@Been there:
>>but I think they require special care and effort to maintain a relationship
Every realtionship needs care and effort. If someone is shy or jealous - would you say they should be dumped because it would be too difficult to deal with? Or would you say it's part of their personality and when you love this person you can deal with it?
Not every emotional flaw has to be "fixed", as you call it. Maybe OP is one the great persons who can love someone even if this person isn't the norm.
And for me sounding like a jackass: I've been through a lot of therapies, my childhood was kinda traumatic and yes, I still have to deal with it nowadays (see >>4 ). But I don't have to take medication anymore, I feel good and my boyfriend accepts me and even the more difficult parts of my personality.
I don't fell ill and that's why I say I'm not ill anymore.
>>her desire not to degrade you might help her overcome her desire to degrade herself.
I wouldn't recommend that. She will feel like shit and hating herself for "insulting" you even more. (At least that's how I would feel).