4 1/2 years later... COULD IT WORK AGAIN? (8)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-11 14:44 ID:Oe9i9qvZ

Well, inspired by the "How to get back to my EX??" thread, I must say I find myself in a similar situation, albeit even a bit more complicated, because in this case my ex-girlfriend reciprocates my feelings. Yikes!

4 years ago- when I was but a boy of 18, and she a girl of 16, my ex and I dated for about a year. Then, upon meeting back up with a childhood friend of hers, she left me for him and then proceeded to become very manipulative and harassing in the post-breakup period (don't ask... even her new boyfriend found it to be creepy and immature). Blah blah blah, drama drama drama, I cut off contact with her, bang a bunch of other chicks, fast-forward 4 years later:

I run back into her (and her now-ex-boyfriend, in a different way), now with me 22 and [she now just turning] 21. In a tearful apology, she actually went down the list of all the stupid shit she pulled on me and seemed truly sorry for her "little girl games" years ago. This utterly amazed me. Well, after exchanging contact info, we started talking and have been meeting up every so often for the past 2 months. I gotta admit, it's been tempting, but my logic has been sayin' "Hell naw, boy, hell naw... she won't do it probably wouldn't work out." Nevertheless, she's been calling me and texting me a lot at a surprising rate.

Well, the other night, as we were taking a walk, she pushed herself up next to me, nuzzled my arm, and said "I've missed you so much..." and then flirtatiously kissed me on the cheek. "Still a tease, I see," I said to her. She gasped, and said "Hey! That's... well, yeah, okay I am." and I said "I won't fall for it now, little girl." Shocked, she said "Hey!!! I can make anyone do that. I can get what I want." Upon which, I kissed her on the cheek, parted ways with her to get on the subway, and simply said: "Catch me if you can."

However, I'm at this place: I suddenly feel that maybe, maybe something can work out. She's still beautiful, intelligent, and with many similar interests, and she seems to have matured a LOT now- after all, a high school junior is very different from a college junior- and her ex (who broke up with her because things, well, just kinda faded away) said while she still often pushes people's buttons, she isn't vindictive or hateful at all anymore.

So let me ask this: Am I falling into something bad? Will this lead to more heartache/headache? Or should I give this woman another chance and leave behind what she did as a young girl? This is something that could really go either way...

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-11 16:21 ID:IavDbFYt

Well,... why not? After all, you both know what happened, and if things return to their old state you will quickly realize that.

So if you are still interested in her, I think it's not a bad idea. The only issue is that you must make sure that she understands that old tricks won't work anymore. It probably won't be an issue, but if you see a hint of ugly old habits coming back, be forceful about it.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-11 16:22 ID:ajbanEca

If you really like her and really think she matured, go for it man. Go for it.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-15 16:10 ID:pIFdxEEC

Sounds good... although I am wondering if I should very cautious... Part of me still has deep feelings for her, and if I get deeply involved with her only to find out she's still catty and conniving, it make cause some SERIOUS heartache (and then serious headache from her drama).

Thoughts on that aspect? Or is this just a risk I'm gonna have to take if I really think it's worth it?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-15 16:25 ID:IavDbFYt

In matters of love, you won't get anything if you don't put yourself on the line. Taking risks is mandatory.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-15 23:26 ID:N7M98LHy

That's true, dawg. Wellll... here goes nothin'!

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-18 15:40 ID:BWPh89DY

|| Upon which, I kissed her on the cheek, parted ways with her to get on the subway, and simply said: "Catch me if you can." ||

Pure gold my man. Pure Gold.

Enjoy :D

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-03-18 19:42 ID:xy+swFbB

Go for it. Now. It's an order.

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