You can try shifting your clothing more to the male side if you're fine with it. ie: Girls' jeans and shirts.
If you obviously look like a guy in girl clothing, it may actually disturb people who obviously aren't willing to support you, so at least consider dressing in "unisex" clothing. I'm just being brutally honest - if you want to be accepted by society, you need to stick to a gender. Look on the bright side - whatever you wear in the bedroom is nobody else's business.
I don't want to make you feel bad or anything, but what you describe is actually a mental disorder. I'm just trying to help you get on the right track.