>>292
Send her your own valentine, marked with a fingerprint?
Wire yourself up with a hidden recorder and confront him?
>>298 My first name has a spelling distinction from all the other ways of spelling my name. Mine is the most uncommon. Therefore, if the guy misspelled my name, I've got something to use against him.
Besides she has the same problem as I do (when it comes to names), so I wouldn't be surprised if she understood.
Radio, just get rid of your friends and talk with her!!! I told you that if you'll try to talk with her, she'll tell you what she feels. Come on! It shouldn't be that hard and it'll really help you. You won't be so confused after that cuz it'll all get clear. If she'll dump you, take it as a man, and if she'l laccept you, just be happy and don't care about idiots. I just came back home and I had to read about your problems. So tell your friends to just get lost even without giving them reasons and go talk with her. If you have enough feelings for her, you should do it. I'm counting on you.
radio i hope it works out!!
Make sure you talk to her before Valentine's day, and then you'll have the upper hand over the other guy no matter what he's planning. It won't look good if he tries something while you're still not talking.
don't give up!
Actually, the cards are given on the same day as they are sent. So I don't know if she got it yet or not.
hey hey hey...
RADIO! We need some new info!
I have nothing to report. orz
This is the second time I've confessed to a girl and haven't ever heard from her since. Way to fail. :(
whenever you fall off the horse you just get back on.
Try to TALK with her! You went through a lot. Don't just give up!
I don't know how many times I have to say it~~
is she still avoiding you?
Hmm.. Tommorow is Valentines Day... The best time to go TALK TO SAS! C'mon Radio... Just say 2 letters. H and I. Then, let her respond... or something.
>>311 It's more than two letters in French. Actually, I might not even be able to see her much at all due to something I mentioned a while ago... We have to go to the university in the afternoon so I won't be there when I'd regularly see her. :(
Oh well, happy Singles' Awareness Day to all.
awww :( so what do you plan to do now Radio?
I suspect she's actually taken. From what I've heard, the MVP from our school's basketball team is dating her. If anything, going any further would get me beaten down by the basketball team.
I just think I'll remain an acquaintance from now on and bump into her randomly once in a while. I don't think this will go anywhere, but I can stay strong and move on (yet again)...
Well..at least you can honestly tell yourself that you tried. It's better than not having done anything at all and wondering what would've happened if you did.
yeah, radio, seriously i once let a girl go, and man i regret it to this day. i still dont know if she was taken or not, but man i really wished i had the balls to asked.
There are no successes and failures. There are only successes and experiences. So just go on, and maybe try to talk with her one day.
and she didn't say anything to you about the fact she's going out with someone even after you confessed?
Well, she didn't go through with it. She dumped me yesterday. No shit off my ass...
Damn! Why is it so hard to talk with girls nowadays? Specially pretty ones! Sometimes its like I have a huge tag on my head that informs them that I'm a level 4 to their level 1. HOw do you talk with someone that already assumes that you've got nothing to offer? In case you're wondering about the levels...
Level 1 - Attractive and wealthy.
Level 2 - Attractive but not wealthy.
Level 3 - Not Attractive but wealthy.
Level 4 - Neither attractive nor wealthy. But has some sort of talent or skill.
Level 5 - Neither attractive nor wealthy. Can't do shit exeptionally well.
HOnest to god, some girls (the pretty ones) I knew rated people this way! It's just sad that they didn't factor, you know, basic human qualities like kindness, understanding and such...
There are no successes and failures. There are only failures and lesser failures!
Level 2 and 3 would be reversed in the past... still might/should be reversed.
just gotta level yourself up by gaining more experience points and gil
>>321
You sound like the gods bigest failure.
I don't ever feel like failing. I just have experiences. I'm trying to learn and be better each time. That makes me winner every time.
>>320
sounds like i got a big number 5 on my forehead, girls just ignore me these days
There is no number for me ><. I'm a bit attractive, not wealthy, good with computers and anime related stuff. Never had problems with girls though >.>
Anyone notice in >>320 when I typed the sentence: "HOnest to god, some girls (the pretty ones)I knew rated people this way!"
