Is there something wrong with me? (11)

1 Name: OP : 2011-02-07 07:48 ID:fWq0jJ23

I am a male, born a male, identify as a male. But, I prefer to wear girls clothes. I probably have more skirts than pants, tie my hair into a ponytail when I can, usually wear tights, I pretty much dress up like a girl.

My grandparents have virtually disowned me and only a few of my real friends accept me for the way I am. The rest of them pick on me and push me around and spread rumours that I'm homosexual (I'm actually bisexual) or that I've let other guys do me in the arse and whatnot. I'm getting sick of it and I've considered suicide.

Is there something wrong with me to prefer to wear girls clothing opposed to mens clothing?

2 Name: Anonymous : 2011-02-07 10:02 ID:Heaven

No. Or at least, I don't think so, because I'm the exact same way. I just wish I had more feminine items of clothing!

3 Name: Anonymous : 2011-02-07 17:26 ID:YY/vMvUu

Why do you like wearing them? Do you like the way it looks or fits, or is it specifically because you like dressing like a girl? Or is it a sexual thing?

Anyway, there is not much wrong with it by itself, they are just clothes even though there is cultural meaning attached to them. But I dont really understand why you go through so much trouble to style yourself this way, when it's obviously not really working out for you. Is it that important to you?

4 Name: OP : 2011-02-07 21:06 ID:fWq0jJ23

I know it's not a sexual thing at all, but I guess it's probably because I like the way the clothes fit against me.

I don't really go through much trouble to style myself this way, as it's now part of my daily routine, just like brushing my teeth or taking a shower. So, I guess it is important for me to dress like myself.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2011-02-07 21:51 ID:Heaven

You can try shifting your clothing more to the male side if you're fine with it. ie: Girls' jeans and shirts.

If you obviously look like a guy in girl clothing, it may actually disturb people who obviously aren't willing to support you, so at least consider dressing in "unisex" clothing. I'm just being brutally honest - if you want to be accepted by society, you need to stick to a gender. Look on the bright side - whatever you wear in the bedroom is nobody else's business.

I don't want to make you feel bad or anything, but what you describe is actually a mental disorder. I'm just trying to help you get on the right track.

6 Name: Anonie : 2011-02-07 23:28 ID:2C7vBuQV

Dunno about the 'mental disorder' bit...
Anyways, I have a friend who's pansexual (bisexual but also likes people who dress in other sex clothing) and feels like you do. I'm very close to him, as I honestly don't know entirely what to make of this, but as he usually just wears men's clothing it hasn't yet come to a head. I've accepted him as he is, but am still wary. I don't want to sound horrible but it's because he's different, I don't know what he'll do next. There are no limits set, like with everybody else. He's not universally accepted, his parents have no idea, most of the people in the college are 'weirded out' by him, they don't know what to make of him so stay away.
I hope by expressing my views on my friend and why I feel this way will help. Having a definite gender also helps. It relieves some the insecurity. My friend dresses his gender mostly, so I know to react when he''s like that, but when I see him out of college in girls clothing I still like him as a friend but I feel must less secure and, dare I say, maybe a little 'weirded out'. Because of the sudden change, the '360'. It threw out of my comfort zone and put me off tilter.
Hope this information helps. I try to keep an open mind. Not everybody is like that. Anonie xxx

7 Name: Anonymous : 2011-02-08 10:19 ID:mAopCjG+

I don't mean that you have to go through much trouble to wear the clothes themselves, but the trouble you go through because of how your friends and family respond to it (and how you are suicidal). It just doesn't really seem worth it to me.

Being gay used to be considered a mental disorder...

8 Name: Anonymous : 2011-02-08 10:34 ID:Heaven

Heh, oh wow, that sounds exactly like me. And I'm sure most of my friends feel the way you do.

9 Name: OP : 2011-02-08 21:33 ID:fWq0jJ23


I was suicidal, not anymore...granted, I really couldn't give two shits about my family, I'm probably gonna never make contact with them when I become an adult. Bunch of idiotic, right-wing bastards is what they are.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2011-02-10 17:14 ID:htMmm57G


You don't fit the gender binary. Which is not, as much as people try to make it be and want it to be, a bad thing. The only bad thing is that certain fuck-ass individuals think they have the right to bully you because you make them ~CONFUSED~ AND YOU DON'T DO WHAT THEY WANT YOU TO DO, TEH HORROR!!1!11

Give your real friends who accepted you a hug, tell you're other "friends" to fuck themselves, and then go watch some Eddie Izzard.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2011-02-27 21:08 ID:ICaLgsiY

>Is there something wrong with me to prefer to wear girls clothing opposed to men's clothing?

You are crossing a gender line, defying societal norms.

I'm not saying you shouldn't do it, or that you should, but you might contemplate... is such a frivolous thing truly worth all the trouble?

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