>>97
Well I'm sure in a lot of cases a poster will omit that detail because it's irrelevant. e.g. for this post that I am posting right now, would it matter?
It sort of matters because if it's just a bunch of guys giving advice to each other, wouldn't that advice be wrong at times because the advice is what seems to be right in a guy's point of view but may be totally bad in a girl's point of view?
If guys' and girls' points of view about what was right and wrong when courting were really all that different a significant amount of the time, there probably wouldn't be 5 or 6 billion of us on the planet...
> were really all that different in a detrimental way a significant amount of the time
fixed.
really hope that someone replies to this, need to rant too
there this girl, who ive been close to for about a few months but weve been nothing but friends. in fact weve been considering ourselves as brother sisters, she treats me like an older brother and vice versa.
the thing is, i somehow wanted more out of this, i actually wanted to have a real relationship with her, i really think i got a chance. but then a month ago she just got another bf. i tried to not care but i cant overlook the fact that i am a bit jealous and wished i told her my feelings.
now i cant seem to get her out of my mind. even though i dont want to think about someone elses girl, she keeps on getting into my head. everytime i get online i wished that her name comes online, everytime the phone rings i wished it was her. not sure what going on with me.
i probably know this wont go far but i just need someone to tell me somethine about this. thinking by myself doesnt usually see the situation from another perspective..need some opinions
Doh, I was trying to post that without an ID. It's not mine but a repost from a latecomer to the /general thread.
You can either forget about it, or wait. Or interfere.
Don't interfere in ways which can be traced back to you, though.
The key is to occupy yourself dude. If you don't have a million things going on with you, she will be in your mind all the time, and it will just drive you up the fucking wall. Join a sports team, dive into a good long book, or pick up some hobby to occupy your mind off her. Things will only just get worse the more and more you think of her.
i wont interfere , im just happy to see her happy nowadays with the new guy. not expecting anything new though. ill wait for the right one for me comes..;)
no one else have any problems on being single?
Eh? No, not really. One typically has fewer problems when they are single than when they are not.
Damn it >< I'd like to see some Densha Otoko in here :(. I'm full of advices and noone got any serious problems...
Anything related with dating, sex, etc. Maybe I'm not too old (still in my 20's) but I went through a lot ;).
lol nope I still dun understand this shit you guys call "love"!
It's just a funny state of mind, when people do creazy things. Maybe in the end you'll fail, but it's always worth it. Just for this one thrill... I think that I have never felt more alive than on the times I fell in love. In my opinion love is the meaning of life. Can't find any better reasons...
i lol'd at your so-called "human emotion"!
Ugh, I've seen a bunch of my single friends who probably love a girl, but they have an unhealthy obsession about her. They shower the girl with gifts, and say "ZOMG I LOVE YOU" all the time, but that just led to more and more rejections, and them complaining to me about it. -sigh- I wonder what the border between "Love" and "Unhealthy Obsession" is...
>>116 is a jaded teenager who substitutes cynicism for wisdom
Hello to all.
Today, I went to school like it was a regular school day, but as noonhour approached, I had a feeling something peculiar was going to happen. People were being a lot nicer to me all of a sudden and I had no clue why.
While that still isn't explained, something quite odd ended up happening. A girl I have a crush on who knows I exist because I kick everybody at my school's collective asses at Stepmania invited me to her house so I could fix her computer since she knows I'm a huge computer geek and everything. I'm meeting up with her tomorrow to decide a date as to when I get to go to her house, but something else is stressing me. What do I do when I'm there besides fixing the problems?
I think I might have some chances with her, so I might as well confess. I just hope she respects my feelings and doesn't go out spreading that out into the whole school. That would be hell. Does anyone have any ideas as to how I should confess to her?
(As for the name, she's a host on the student radio station.)
isnt too early for u to confess at this stage? she just got to know your existence, let her welcome you as a friend first. feel acceptable to her first, then you can decide how and when to confess
u are implying that she is single right?..:P
I think you should at least confirm she is single and like, get to know her or whatever. Maybe invite her for coffee after fixing the comp or something?