I typed the "HO" in the word honest in all caps? Which would exactly describe these girls I meant. Is that some sort of Freudian slip or somthing?
CONFIDENCE is the answer. You can be only mildly attractive and not at all wealthy if you have confidence. Girls want to know that you can protect them, and care for them. Moping about how girls don't like you all day is only showing me that you have no confidence.
On the other hand, be a genuinely nice guy for a long time and you may find that perfect girl too, but you still have to be a little confident.
This is why we dont have girlfriends. =p
>>329
But according to this, hot asian chicks should be all over me unless a bix nood intervenes! However, this is not the case. What am I doing wrong?
stop trying to be asian
ちんちんみてまんまんおっき
anyone ever tried hypnotherapy to get over someone?
BE A MAN HULK, do it the hard way. You know, hard liquor.
tried that. didn't work. hard, soft, fruity. nothing :(
I'm not visiting this place that often anymore from the time when Radio Otoko gave up on SAS :(. It makes me feel sad...
nothing new, Radio?
this thread seems dead
God all of you sad people talking about girls. Look at it this way: You don't have to prove a damn thing to these women, but they have to prove they are good enough for you. REAL women worth having don't want some wishy washy nice guy. They want someone capable of being an extreme asshole without being creepy about it. This way they know exactly what they are getting and will be able to live with it.
Case in point. If you like a girl, if you think "Hey, not bad. Why not, hell I ain't got nothing better to do" Then go up...say "Hey My name is so and so, what's your name?" Then when she tells you her name say something like "cool, hey yer pretty cute you know that. Anyways, see you around, k?" Then the next time you see her just talk to her the same way you'd talk to a you haven't seen for a while. Then if you still kind of like her(you know she isn't too flaky or lame.) Say "Hey you doing anything later?" If she says no(She might claim to have a boyfriend or something, this could be a lie as all women are equipped with creep filters) say "you sure? Ok. Well, maybe next time." WITHOUT MISSING A BEAT. DO NOT BEG OR PLEAD OR WHINE. The NEXT TIME you see her, try it again. She will most likely say yes this time.
Also LEARN HOW TO PLAY THE FIELD. These 18 year olds are usually stupid and love drama games. Try someone a little older and a little more desperate. Like 29. RECENT DIVORCEES ARE SOFT TARGETS. CAUTION CAUTION CAUTION: Unless you like recent divorcees after being with them for a while watch out because they love drama and have crazy homocidal ex's. The benefit is that most of them have jobs and are looking for adventure. Another downside is kids. They may want you to be a replacement father. BEWARE.
Finally, LEARN TO PICK UP REBOUNDS. Good ol' sloppy seconds.
Let me put it this way, America never won a war by being a nice ass. We bombed, nuked, slaughtered, raped and pillaged to win most of our wars and all of our battles. NICE GUYS FINISH LAST FOR A REASON. This is because women want a guy who will grab a shotgun and go after a burglar if there is a break in or beat the ever living fuck out of someone who calls her fat ass.
I hope my rambling helps someone out.
>>338 wins the thread.
SIGNED
Hah. This chick pretty much picks me up at a night club, asks for my number in 10 minutes, and texts me the very next day offering to meet up, saying she's free anytime. Then she hasn't written back for a day. How weird is that?
I tried to pick up a older girl (23ish, if that gives anyone a hint to my age...) at Barnes and Noble...
She punched me in the stomach and told me to go away. Am I a complete freak?
She literally punched you in the stomach? Ouch....What kind of clothing were you wearing, what do you look like? Details!!
Barnes and Noble 'study sessions'... good times
>>345
You probably did it wrong. If you had a bunch of manga, girly books, or something in your hand then I would probably punch you too for being creepy if I was a girl.
Plus some of these women DO want to be left the hell alone.
It is all in picking your fights. Planning your attacks.
If she had her nose in a book or had this "I'm here to look at books don't bother me" aura about her then...well..FAIL.
