Well my friends been going out with this girl for like 6 months. They look like a good couple and all and it seems like they really are meant for eachother. However, a couple nights ago I was at a party with both of them and we were all kind of drunk, and I noticed my friend violently pushing/shaking his girl. I intervened and told him to chill and that was it, I didn;t think much of it at the time. Last night though we were drunk again and I saw him actually punch his girl in the face. I grabbed him and put him to the ground and told him to calm down but he was trying to get violent with me saying he wanted to kick my ass and all that talk. The whole time this was happening his girl kept saying it was okay, nothing bad was happening, trying to justify what happened even though there was no excuse at all. The way she was trying to defend was kind of scary itself, it seemed like he had done this all before. I confronted him the day after and he kept saying he didn't remember anything that happened and he didn't know what I was talking about.
At this point I'm really suspecting that he does normally hit his girl, and that's not cool with me at all. I know if I ask his girlfriend about the situatuon she's not going to give me a straight answer and try to bullshit that he doesn't do that shit. I don't know what to do at this point. If I confront him I know he's going to lie about it, so I don't know what to do. This situation really does upset me and I'm clueless about what to do. Any advice from anyone?
>>1
You can't really do anything as is. Just look out for his girl, if you see she has bruises then confront her.
But the sad thing with abusive relationships is that you can hardly do anything until the abusee starts opening up...
You could call some domestic abuse number to get further information, help and tips. These lines aren't just for the abusees, but for anyone related to such situations and willing to make things change.
Dude, you most certainly need to tell someone. Abuse in any way whether it's physical or verbal needs to be addressed to someone who can help the victim. You never know how far your friend might go, even if you know him.
You had a room full of people see him punch her in the face?
Call the cops and report it, that shit is not on.
Kudos to you for standing up for her, even though he's your friend. There are too many guys that will overlook stuff like that just for the sake of mateship.
But you can't really do much unless like >>2 said, she's willing to. I would confront her about it next time it happens/see evidence.
Womens need to learn to be more submissive and then this wouldn't happen.
The woman is far too liberated in western culture. Anyone who disagrees need to get they ass beat