Its still too early to confess. She might take it the wrong way..
>>118 First meeting is way too fast for confession. If you have watched densha, you should remember that fixing the computer wasn't his first step and he still did not confessed to her then. So firstly try to fix her cpu. It's a good chance for you to
If you'll ask her out and she won't accept it, then it means that you had no chances from the begining. If she'll accept it, it means that she wants to see you again and it was not only about fixing her computer (or maybe she's feeling that she have to repay you somehow for your work :P)
Anyway, don't try to be too fast with confession. It may have a horrible conseqences.
I think that "Hot srs" is a good short name for her :P
(Host on the school radio station)
Thanks for the replies, 4-ch.
I've decided I'll use the nickname SAS for her. Short and Sweet, since she isn't very tall but she's quite sweet.
The major thing I'm concerned about is I think I know what the problem is, but regardless, since this is a Windows PC we're talking about, I don't really think she deserves to put up with whatever viruses and spyware crawled on there. I haven't touched her computer yet, but from what she's told me, it'll be unbearably slow. Therefore, I'll probably reinstall the OS.
What do we do while the OS reinstalls? That's what's freaking me out. I do know she's somewhat of a DDR fan, so I'm hoping she HAS DDR so I can play with her and impress her like I did in the past. Sure, using DDR to attract girls is silly, but it's one of the only things I'm somewhat talented in. :/
I'm meeting up with her at noonhour EST today to decide when I get to go to her house. Keep sending in those replies, /love/.
-- Radio Otoko
>>124
If the comp is slow, reinstall with Windows 2000, her comp probably has one of those old slow Windows 98. I had a similar situation where I went to a friend's house to repair her old comp (and I did have a crush on her too). We just sat and talked about various things while it installed. I can't really remember of what we talked about though as I was also very nervous.
well now we know she is interested in something that you too enjoy, if you are good at it then you can somewhat maybe impress her with you skills. not sure im using the right words here.
probably you already on your way to her house by now cuz im not sure were on the same timeline here. really hope that you could work on the conversation during the installation process and maybe if things go well, you;; be seeing each other again..;)
good luck Radio Otoko and SAS
If her computer is not too old, just use windows XP. Don't forget about some firewall. I would also suggest using cracked counterspy ;).
Anyway, better than just jumping ddr is a normal talk. Most of the people think that guys jumping on ddr looks really funny. If you want to impress her, just fix her computer and try not to say anything stupid.
So reinstall windows and talk with her while installing.
Fixing computer = blowjob as payment...
Isn't this customary?
>>128
I've fixed so many computers and never had a blowjob as a payment... thank god...
radio, dont look for a blowjob as payment that may be worse than confessing too early.
lol. If he would take it seriously, he would have 100% chance for failure :P
Well this didn't go well at all. I showed up at noonhour where she was going to tell me when I could go. She shows up, looking gorgeous as usual, and then, she tells me that her computer was fine. ;_;
I feel like a loser now.
Crap ><. Now you have to give up or try to do something. Maybe ask her out? It's not that hard really... You just need some place where you'll be able to talk with her. Without any friends. Just 2 of you.
Radio, thats okay. A misstep at this stage isnt that fatal... I think. You guys are just acquaintances right now, right? You should probably try to get to know her more, and stuff. If SAS has a boyfriend, well...
I know where her locker is, I'll see if I can talk to her tomorrow morning. There's just a minor problem... I don't know how to ask a girl out. ;_;
Try to think about any reason. Maybe just ask her out somewhere. Like for a tea/cofee/ice cream/pie/lunch so many options ><. BTW. how old are you?
Oh.. I've almost forgot. Don't ask her out to the cinema.
Reasons:
right now talking is important. So think about anything that will let you talk with her.
So forget about DDR...
Not to mention I'm not much of a movie-type to be with.
