My roommate has a date on Friday. He's a mostly solitary animal, so it's a bit unusual. I don't think he's had a proper date in like two years. In fact, the whole thing seemed doubly weird as to how their relationship developed. He never talked to this girl except online or through text messages. Last weekend, he probably worked his texting fingers raw because I never once saw him not keying something into his phone. I never asked anything about this, and he never volunteered anything. In fact, I only figured it was a romantic thing as he otherwise wouldn't have put so much effort into it. But anyway, he started asking about good restaurants and stuff so we talked about that. Again, he didn't bother to say who it was, and so I finally had to just ask. I was kind of concerned it might have be a specific ex of mine. Because, you know, then I'd have to stab him in the face, and prison time concerns me. But actually, it's much worse.
Our little talk went something like this:
Me: So, who is this girl anyway, anyone I know?
Him: Funny story. You know Vlad?
Me: Yeah, I know Vlad. Friend of his?
Him: You know his wife?
Me: Yeah, I know his wife. Did she introduce you?
Him: No, it's Vlad's wife.
Me: (stunned silence)
So... here's the thing. On one hand, Vlad is kind of a jerk and probably deserves it. On the other hand, my friend is cheating the fuck out of another friend and is probably going to receive a savage beating out of this.
My real question then is what exact combination of drugs do I need to take in order to forget ever learning of this? If that won't work, what do I? This guy is going to show up on my doorstep on Friday night looking for his wife or something terrible, I just know it.
Been there a couple times. There's no good solution.
I recommend vanishing for a while. As you imply, this isn't something to be involved with.
Murder - Suicide
Call Vlad--not even not getting any for 2 years is a valid excuse for going with another man's--especially a friend's--wife.
Nothing you can really do, OP. He'll get a good beating and hopefully never try it again. Just hope he doesn't end up shot.
Suggest a threesome (not right up front, but subtle). Threaten to tell Vlad if they refuse.
his name is Vlad
is he big and russian?
I was in a similar situation and did the wrong thing by getting involved. Trust me, just mind your own business and if anyone ever asks you later about it then say "I didn't think anyone would really date the guy. I thought he was joking when he said he had a date." Don't ask the room-mate how the date went, and just don't bring it up. If you do tell the husband, he will confront the roommate and then tell the roommate that he heard it from you. There is a very good chance the roommate will then become your enemy pretty fast, and then you will be living with someone who will want to cause you serious problems. If you are going to say anything, then move out first. Otherwise, get ready to have all your stuff mysteriously destroyed, missing, etc. I first was out a tv (I think my room mate poured water in it) and a saxophone that mysteriously disappeared, so I confronted my roommate and smacked him around a little. The little b*tch called the police and they had an ambulance pick him up when all he had was a split lip, and they arrested me on assault and battery. Along with going to court and getting an arrest record, I had to pay $3100 for his ambulance ride and hospital visit. The judge also made me pay for the guys legal costs, which was another $850, and I had to move out. I think the guy made a copy of my car key and peed in the back my car the week we went to court, and it smelled like pee for a few days. What I learned from all this is not to get involved with other peoples messes when you can avoid it.