If a girl is sitting alone, by herself and looking out the window and thinking to herself "...oh god another year alone." Then you should come up and say something that doesn't sound like a come on. Like "Hey what's on your mind" or something. Just DON'T SOUND CREEPY. PICK YOUR TARGETS. It is like this. Pretend that you are a Marine Force Recon unit and you are cut off from supply. You are on your own and you have to have your wits about. Are you going to rush in on a heavily fortified well defended bunker? NO! That's STUPID! HOWEVER, if it was a lightly defended and isolated relay post or it was a bunch of lonely, scared and inexperienced conscript soldiers then BY ALL MEANS GO FOR IT!
Why is this so hard to understand? Women are not some unattainable thing. They are not goddesses, princesses, or queens. They are closet whores and normal people with breasts. They want what you want. Security, companionship, and the benefits of income. Only they expect YOU to provide it.
What you might want to do is hire a mercenary. You know a guy who can tag the ass and can talk you up for a girl. Just remember, he handles TACTICS. REAR END SUPPORT...this is YOUR FIGHT you gotta DO IT.
WOMEN!! KICK THEIR ASS!(Relationship and courtship wise, don't really kick their ass you will go to jail and be someone ELSE's target of opportunity)
>>348 you sound like a sane person!
I'm sure if I punched a girl because she tried to ask me out I would be convicted of assault instantly.
There is a double standard in the world get used to it.
Like in Domestic Violence the man always goes to jail.
Romance is dead and TV killed it.
>>349
In this world, it's automatically assumed that most guys are more perverted, creepier and have more power, both physical and social, than females. I've been told that the correct way of translating a unwanted guy hitting on a girl to a male situation, isn't by just reverising gender, but by a gay guy hitting on a straight guy. And unfortunately, I'd have to agree.
>>351
Ehrm, not justifying >>348's actions, merely stating why they're unfortunately understandable. I do not approve of people beating up someone who is asking them out, unless they're threatening that person's safetly. For instance, someone who doesn't take no for an answer and keeps following you like a hawk. Potentially getting rape or stalked is not good. Though the best option would be to call the police.
>>346
I was wearing an A-kon 16 t-shirt. As for what I look like...something like Densha Otoko except a taller, more overweight version. I didn't even really say anything too creepy......<< >>
what did you say?
was the imperial march playing at that time?
but seriously dude wtf. what a bitch she was.
>I was wearing an A-kon 16 t-shirt.
Herein lies the root of your failure. Was there an anime character on this shirt? When you wear it you are a freak to anyone who doesn't like or doesn't know about anime. A tall, overweight guy in an anime shirt is going to set of female nerd alarms in a 100 meter radius.
Oh, bloody hell, I just found an image of that shirt. http://homepage.mac.com/gihdora/A-Kon/PhotoAlbum71.html
Anyone else care to weigh in?
Dammit man. That was your first fatal mistake. Shirts like that will only attract overweight creepy fangirls who are so damn wapanese that it makes even the most hard core "otaku" cringe.
If you want a NORMAL girl, dress like a NORMAL person. THIS IS NOT HARD. t-shirt(NORMAL...no goddamn anime, smart ass slogans or anything...just a NORMAL shirt for a NORMAL person), jeans, shoes, and maybe a coat if it is warm. Being a little fat ass is ok for males. As long as you have a job, income, or can get a job before she finds out you are a bum THEN YOU ARE GOLDEN. Also if your hair is shaggy and nappy GET A HAIRCUT! You do NOT have to be a body nazi adonis to attract a woman. You can still be SOMEWHAT fat ass and get a decent girl as long as you are CLEAN. CLEAN CLEAN CLEAN. No dandruff, no foul smell, no messy clothes and CONTROL YOUR SWEAT AND BODY ODOR. THIS IS KEY.
"But mr. crazy man on the internet" you might say..."I still like this stupid shit, but I don't want to die a virgin. WHAT DO I DO!?" SIMPLE!!! slowly EEEAAAAAAASSEEEE her into your actual creepiness SLLLOOOOOOOWWWWLLLLYYYYY reveal it like it is something deep and that she didn't know about before. Women like a little bit of drama and mystery and by the time you are in an actual relationship with her she will already be nesting and will just put up with it like so many sad, sad, desperate women in the world who are trapped in crappy marriages/relationships. Let me put it this way. Dress up now so you can dress WAY DOWN and freely engage in flatulence around her later.