As for age, I'm 14. Yeah, I know it's young for relationships and those never work out but I'm lonely, desperate, and I don't want to miss this opportunity.
Besides, I think she knows I'm lonely since I usually just sit outside of their studio and refresh del.icio.us/popular all day long.
just go ahead and talk to her. ask her about her pc just to see if she has any other problems about the pc that maybe u could help. when youve got a nice talk going on then you could ask her out
follow >>138's advice, just ask her out for a coffee or somn..
ps: ask around if she's single!!!
Yeah, your main priorities right now are to check if she is single, talk to her more and maybe ask her out to someplace casual. Er, unless you know she plays/is interested in/knows about DDR you better not talk about it. Might sound creepy. Eh, what do I know?
You're 14, so it's really lotta easier. Just meet her somewhere @ school (somewhere far from her/your friends) and ask her out for a lunch or something. Don't tell her when, just ask her if she would like to go out with you sometime. And If she'll say that it's ok then you can choose the date. So don't treat it like a date but just like a meeting with a friend. "Friends" is a good begining. You have to talk a lot. One of my friends told me, that there is no such thing as a friendship between girl and a guy. Sooner or later it'll turn into love and it'll be the end of friendship. So, make her your friend.
And remember! No showing off on ddr >_<. It's not helping a bit.
>Er, unless you know she plays/is interested in/knows about DDR you better not talk about it.
SAS is quite the fan. She even plays DDR music on the station sometimes. :O (And now with Supernova, probably more IIDX songs since there are lots of IIDX transplants, but I'll shut up now since this is /love/ and not /games/)
>You're 14, so it's really lotta easier.
And she's 15/16 years old. It'd maybe look a little weird.
>And remember! No showing off on ddr >_<. It's not helping a bit.
Closest arcade is 40 minutes away. Other than that, it's my house or her house. If we stay away from our houses and that arcade, I can't really show off on DDR. :P
>ps: ask around if she's single!!!
Here's the problem with asking around. It usually gets out to people that way and I don't really want more rumors to spread about me in the school.
One of my friends told me that she was with a guy last Monday or so. She broke up with him the next day according to him. The problem is, I don't know if it's true or not. If I ask the other girls at the station, I think it'll be quite obvious what my intentions are. Besides that, I don't know who else would know.
Do I take a chance and ask her other friends?
>(somewhere far from her/your friends)
Hm. I'll see what I can do. I just hope this doesn't end up like all my other failed relationships. ;_;
Hmm.. I've got an idea. Just download stepmania and loads of packs for it (I've got personally 12GB pack of songs ;)) and ask her if she wants you to install it for her ^_^. But thats the idea for later. Right now just try to talk with her in some quiet and maybe a bit romantic place.
Most of the ~16 years old girls prefere older guys. Thats bad, cuz she may consider you as a kid, but if you'll make a good impression (try to act like you are older then you really are) it may work...
Can you tell me if it's cold now in the place you live? Cuz it would help me in getting few ideas for you. It's -20C in my country now >< so the best place to go out with girl is a tea house. We've got a pretty nice one close to my house. All of the people are sitting on the floor that is filled with pillows in a small rooms separated by curtains and thin walls. Rooms are lit by the candles. You can smell nargila in the whole place and you can listen to the hindu music that comes from the hidden speakers. If I would like to go on a date, I would consider such place...
Now now Radio... just because she's 15/16 doesn't mean you can't get her. You gotta show her yo' moves. Not on DDR, though. I'm talkin' about "I SIMPLY ROCKED TOO HARD" moves. Yeah, you know what I'm talkin' about. You know, things go well, you might be showin' her your "OH" face. You know what I'm talkin' about- "OH OH OH OH" xD. Buuuuuuut anyway... seriously, Radio, don't sweat it. What you gotta do is like, break something minor on the comp, then be all dumb and be like "zomg wtf hapened 2 my c0mputar!?!??" and you'll go up to her and be like, "Hey, umm, something happened to my computer and I have no idea what I did. Can you fix it?" And she'll be like "5UR3!" So then she goes over, you sit down, she fixes it over your shoulder, and after shes done, you thank her profusely. You then proceed to ask her out on a small little meeting- but about computers. Ask her to tutor you, because you're OBVIOUSLY not good with computers, LOL! She'll say yes or no. If she questions it, tell her that it's purely as friends and it'll only be like 30 minutes. If she accepts, w00t. If not, oh well, try again later plx.
