Lack of Confidence = Misery (12)

1 Name: Drwb2 : 2012-11-16 00:36 ID:yxenuKc+

I don't know much about this stuff. I haven't really told many people. I really like a girl I have no confidence to talk to. I'm looking for outside help...Let me know if you are interested and I will continue posting...

2 Name: *Amagi : 2012-11-18 19:02 ID:4CEXUBzJ

What is she like? I think I may be able to give some advice..

3 Name: Drwb2 : 2012-11-25 06:14 ID:XYy6g5Co

She is out of my league in my opinion. Beautiful. That's all I know as of now. The problem is that I can't talk to her. I just want to get to know her :(

4 Name: Archie : 2012-11-25 09:49 ID:AW5bVTAg

Just go up to her and say hello.
Back in my guitar class, if there was a guy I wanted to talk to,
I would just go 'Hey. I haven't seen you before. Which batch do you belong to?'. And conversations just sails after that :)

5 Name: Drwb2 : 2012-11-25 18:51 ID:XYy6g5Co

My biggest problem is that I want it to be perfect. I am afraid to mess things up :(

6 Name: Archie : 2012-11-26 11:44 ID:AW5bVTAg

Just go up to her. Be confident and let it radiate off you :)
Say hello and ask her what's up. Simplest way to start.
In my experience- You only mess up when you're afraid. So be brave, my friend :)

7 Name: Drwb2 : 2012-11-26 15:21 ID:XYy6g5Co

I will try. I am not sure the next time I will see her.

8 Name: Archie : 2012-11-27 12:31 ID:AW5bVTAg

Good. You do that. Let me know how it goes :)

9 Name: Drwb2 : 2012-12-02 03:35 ID:QUuncFGs

So I talked to her...Here's what happened: (I go to Kent State University by the way. So you know I'm in the 20's age group.)

I went to the football game last night in Detroit. She was two rows in front of where I sat. I didn't talk to her the entire night. I must have just got tired of waiting because I talked to her today at the basketball game. Throughout the entire game, I was nervous etc...Game ended. So all my friends left. I stood by the room where the girls come out after the game. I waited about 10 or 15 minutes, and she was one of the last girls to walk out. I saw her and couldn't say anything. So she walked right past me. Then, I decided I had enough and went after her. I said "Excuse me. This is probably really weird, but do you want to go have dinner with me?" She said she couldn't and she had a boyfriend. I told her that if she ever wanted to go to at least get to know each other to let me know. We exchanged names and that was that.


10 Name: Archie : 2012-12-02 12:40 ID:AW5bVTAg


(Kent State University- It rings a bell because I know about the Protesters story :( )

Good on you for mustering up some courage to go and talk to her, I'll give you that.

You exchanged names. You can keep in touch with her if you still want to get to know her. But if it makes you feel bad, you don't have to.

As an extra note, don't feel disheartened OP shoulder pat

11 Name: Drwb2 : 2012-12-02 13:58 ID:75xjxjxt

I am going to wait for her I think, but I'm not going to waste my life over her. I will let her initiate getting together with me since she has a boyfriend, but if I see her and am near her, I'll say hello. Does that sound like the right way to approach this?

12 Name: Archie : 2012-12-02 15:36 ID:ZC8aqsf/

I recommend you don't wait, since she is already seeing someone.
But yes, if you see her around, acknowledging with a friendly 'hello, how are you?' is just fine.

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