So there's this girl.... [PURSUIT] (7)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-25 00:12 ID:Rv+YiXdC

There's this girl I like that I met through school (we're both over 18) and she seems pretty into me, I feel pretty at ease with her although still pretty shy and self-concious.

Anyway, we've seen each other at clubs and stuff and danced together, even met up casually once. The problem I'm having is what the hell do I do now? I invited her out with us for New Years Eve (OH GOD I HOPE I KISS HER) but I'm really shy when it comes to relationships and have zero prior experience.

Oh, and if it helps, we text a lot.

PS: If you have flirting tips feel free to lay them on me.

Thanks /love/

PPS: MERRY CHRISTMAS!

2 Name: 43 : 2008-12-25 09:34 ID:X5hQCdyk

  1. Wait for her to give you the sign (the coy smile + eyebrow rising for 2 second followed by looking away)
  2. Once and only once you have received the signal then make your move. Most guys spoil everything at this stage. By your move I mean approach her and get to know her.
  3. The next signal is physical contact. Wait for her to feel comfortable around you and you'll know she's comfortable 'cause she'll touch you (read poke/hold/tickle you).
  4. Make your big move. (date/kiss/bf/gf)
  5. Report the results.

Have fun and good luck. Merry Christmas to you too

PS. take into account that not all chicks are the same and the trick may take longer with some or not work at all if they are overly shy.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-25 11:32 ID:A75erur2

>>2

she said she's shy, so I don't think she would make the first move. Or even touch him. I have had my fair share of experience with shy girls.

I would say get her used to the idea of dating you first. Make a joke or something about you two being a couple every once in a while (Not too much mind you!) see how she takes it.

After a while, in one of your more 'serious' conversations try to change the topic to dating. Ask her her type and stuff....After she tells you; If you are her type say something like "Then we should get together lol" or something to that effect. If your not then say something to the effect of "Damn, I guess I don't have a chance with you then."

Either way you should get her opinion on dating you. See what happens from there....

If you wanna be sappy/corny...

After midnight if/when she asks what your new years resolution was be like "To get to know you better"

Or

"To kiss you" Then kiss her. A lot of shy girls go nuts for overly sappy/corny things (saying this with otaku girls in mind).

4 Name: Daydreamer : 2008-12-25 13:00 ID:O75IbspA

>>3
I love sappy/corny things too. ^_^
But I think the kissing resolution, followed by actually doing it, would be a bit rash at this stage. That would be too fast. If she's shy about it, I think it's best to stick to a pace with which she feels comfortable and safe.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-25 13:59 ID:Rv+YiXdC

>>2
I haven't had any of that but friends say she looks at me a lot when I'm not looking at her, no idea what that means but it can't be bad right? She's initiated physical contact and we hug frequently but I'm too scared to give her a real hug (and I'm really tall so it's super hard).

>>3
I was thinking about the dating joke too, but I have no idea what to say because I don't want to sound like I spend my nights fantasising about forever and ever together.

If she comes out with us maybe the "To get to know you better" line would be good. To pull it off I'll leave her with my friends for parts of the night while I make casual conversation with the girls of the group. When it comes to saying it I'll be sincere and give her my typical goofy smile. If she says "That was so cheesy *name" I'll just giggle and come back with "You know you love it".

That's flirting right?

>>4
If a girl was corny with me I'd melt into her hands, it's seriously underrated. I agree on the kissing thing, if it looks like she wants one I'll hit her with some spontaneity. Problem is, how do I know if it was just a New Years kiss or a BIG sign that I'm in?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-26 06:41 ID:n1B6klDY

>>5

I don't think the leaving her with your friends would be a good idea. Unless she is already comfortable with your friends, you should stay with her the entire night.

Like I said, all you have to do is direct the conversation into dating. Ask her her type etc... then joke "So then I guess I'm (not) your type" Depending on her type of guy.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-12-28 04:55 ID:FK5vF4lR

I tried spontanely kissing a girl once. She answered by pulling me into her again for another long kiss.
No alcohol or anything involved, it just seemed like a good move with low risk considering the girl involved, and it took A LOT of courage.

I've hated myself countless times for not being able to do the same with another girl a few weeks ago.
I were out eating with people from a group I'm involved with, getting to others and so on. There were this girl of whom my first impressions were "awesome".
She had a box of pocky of which she gave me one, then progressed to eat on it from the other end until our lips met. She did this twice during the evening.
When I recall the moments, I regret I didn't grab her and give her a real kiss. She didn't seem like she would mind getting one. ;)

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