Anyway, good luck, Radio. I'll be here if you need me, if you know what I mean.
"Ooh Peter... ooh ooh ooh~" -OfficeSpace
Ekhm... But she asked him to fix her cpu, not the other way. So probably she thinks that he knows quite a lot about computers. So playing dumb won't help him ><
No, she asked him to fix a problem on her computer. He could possibly not know enough to fix a different problem. Sometimes even I have problems fixing things. But in the end, I do, because Google is my second best friend. :]
>>149 Thats just perfect. I gave him so many advices but none of theme was as true as yours ><
I don't want to know where. Just give me some weather report. Is it snowing? Is it sunny? I've never been closer than x000 miles to USA...
-10 Celsius. Approximately. There aren't tea houses around here (that comment made me think of Hermes :P) but there are coffee shops not too far from school. :)
Then invite her to one of those coffee shops, Radio! Not as a date, but as friends... I.E, at the end of school or whatever, you can go up to her and say, "Hey, you want to go grab some coffee?" or whatever.
YES!!! Thats a good idea!
It sucks man. I can't meet a girl. I don't know any girls. I don't know anyone!
19. Anyway, it's like after high school I don't know anyone. I go to college, but I commute so I don't have much opportunity to meet people. And actually not even in college this semester cause of some screwup which I won't get into. I'm not a bad looking guy or anything, it's just like I don't know anyone and have no way to meet people.
>>157 It's so common in here >< People should just change their attitude...
So what's your age?
Don't tell me that you don't know anyone...
19 like I said, and it's true! I have not a single person in the real world that I would even call a "friend," no one who I hang out with or talk to or whatever. I mean, in high school I has sortafriends. But they weren't great enough friends that I kept in touch outside of high school.
Well that might be something, but see now this semester I'm stuck not even being able to attend college because of some mixup in which I have to find some sorta job to pay tuition money I suddenly found out I owe. So it's like I'm just stuck at home all day now. Haven't found my job yet or whatever.
What I can't MULTITASK
u really need to consider ur priorities first, man. u need the money to go to college and to financially go out on a date with anyone. if u cant multitask then dont. do things step by step. your 19 so im sure your able to work it out somehow..
i agree with >>162 find a club that you have any interest then join it. you'll make friends and people will notice you more.
ps: what happen to Radio Otoko? how is it going on with SAS? probably already started to ask her out to coffee hopefully.
the problem is reality is kinda sad sometimes. work on making it better. lets hope for the best
RADIO OTOKO! WE'RE WAITING FOR THE REPORT!!!
Actually, I'm not at school. We don't have school today. Ha. I can't really do anything until Monday. You'll have to wait until then to find out.
And >>171, you don't even know me. Stop pretending you do.
now that'l take a while..
take your time and looking forward to this coming monday for both of you..;)
just don't stress yourself out over it
You got 2 days for planning. Thing about the perfect tactic ^_^.
>>175 I'm seriously considering asking her friends about her status before doing anything. That way, if she's taken, I can get over it and she won't notice a thing.
But the least you can do is get to know her and become friends, right?
IF YOU'LL ASK HER FRIENDS THERE IS A GREAT CHANCE THAT THEY'LL TELL HER ABOUT IT ><.
Better just ask her out. Don't call it date. Just ask her out for a coffe like a friend.
If you'll ask her friends, you won't stop gossips around you. It may become your curse ><. If you'll just ask her out even if she have a boyfriend she may go out with you. Then she'll tell you. Just as a friend. If she'll say "no" only both of you will know about it.
