>>Yes, clearly my lack of approaching girls means I lack confidence. It couldn't be that I'm generally not a take charge person in general or that I'm somewhat awkward when it comes to social situations, namely romance, and facing a sexual harassment lawsuit or generally making a fool out of myself.
I think all that >>63 is trying to say is that we shouldn't assume that women will change their enculturated behavior just to suit those of us who happen to be awkward in social situations. Taking umbrage at the situation won't change the basic facts of the matter.
And the sad fact at the heart of it all is that, in our society, men are expected to take risks. We're supposed to be bold, pioneering entrepreneurs. That's what society expects of us; so it should come as little surprise that if we prefer to be conservative and avoid risk, society assumes that something is wrong with us. And what rational woman would want to date a malfunctioning guy?
Righteous indignation is all well and good, but it won't change hearts and minds. This is the hand we're dealt; our options are either to ante up, or fold and go home. Personally, I choose to give up, but I know perfectly well where that will lead me. I've resigned myself to a life lived alone.
But you, of course, are free to do what you want. Just don't expect society to change just to suit your convenience.