Should I worry about getting a girlfriend in high school? (5)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-05 02:20 ID:/mKX5ic+

I'm not sure if I should bother to pay more attention to getting a relationship now that I'm in high school, or to continue on with my currently boring life. While I do wish to make things a bit more interesting, I'm cynical about pursuing a relationship that'll most likely end in a year, at most. I've never went on a date or had anyone to call a girlfriend, so I can't say I have any personal experience with all that jazz, but I've got a fair grasp on what it's like to date at this age, and I honestly don't think it's really worth it. I think I should wait until a girl I wish to pursue shows up, instead of looking actively for one, but maybe that's not the right mindset. Hell, even if I find a girl I think would be a good catch, I doubt I'd have the balls to go after her - I've had a crush when I was in grade six, and even though she showed signs of liking me back, I'd never even struck up a conversation with her. I'd appreciate some insight, or advice on approaching relationships. Also, ideas on how to make high school, or even life in general a bit more interesting, would be helpful.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-05 02:43 ID:BWB/navd

I'm a senior in high school, and I shared the same mindset as you did. I never dated anyone, and I felt like I didn't really have to.

Now, in retrospect, I regret never having dated someone. I had chances, I just never took them.

I think you should take chances you get, OP. You said yourself that your life was boring, so what's the harm in some dating?

As far as ideas on how to make life in general a bit more interesting, I know this sounds generic, but try something new. Get some friends together and go somewhere you haven't been before, or just hang out, and take it easy.

Sorry if this didn't make much sense, I'm kind of out of it right now.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-05 03:51 ID:D4GioEE2

I agree, you will only learn by experience. If you have a chance with someone that you like, go for it, just don't do anything stupid. It is good that you don't feel pressured though. I always felt pressured that I had to had this or that by a certain age.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-05 09:07 ID:RIfwKGyJ

If you don't feel the need to have a girlfriend, and there is no girl that catches your interest at the moment, then don't bother, it's not the right time for you, better to find someone that motivates you rather than try to be with someone that will bore you even more than being alone.

If on the other hand you don't want to date because you have a cynical view on relationships at your age, then I think you should revise your opinion. People differ and it's entirely possible to have meaningful relationships during highschool, or to have shallow ones later in life. The thing is, if you never try for it, you will never go anywhere.

But honestly, if you find your life and yourself boring, then tackle that problem first. Your girlfriend won't make your life less boring, rather the relationship will confront you even more to the emptiness of your life. So get your act together and shake the dust out of your life.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-10-05 10:51 ID:JSAeKD0I

I'm 21 now. I've never dated anyone, so of course I never dated anyone in secondary school. This didn't upset me back then, and looking back, I don't regret it at all. I'm very introverted, though, so you'll probably be different.

Even then, you should probably wait to find someone that you like before dating.

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