[Personal Issue] Annoying older sister [Family] (22)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2006-11-15 07:22 ID:Heaven

So, here's how it goes:

I'm 21, a slightly over full time student at a community college, and living with my parents.

It's not like I live with them by choice, but I really only have time for school right now. I'm planning/trying to transfer into a 4-year college starting Fall 2007.

I try to help out around home with chores whenever I can (in between being at school all day during the week and having a pile of homework during the weekend) and try to help out by buying for whenever I have spare time and money (not often). My father's a nice guy though, so he's really cool with all of it. Also, there's the fact that I make it a point not to ever as him for money (not since I was 17 and got my first job) as I feel indebted enough to him as it is.

Now, my parents had 7 children total (yeah, a big family, I know) I have a younger sister that's 18, and 4 siblings younger than that. They all live in the same house.

Besides that I have an older sister, in the mid-twenties. Eight years ago she pretty much drifted away from the rest of us, and soon moved away, only keeping nearly daily contact (via phone) with my father.

She finally got tired of her life over where she was, and decided to move back in with us. There were a few other reasons that went into this decision, such as the fact that my mother's half insane and does half of everything the wrong way.

Now here's the deal: She thinks I'm some kind of idiot, and although she's nice with most of us, especially my father, she's not so much with my mother (which I can understand... I can't stand her craziness either), me, and to a way lesser extent, my 18 year old sister.

Since my mother isn't really able to do anything right, I guess she decided to sort of act like a "mother" to our younger siblings. My father is more than happy that someone's trying to do the job, so he's cool with it. This effectively puts me, the second oldest and a grown adult, in a weird position.

What kinds of things does she do? Well, like I mentioned earlier, she seems to think I'm an idiot and tries to question everything I do, as if I was a kid or crazy as well.

A few examples of conversations we've had constantly are:

"Joe, what are you messing with?" "... I'm just printing out my term paper." "Okay." and "Joe, what did you do to Firefox?" "It was like that when I got on there." and "Joe, you better not tell mother where I hid the bleach. There's no telling when she'd do with it." "Of course."

2 Name: Anonymous : 2006-11-15 07:22 ID:Heaven

Add on to that the fact that she does things like tells me to turn my music down early evening ("because it's annoying") while having hers blasting high at 1 AM... when I have school the next day.

Recently, she's even been buying more and more of the household's food... which you would think is a good thing. However, she buys it for the younger siblings (and also our father, if he wants any) and not the oldest two of us. My father sees a full fridge of food and doesn't buy anything, leaving me to either starve or spend off my own small amount of funds, which usually go towards either school or work.

I think that for the most part, she has a bad impression about me due to some image of me she kept from when we were children, and doesn't see me as the adult I am. (Especially because I've been constantly living with my parents.) As for me, I've practically forgotten how she acted those many years ago. It probably also has to do with the fact that I'm the oldest male while she's the oldest, and also with the fact that we're all adults all trying to take control of situations.

...I really don't see what to do about this, other than moving out, which definitely isn't possible at the moment. I've tried talking to her about it, but it's so tense between us it doesn't work. I've tried practically ignoring her, but that's sort of hard with someone trying to control the household you live in as well as you. I've considered saying screw it, and just buying my own food without giving anyone who has food (as part of her food monopoly :p) any... but I'm not that evil. I would end up mainly singling out the younger siblings, which I don't want to do. Not to mention I don't really have the money to be playing games like that.

And all of this has to happen when I'm at the most critical part of my semester, with finals coming up in four weeks. I even have two exams tomorrow that I'm not studying for as I write this... because it's bugging me so much. It's gotten to the point where I want to just throw everything up and run away or wish I could consider committing suicide. (I can't. Suicide is just stupid in most cases.)

...and I certainly never thought I would or want to be having these kinds of thoughts as an adult. Writing about it helped a little bit, but... god.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2006-11-19 05:49 ID:PiaDJlKt

Tell her to fuck off or grow up.

You come off as extremely shy in your writing, so chances are if she sees /any/ hint of actual agression from you she'll know you're serious. If she doesn't change, just start stealing food from her and dealing with it. Get some headphones. Just sit in your room and avoid her and don't talk to her unless you have to.

4 Name: TEENAGER : 2006-11-19 20:27 ID:OGNAiqwh

Yeah, at this situation you just have to tell her that the way she acts is srsly getting on your nerves.

What I am saying, don't take out your dong and give her a good hump in the rump, but rather ASK her to stop being so annoying.

The hardest problems in life usually have the easiest answer.

(Also what the fuck, thinking about SUICIDE when things come to sisters. Are you a man or are you dense?)

5 Name: Anonymous : 2006-11-19 22:18 ID:Heaven

>>3
I guess I'll tell tell her that if I ever have to. Luckily, most of the time I'm avoiding her without trying, what with homework and programming projects.

I do have headphones, actually. The only time I don't use them is when my younger sister is listening to something as well.

And yeah, I guess I am sort of shy.

>(Also what the fuck, thinking about SUICIDE when things come to sisters. Are you a man or are you dense?)

I'm pretty sure I said I wasn't thinking about suicide, but rather just going on a trip somewhere. But this isn't the only issue in my life leading up to that, as I was already sort of considering that before she came along. With finals coming up soon, having to work on final projects, and being somewhere in the middle of seeing that I may or may not be able to tranfer schools,among other things... this is just the icing on the cake.

...anyway, thanks for the advice guys. I want this thread to just sink to the bottom now. :p

6 Name: TEENAGER : 2006-11-20 13:39 ID:Heaven

>>5

I can only imagine. Just relax.
If you feel running away, stay strong and come to 4-ch for advice.. again.

(also sage for not bump :3)

P.S. Perhaps a friend's place is perhaps a good place to refuge for silence? (lol English 101)

7 Name: Anonymous : 2006-11-23 02:50 ID:Heaven

In before "What does your sister look like?"

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9 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-03 12:58 ID:LAkN73WH

Your sister is an immature bitch.

10 Name: FreedomGundam : 2007-05-03 17:16 ID:yoEj4rgz

Sage.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-03 18:47 ID:Heaven

Rape her when she is sleeping

12 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-04 09:10 ID:YPtT9HTP

>>10
NICE SAGING.

13 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-09 20:44 ID:ktYPgMIR

stick your willie in her butt while she sleeps

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18 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-14 19:57 ID:5I/nT+81

thats an interesting story and all, but whoever wrote that

posted it way two many times

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20 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-15 17:36 ID:5k9e50bn

being bullied by an older sister is kinda cute ^^;

21 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-16 04:46 ID:kIxwrRrX

>>20 that is only in anime, In RL = not cute at all. believe me.

22 Name: Anonymous : 2007-05-16 19:19 ID:Heaven

>>21
It's not cute in anime either. >>20 is just deluded.

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