My parents always fight. (10)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2008-05-20 06:07 ID:PD7aOHa1

My parents argue pretty much everyday. I hate it and they usually argue over the dumbest things. It's usually my dad's fault, he has no common sense at all. It's very hard to explain things to him. I hate coping with his constant abuse. He always argues with my mom, they once got physical and I had to call the police on them. When the police came I had to lie to them that nothing happend. After the police left my dad started yelling at me. I honestly wonder if they still love eachother. He even smokes in the house when I tell him not to. Sitting down and talking to him won't help, he's seriously too stupid to understand. Does anyone else cope with abuse?

2 Name: Anonymous : 2008-05-20 07:53 ID:WSMZ1Arr

Not me but one of my cousins had to deal with this kind of stuff. How old are you OP?

3 Name: Anonymous : 2008-05-20 14:24 ID:ZRbm7WMu

Yeah. I manage pretty well by desensitizing myself to it.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2008-05-20 15:01 ID:PD7aOHa1

I can't disclose my age, sorry.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2008-05-20 21:31 ID:7Plb0UUG

> When the police came I had to lie to them that nothing happend.

Never lie to the police about this, okay?

Something I've learned by watching one parent and certain other people is that people don't get better. They always get progressively worse. The only exception was one guy who stared death in the face... and the change only lasted a year.

Knowing that his behavior brought the police in the past, and will next time, won't change your father's problems but it will make him think twice. In the long term you really want to get out of there, because it's only a while before he'll get desensitized to that fear.

Calling the police and then telling them nothing happened won't help. Police have to put up with dumb shit when it comes to domestic disturbances all the time: one partner is beating the other, the police turn up, and both partners turn on the police. Total Stockholm Syndrome.

If you lied because you're worried for your safety... tell the police that fact. This isn't a police state: they're there to protect you.

6 Name: Anonymous - 3 : 2008-05-23 13:17 ID:WDG7+Mex

I know how you feel.
My parents do argue a lot too, I can't say it's about silly things...they do really have issues, like lack of money and my brothers and sisters being to inconscient about it and not having good grades and never being at home etc, those kind of problems.
And there's this level when they can't face it anymore and begin blaming each other. It's very rare when they get physical....but when they do, it's my father who threatens and hits the furniture and once he almost threw himself and my mom...
I was watching the whole scene, and I dunno what got into me, but the fact that my older brother did nothing enraged me so I got into action and threw myself at my dad's back and climbed up trying to stop his arms. He proceeded yelling and threatning but didnt got to the point of touching her because although he's very strong I was hanging on his back forcing his arms back and trying to make him conscious of what he was doing (he was drunk or anything, he was just purely mad). then finally my brother thought it was time to do something because I was kinda at risk too and he might have feel a bit chicken for not doing anything. My dad always regrets after he does something like this....its been a while. The only problem for this to stop happening is for the problems to go away. Police wont solve it.
Problems need to go away.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2008-05-23 16:44 ID:8Fd92w56

> Problems need to go away.

Except that they don't.

They're like that unwelcome guest hanging out in your living room way past their welcome.

8 Name: Anonymous - 3 : 2008-05-23 17:25 ID:WDG7+Mex

Then, if you aren't capable of reporting to the police if the stuff gets physical, it's the better if you keep away. Isolate yourself from it. Put ur sound system at max and think of others things. If you're sure there's nothing you can do, then when a fight starts get away from home for a couple of hours and keep your mind out of it.
Go meet your good friends. You just need to say you're having familiar issues and that'll be enough for them to start comforting you and trying to cheer you up.

9 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-04 03:05 ID:OJ6KukZB

I lived with this when I was younger, and now it's a distant memory - I can hardly even relate to it anymore.

What did I do?

I called the Police, and sent my Father to jail :).

Look out for yourself, rely on yourself.

Watch out for girls/boys in relationships, us abused kids tend to be very clingy and it hurts.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-04 05:58 ID:pKPlmpmA

My parents aren't even a couple anymore as far as they're concerned. To my mom, my dad is just some bastard who eats from our fridge.

I'm sure somewhere deep inside, subconsciously, it bothers me. But as of immediately, on the surface, I honestly don't care.

If that makes any sense.

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