need of help.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-26 19:18 ID:MEIiI23u

I'm a bit sick of sad puppies like this. If you want her, go find her and tell her and pursue her with all of your will and strength. If she's hanging around with a bad crowd or doing bad things, tell her once clearly that you feel she's not going in the right direction, but don't push it. She's her own person; not a doll for you to control and attempt to own. She has the choice to make bad choices.

You can't keep hanging onto the idea of her if there's no chance of being with her. Stop acting pathetic and either go get her or move on.

Protip: No girl wants a sad, weak little boy who can't voice what he feels and is too scared to act.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-11-26 21:29 ID:vzcJPZrt

I'll agree with >>3.
If she chose all that trash to hang out with, chances are she can't make too many good choices. And, since you care about her, you're probably a good guy, a good choice.
However, you knew her in better times. Give it a shot, but, for goodness' sake, just ONE shot. Talk to her openly, be brave, be clear. If she can't understand it or things go wrong, leave her to deal with her own choices.

5 Name: AnonymousMan7 : 2008-11-26 23:03 ID:BD1yNR9M

>>4

You guys are right, I agree with you.

6 Name: MeBlacKKatt013 : 2008-12-12 04:47 ID:psMPg3RN

I don't know what to do either.
I've been together with a boy for two years now, but I'm a very horrible girlfriend(in my opinion) I'm very abusive (as in punching, hitting, etc.) I'm hot-headed. I can be the biggest bitch sometimes, but that's only been recently. I'm the very jealous type. Regardless of all that, he says he still likes me, but it seems that I can't make him happy anymore. He's almost always depressed and he say's I'm complicated and that I want to change him. Those aren't my intentions. We fight a lot and it's been going down hill a little. I don't know what to do. He says I keep to many secrets from him, too.

7 Name: MeBlacKKatt013 : 2008-12-12 05:01 ID:psMPg3RN

i'm a little hopeless too, please don't think i'm a bad person. I'm just confused and lost.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-12 06:18 ID:LdAuPTwX

>>6

It seems to me that both of you are too scared and comfortable to change anything for the better, i.e. confront your objections with each other and work them out, or just break up. If you've been together for two years, you should be able to work your problems out without resorting to negative reactions.

Of course, if it doesn't work out, I don't think your boyfriend will be the one doing the breaking up, since apparently he's put up with your shit for two years, and has become depressed because of it. Should it come to that, you might have to do the right thing and break things off between you two proper.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-12 08:12 ID:nB2IQ5QK

>>You guys are right, I agree with you.

So? Are you gonna fucking do something about it?

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