Umm...help? with girls...i'm shy as hell.... (7)

1 Name: Chris : 2010-07-24 02:24 ID:SCc+5Y3L

umm... yea, the title says almost all...i'm an otaku, but i got some issues with girls...i got some gorgeous girls in my class, but i kind of find the are waaaay out of my reach...i tried confessing to one, which was 1 year younger than me, when we were in 7th grade...she turned me down saying she was too young, but i kept trying to win her heart, to be honest...my heart has been broken countless times by girls... any tips?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-07-24 04:40 ID:SWYSPt6y

Let love come to you. Try not to think too much about it, just be yourself and somebody will take interest. Make sure you're confident about yourself, because girls will pick up on that and notice you. If you always just shy away and choose to not speak your mind, nobody will think twice about you. Give them a reason to remember you; a good joke, a smart comment, a show of skill; you want to make a positive imprint on their memory, give them something to think about.

Try not to chase, or at least not openly, because it'll make you less attractive in their eyes. It's human nature, really; the more somebody wants you, the less you want them. Likewise, the less somebody wants you, the more you want them. Now I'm not saying to be cold to the girl you like, but don't be too pushy or obvious that you like her, a few hints here and there will do the trick.

3 Name: Chris : 2010-07-24 05:27 ID:SCc+5Y3L

hmm...yea it may work for me, i'm in a long distance relationship with a beautiful US girl who i like...but my heart doesn't feel full...i feel like i want to be with every girl i meet...why do i feel like this? And i got the skills to become the best person in this whole world...i just need to find the courage to do my awesome goal of getting a double degree in Business and in Systems Engineer, then get a Masters in Business Administration, and become the best guy ever :D

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-07-24 17:46 ID:SWYSPt6y

Well there you go, looks like you've got confidence to spare! And I would personally say that you should end the long-distance relationship now if you know it'll stay that way, because like you said, they are not fulfilling. Hell, I bet the ldr you're in is just for fun right? I mean, you're not actually serious about each other, are you? If you like talking to her, then there's no need to sever contact, unless you want to have a completely clean slate before going after another girl.

And the reason you're feeling like you want to be with every girl you meet is because, like I said, you're unfulfilled. You need a real, physical relationship, and right now it doesn't matter with whom it's with. I'm not saying it shouldn't -- don't go out with a girl you know, or even doubt, that you like; it won't work out, trust me.

Build the foundation; hang out one on one, be yourself around her, and if you enjoy yourself and you notice she does too, go for her. If it feels really awkward, or you feel that if you be yourself you'll just annoy her, don't bother.

Finding a girl to love/like may give you the courage you need to become the best guy ever, but remember -- there's no rush.

5 Name: Chris : 2010-07-24 22:08 ID:YKDujqyF

yaa....no i'm serious with her...i tried to confess to a girl i kinda liked because she was leaving to live in the US, and i wanted to at least know if she had any feelings for me...but she turned me down saying like "Do you think it's love what you feel?" and i was like yea...and she then said..."You have only seen me once...i don't think that could be called love" and i felt like 20 400kg weights were put in each of my shoulders, then the long-distance girl came, and she like saved me from an inminent depression

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-07-24 22:21 ID:SWYSPt6y

So you admit you only kinda liked this girl, meaning she was right when she said it isn't love that you felt. Sure it hurts to be told that, but you learn to get over it pretty quickly. While the ldr girl did help soothe the pain, I don't think she was necessary for you to not have become depressed.

Have you ever actually met her? I personally believe that a relationship simply cannot work without physical contact. After all, what exactly is it that separates a friend from a romantic partner? It's the physical part of the relationship that does. Tying yourself to a ldr will get you nowhere unless the long distance part is only temporary.

7 Name: Chris : 2010-07-24 23:54 ID:YKDujqyF

to bad it isn't temporary, we have had our little fights and all, and i imagine her as my beautiful goddess, so we have been 5 months already, we met on St. Valentines Day :D

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