Women approaching men (17)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-15 13:24 ID:J45xlK9C

How can I encourage girls to approach me? Because I could never, ever initiate a conversation/flirting, etc. I'd have enough trouble returning attention.
I have no friends, my family is horrible... all I have is my studies but loneliness is overpowering. I have no one to talk to. I completely rely on the internet for what I should be getting from friendships.

2 Name: turd : 2009-05-15 15:40 ID:O2LAnT78

well, if you are a handsome guy that won't be a problem at all.. but if you are not then i say its impossible.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-15 16:04 ID:OF6Z+unf

Write poetry in your notebooks, stand doing nothing in the rain(bonus pints if you stretch your arms to the heaven,like trying to grasp the clouds), wear a deep boredom face, and try dressing like a beatnik, but not very obvious. Try to not make eye contact with the people, but when neccesary, stare directly into their eyes.

They'll start thinking you are some kind of artist, and they might start aprproaching you. Or not. Only works in highschool.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-15 16:05 ID:AgwBUvNH

and what exactly means being handsome?? I'm not Op, but I too would like to be approached by women, even though I can do it myself but it never fucking works... so, how the hell do you become handsome? cause only things I heard in life about what women like in men was bullshit stuff like being nice, funny, romantic, gentleman and shit like this that works only for collecting female friends that refused me

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-15 18:32 ID:jeulwf3I

handsome = hot, nice built, fit, as symmetrical face as possible, regular shower, nice haircut.. SUPAH SEXY PARFUME :3 sexy manners..
mysterious..
girls dig these things

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-15 19:31 ID:AgwBUvNH

>>5
well... and what exactly means being ,,hot"? or to have sexy manners? I can get on with people pretty well but in a matters of dating, I'm just socially retarded, so these questions sound probably stupid...

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-15 20:05 ID:/YBYuQmp

#1 SECRET (THAT IS NOT REALLY A SECRET AT ALL LOLWUT) TO INITIATE APPROACH TO A WOMAN

Corny, silly pickup lines? The do work. I mean, they call them pickup lines for a reason. What you must understand is that women are not these unfathomable beings of dark intellect movies and TV make them to be. They are just another person like you and me, and if they are interested (and a , all you need to do is communicate that you TOO are interested. And easist way for both prts is, yes, a corny pickup line.

Just keep it simple, and don't be scared of failure. The worst that can happen is a negative, which leaves you in pretty much the same point you were before asking.

8 Name: Ryuuchi : 2009-05-15 21:46 ID:ikgGOHAU

In my experience, just walk up to them and talk. Just talk normally as you would to a person. Starting by saying hi and her name and see how she reacts about you. If it's all good, start talking with her. Girls like to talk, they always do. Just start to talk with a girl and I'm sure you'll have a conversation out of the blue. What to talk about? It's entirely up to you...

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-16 06:03 ID:EC6F1AzL

>>8 has a good start. You have to increase your interactions with the girl, to give more opportunities for an interest to develop.

Anyways as for my personal experience: in a party I had a girl coming up straight to me and engage a conversation. Eventually she became my girlfriend, and I later found out that she got interested in me because of some beach pictures her friend had kept of me.

So it was nothing I did myself, things just turned out this way.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-18 09:46 ID:PTmbTMXU

Greetings OP.

It has come to my attention that you did not specify what type of loneliness you wish to overcome, thus I recommend companionship with bros instead of hoes. However I am in no way suggesting for you to be homosexual, but you should find friends as a start, or you can read philosophy books. I recommend the latter.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-18 14:54 ID:qAkxyhXk

>>10
And I recommend the former unless you want to stay lonely with the added weight of going crazy over abstract thoughts. And anyway, philosophy when you can't talk about it is boring and very similar to masturbation.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-18 19:10 ID:atePXN8c

> philosophy when you can't talk about it is [...] very similar to masturbation.

Is that a negative point? ^_^

Philosophy can be a powerful force in your life, but that needs some effort on your side. And just like anything else, different philosophies may suit you differently YMMV

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-19 12:31 ID:qAkxyhXk

>>12
I knew I'd get this reaction, haha. Think about the morbid addictive side of masturbation, not the sporadic enjoyable hand relief.

Yeah, philosophy is a powerful force and is something very valuable that every man and woman should spend some time on. But not when you're lonely and very possibly depressed, probably already overthinking your situation. For example, nihilism can be as motivating and empowering as it can be destructive, depending on which kind of spirit you understand it in.

I'm not saying the guy should skip it. Just saying that friends are more important in a first time. I mean, Diogenes was a cool guy, but I still don't think it's very reasonable to want to end up living in a clay pot.

14 Name: Alex : 2009-05-19 12:42 ID:WO8qpwrM

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15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-19 21:21 ID:EFLA6jH7

>the morbid addictive side of masturbation

what.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-05-30 14:13 ID:ikNLEJcw

Bump for more help with this.
I'm still having no luck with women.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-06-03 05:47 ID:Heaven

Women approach you?

I guess if you were an animal predator, you'd be wishing for the prey to come to you...

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