You've learned how to lose weight
You've learned how to put on muscle
You've learned how to become strong
You've learned how to take care of your body and let your healthy body take care of you
Now you weeping pussies have to learn how to HARDEN THE FUCK UP. I don't mean just going out and getting into fights. I don't mean any of your oh lol so randum XD wacky zany "manly" things like eating raw meat, never shaving, getting all hairy etc. What I mean is, it's time you became men.
Stop popping pills and antibiotics for every little thing you have, might have or just want to pretend to have. No ADD, no aspergers, no social anxiety, no relaxants. Fuck that shit. Stop running to a psychologists for your anxiety or depression problems. Most of these generally stem from the fact that while you may lose weight/work out, you're still insufferable nerds. Fuck your PC, go get a hobby that doesn't involve you sitting alone at home. It should preferably be an active hobby, but even then, it's not 100% necessary. You can also do passive stuff as long as it involves you going outside, meeting other people, communicating and socializing with them.
Stop taking back-end jobs where you just do data crunching in some backroom of a company. Yes you can do it if it's some good paying job, but I've heard it too fucking often how people doing tech-support/IT/accounting complain and yammer how miserable it makes them.
Take initiative.
Ask that girl out you've had a crush on for decades. Get blown off by her but don't sulk around for months, just SUCK IT UP and do the same over and over again. Don't wait for friends to phone and invite you to do shit, go call them up and plan something. Tell your parents how you love then. Buy a surprise present for them/your relatives. Invite your uncle to a beer in a bar. Go catch a bus to another town just to experience some diversity and not just lurk around in your home town. Plan a trip out of the country. Chat a stranger up in the train.
Take responsibility.
It's not the meds/your parents/the society/the media/the culture/George Bush/Obama/the republicans/the democrats/THE MAN that's making your life miserable, it's just yourself. All your failures and shortcomings can almost always be attributed back to you. Suck it up, make peace with your past and be responsible in the future. Be a man. YOU have to be the immovable stone in the strong river current of our world, and not be someone who sees such a stone in his friends. That doesn't mean you have to become emotionally dead or stoic, learn to accept your feelings and emotions and filter the ones you want to let outside. DON'T BE PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE! If I see that sticky note one more time....
You get the gist of it. So now HARDEN THE FUCK UP!
You're lookin' sharp... you're lookin' good. You've come so far.
This.. this isn't /fit/
Hey there people I'm Bobby Brown
They say I'm the cutest boy in town
My car is fast, my teeth is shiney
Tell all the girls they can kiss my hiney
(tiny hiney ho)
Here I am at famous school
I'm dressing sharp, I'm acting cool
I got a cheerleader here wants to help me with my paper
Let do all the work and maybe later I'll rape her
Oh god I am the American dream
I do not think I'm too extreme
And I'm a handsome son of a bitch
Gonna get a good job and be real rich
I think what you mean to say is not so much "be a man," but "grow a spine." This advice applies to all genders.
>>5
Hmm yeah actually, I guess you're right. But seeing there are far more men who truly need to grow a spine, guess it fits too
>>1
I am an asocial recluse and proud of it. I am more of a man than you will ever be.
You are completely destroying your own personality in order to pander to women. Pathetic "alpha male" mentality.
>>7
lol look at you, you think that being proud of a defect makes you somehow better, just like Fat Pride and Trans Pride
I shudder to think that somewhere along the line, striving for betterment of oneself has turned into "destroying your own personality". Really fucks with our society and self-worth if every pathetic loser is proud of who he is and never wants to change for the better
Self-Improvement is masturbation; Self-Destruction is the answer.
>>9
So I figure you've just watched Fight Club and think you're Durden, huh?
>Self-Improvement is masturbation
No. It is not the notion of self-improvement but the need to tell others to improve themselves is where the masturbatory gratification lies.
>>11
Normal people don't need to be nudged and reminded that they shouldn't be content to be just what they are (especially people younger than 40), but then again, this is a *chan board so what's normal is perceived as hostile or "self improvement masturbation" around here
You mean well but it's obvious you are pissing people off with simple advice. Sometimes "hang in there" or "toughen up" won't work. Same as talking to a suicidal,he will not hear you because you have not been in his position. You have not his experiece,only yours. It's all subjective, there is nothing you can do about it. But one thing i think you are right, it is up to the person to save him/herself, but at their own pace. So shouting "get fucking hard" will piss em off more,like i said.
Yeah...This..Just isn't the way to get people to get on the beaten path. Don't get me wrong; you make some god damn good points there, mano. Just, people who are in these sorts of situations need to gradually come out of them and begin to realize that life isn't the shitstain that it appears to be.
It's tough to "grow a spine" and its tough to be courageous when you absolutely have to be. But op is right. You guys need to FAIL. and fail often. Losers are men who never failed and learned from their mistakes. It's okay to have a 22 year record of failure, if you have ONE year of success. Think about it, men who are world renowned are only so because they decided to get out there and fuck the hell up. YOU are your own destiny.