>>180
Hi, I am 180, I will ask you guys for advice then completely ignore it and get all pissy with the people who tried to help me!
Looks like we have ourselves some serious business here.
Ok. if you think that they won't tell her, then ask them. But I would still recomend you the things I said in 179. Why? Because I went through the exactly same thing. I asked few of my friends if the girl is free, and what they did? They promised me not to tell her about it and guess what was the first thing they did when I was gone? >_<
But it's your decission.
We're waiting for your report.
Just don't be too slow with everything, cuz you may lose the best thing in your life.
let radio otoko make his own decision. we're here to offer advice not tell im what to do. it's up to him to pick and choose what to do. I'm glad you aren't blindly listening to us. ADD OIL RADIO OTOKO!
come back and report again plz!
>>185 Thats what I tried to say in my 184th post.
We are only giving our own opinions and you can either use them or reject them. It's up to you. After all it's your life ;). Don't forget about it Radio!
I understood your message. :) and I whole heartily agree!
Oil? Whatever. :P
See you tomorrow afternoon, guys.
the anticipation is killing me! @_@
If you ask about her status her friends will tell her, assuming her friends are all girls. Most girls do not really know how to be discreet in this aspect. That might not be a negative thing though. That way she knows you are interested so she could also initiate something. At that age girls have not learned how to be patient and graceful so they do not fear looking too eager or desperate as girls my age do.
If you want to do it the tradtional way and ask her out, do not bother with the as friends thing. It is a waste of time and it is more flattering for her knowing that it is a date and you like her more deeply than "just friends". A really formal date might make her ill at ease so something quiet but simple is alaways nice.
Good luck with whatever happens!
And I'm back.
Sadly, I didn't see her at all today. The bad news is I have nothing to report to you. The good news is that this incident gives me an extra day to figure things out.
Sorry for letting you down.
But did you talked with her friends yet???
Oh well... probably not. We are waiting ^^. Don't act too fast and don't be too slow ^^. Just find the good speed and always go forward never backward ;) if you know what I mean...
I hope that tommorow you'll give us some good news ;)
im stupid, last weekend, on friday i went to this con, i saw this pretty girl there, who also kept checking me out. this kept happening thru the day. then, i went back again on saturday, she was there again, with buncha friends, and she was still checking me out and glancing at me, was thinking of talking to her, but, ah, too many people. ok so, heres my folley, so, i start to go home from the con and get to the train station, and who do i see, but her, with no one else, and, she sees me, and then looks away. but the thing is, im frozen, trying not to look at her, couldnt even say a single word, i couldnt move, i just stood there, and so, my train came, which wasnt hers, and i went home. god, im so stupid and shy, but, i suppose we all learn from our mistakes, and i will NEVER let this happen AGAIN. i so regret this, so so so much. pretty girl, who just went to a nerd convention, and looks slightly interested in u? i mean come on, thats a perfect setup, ah...rants....im stupid
>>195 WakabaMark strikes again! I didn't talk with her friends since I only saw one of her friends today and she was busy with a teacher, and class was beginning. I then tried to look around for her but had no luck.
I do have some news though. Our school is having its annual snow day on the 16th of February so I'm just hoping we pick the same activity (we can choose to go to one of two or three activities out of town that day, which is awesome since I'm getting sick of this town) and get to hang out together that day. Of course, that's if she comes, but I hope so! (I'm getting carried away, where was I?)
Ah yes, another thing, this is somewhat bad news though. Her class is having a trip to Italy (and Greece I believe) which means I won't see her for nearly a week or two around April. I might be a bit pessimist but I'm hoping nothing happens while she's on the trip.
I just hope she doesn't get... taken while on the trip. ORZ
I need to take action quickly. Hopefully she'll be there tomorrow and I can resume this exciting story.
As for >>196, that's what this topic is fore. Ranting. :P You're not stupid at all.