I guessing there are plenty girls who don't have it all : looks, brains, charm etc etc.
I consider myself one of those but i don't wanna be emo about it, it's just that something recent came to mind and i was wondering if there are other girls like that.
i know a lot of girls who look better or have more things going better in their social life/job. it just gets me mad that they always have to tell YOU about it. " oh, i got a new boyfriend, he works for a modeling company" or "hey! look i just got this great job offer! isn't that greaaaaat??"
no it's not great. I work my ass off to get a decent job where the boss won't hire me for how big my boobs are or how short my skirt is. And i study like hell for exams, unlike many girls who just cheat and get high marks like that.
I wish i could say i'm not frustrated whit the situation, but it really annoys me when i have to put up with the girls who have it all. Thanks for reading !
I doubt those girls are intentionally doing it to shove it in your face. After all, they have the right to be glad that they've got new boyfriends, job offers, or whatever makes them do those annoying squeals. It's best to congratulate them and then move on.
Just look forward to the times when they come to you and complain about how their boyfriends dumped them or they were handed pink slips.
Yea, I agree with >>2.
I understand where op is coming from, but is there a reason to be so angry about it? It kind of shows that you may be deeply insecure about something.
i don't mind people bragging about their good fortune, i am used to hearing people out and i am usually happy for them. but i can not be happy and congratulate someone who have what they have based only on luck or good looks.
And i don't really look forward to the times they complain about getting dumped either, because they're not actually sad about loosing someone you care about, more like they're sad over not having the good looking guy to brag about.
i get angry when things are unfair. i do feel insecure about some things, but doesn't everybody?
I guess I was just letting my anger out, so i can go back to my normal it's-better-not-to-care state of mind.
>>5
Then congratulate them anyway. And then you can move on because you know luck and good lucks will only carry people so far.
Isn't it a good thing that these girls don't have the handsome man to show off? If these are truly the beautiful, yet shallow girls like you've described, isn't that simply karma delivering what they deserve?
But anyhow, I trust working your ass off will pay great dividends. Putting up with it may be annoying, but at least you're not the only one who shares this sentiment.
eh, you're right, thanks. i'm okay with it now.
It's a fact of life that beautiful people will always be advantaged. It's also a pain to have an unremarkable or worse, a plain ugly physique.
Nevertheless life does not stop there. There are more things in the world besides being beautiful. Doing beautiful and interesting things is another part of it, or watching or participating on beautiful and great things. It sucks to lose your legs, but there are still many great things to do without them. You should concentrate on the opportunities that you can cultivate for yourself. If I had to grieve about all the things I suck at doing, my life would be hell. Thinking on how to do better what I'm good at or interested in doing is a much more pleasant way of spending time and energy.
Also, the flashes of anger that you feel for these people are just plain envy. And you should be smart about envy: it points towards your deepest desires. Take the time to think about what they mean and act accordingly. You are envious about your friend who got a great job? Ok, it means you value having a great job. Use that, don't get stuck at the envy part.
I think I am very good looking but I've never had a boyfriend/don't have friends/no job/no education. Some things are worth more than looks. I would rather be ugly and happy. I would consider it your advantage that you study for tests while other girls cheat, it just makes you smarter and you'll do better in the end.
if u are a girl, u dont need brains really :3
This thread is a bit old, but I would like to share.
No woman has all of it. She might have all of it for a short period in her life, but it doesn't last. I used to think that all I was good at was being pretty and that I was a useless person that could offer no one anything important. I am a kind and generous person, but kindness seems to only get you exploited. So, it is a useless trait. Good looks does not make a person exempt from pain or struggle. Women will also hate you if you are pretty, especially women in relationships, even though there is no ill intention...they still won't trust you. Instead they will glare at you on the street and call you names. Women are cruelest beings on this earth, no matter how they look.
I have looks, but no charm as I am so painfully shy that I have zero friends. I don't have much going on for me in the brains department, so a person must be patient with me and we live in a world where people don't have any sort of patience. I have little education since I dropped out of school by 15 but that isn't due to laziness but having to leave school to work full time as a dishwasher and table busser to help pay my family's bills. I am now 20 years old, and I do not want to be a stripper or anything like that so without education my future could have been very bleak. I've got really good looks, yay for me but honestly, that isn't going to last forever and no amount of plastic surgery or miracle creams will cure the process of aging. I also know what it feels like to not be pretty, I was an "ugly duckling" for a long time.
But rather than beat myself up about what I don't have, which I think all people should not do and to be happy with what qualities you do have. Also, I don't give up...I am doing my best to educate myself more. I might not be smart or charming, but I can sure cook and bake and I am pretty good with firearms and videogames. So, my talents are random and not useful but I can be pleased that I am good a some things.
So, you should be happy with what you have because your skills will last and last without fading.
>I am doing my best to educate myself more.
That's the solution. At 20 years old, it's a bit early to call it quits.
Note: kindness will take you very far, since it's the most desired trait in a partner. Also, you can be kind without being naive or gullible.