So girls should approach guys, eh? (96)

67 Name: Anonymous : 2009-03-08 01:41 ID:ETtvFgZ8

>>66

>>we shouldn't assume that women will change their enculturated behavior just to suit those of us who happen to be awkward in social situations. Taking umbrage at the situation won't change the basic facts of the matter...if we prefer to be conservative and avoid risk, society assumes that something is wrong with us. And what rational woman would want to date a malfunctioning guy?

Then according to this reasoning, why the hell should I respect women when they've made it clear they don't respect me? OP says that women shouldn't be blamed, that they should be respected, but this shoddy reasoning is essentially an admission that women don't deserve respect, since men refusing to take the initiative don't deserve respect either. Yet she says that men deserve the greater blame here and she sounds like the supposed sexists she denounces. She ignores that outgoing guys ask shy or generally less outgoing girls out all the time. Clearly when she says that men should man up and approach women because they lack confidence otherwise, there couldn't be any alternatives to why refuse to take initiative. Never mind that approaching someone is not necessarily connected to taking initiative.

Furthermore the issue isn't that I'm a coward, it's that women really can be obtuse with their intentions sometimes, yet this is acceptable, even encouraged. The ultimate irony is that her argument promotes deceit and for men to possibly not take the initiative, since men should apparently be free to send vague signals too, to women who do approach, without actually, you know, DOING anything. The position contradicts itself.

This deceitful behavior is unacceptable and tells a lot about someone. It's akin to being in a classroom where the teacher has a childish mentality and is always playing a game of, "Guess the word!" except I thought we were supposed to be more mature than that.

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