So in summary. Wear some NORMAL clothes next time, DON'T TALK ABOUT GEEK SHIT until you are actually in an actual relationship with a girl, and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE for the love of god DON'T SCREW IT UP NEXT TIME! Gawd...how hard is this...
and then you show her this message board and she and her brother gets mad at you. then she reads this board and realizes how much she means to you and you both get on a train and fly off to happiness as we cheer you on.
People overreact too much.
Every guy is not a god damn rapist.
You do not have a right to assault someone just because they offend you. You do not have a right to not be offended.
How the hell can you be offended by someone asking you out or trying to talk to you? That is a complement! Also, if a guy complements you it doesn't mean that he is automatically trying to get into your pants!
Maybe if women stopped trying to play the role of a victim when it suits them the world would be a better place. We could certainly do without the Lifetime movies.
>>355
Lol, yeah. I think I did hear the imperial march in the background.
Shit, forgot to take the "sage" out of the link field.
（ ＾ω＾） yay replyGET
Wonder why I'm still paranoid about this... Probably because age=years without(ry
this is my first post ever. firstly i cant belive radio is got snaked, also what happened to 207. details requested!!!
my own rant is, that i'v been seeing this girl for like 2 months and it doesnt seam to be going anywhere. she always says that she dosnt want a bf right now, this is because at the time we met she got just broke up with her ex which she was dating for 6 months.
we like each other and are pretty close, but i want it to be more then that, should i wait longer or go for another girl (not that i have another lined up)???
Go for another one, I guess she isn't interested in you. Tell her to make a choice if you want to search for another one.
>>364 yeah but at least with her i got something, i figure its better to have someone then to have no one?
depends. I rather have no love than unrequited love. I would VERY much rather have that.
I disagree. I have a ex-girlfriend that still loves me, I'd much rather want her finally getting over me than to continue to hurt someone in the end I don't really love.
we are realy close right now and i feel it would ruin our relationship forever, wheres as if i think would wait a couple of weeks and then sorta tell her how i feel and, brake it off?
we are realy close right now and i feel it would ruin our relationship forever, wheres as if i think would wait a couple of weeks and then sorta tell her how i feel and, brake it off?
>> 363
you know, that's exactly how my relationship with this girl went. and then before you know it, she only sees you as a friend and you're screwed.
Guess you'll have to drop hints so you won't be seen as only a friend?
Don't die on me thread!!!
my best friend is asking me who i have a crush on, it happens to be his ex and no way in hell im telling him
damn...he is a good guesser
Does it count if I'm ok with being single?
does anyone think long distance relationship will work?? alot of people tell me that its not gonna work but some say that depends on the people....
i say 60-70% they dont work
i agree, the relationship is so far away and plus you cant see each other so whats the point of it??
begin in a relationship means spending alot of time with ur partner, so with that logic long distance relationships dont work, it realy depends on when ur gonna see her next or how often u see her
While I'm very much a hopeless romantic and wish to believe with all my heart that love counqers all, I must sadly report that all instances of long-distance relationships that I've been witness too have failed.
One succeded, but that whole "long-distance" thing lasted all of four months or so, and they moved in together.
KEEP HOPE ALIVE! (But don't be a fool, eh?)
>>379
one could say that about relationships in general
Last night I realised that the girl that I've loved all these years died (metaphorically) a while back. Which is probably for the better considering it was unrequited love.
Happened to me not to long ago. I guess it helps you move on. I dont know though, ive yet to find a girl in which I can seriously like. Alot of the girls ive come to know are just party heads, and very high maintenance. Ones that wear too much make-up, really obsessive about clothes...you know those type of girls. Which I generally dislike.
Its really hard to find the nice simple girls now a-days.
I agree. This is one of the reasons I've been getting by even though I've been single for quite some time now. It seems like the few girls I think would be the effort are taken, and everyone else is just so high-maintenence or so completely into things I'm not.
I met a girl recently, whom I've become good friends with. I didn't realize she was single at the time but now she's dating another friend of mine. At first I was upset/jealous, but then I started spending time with the both of them and realized that we probably wouldn't have made a good couple. She and her boyfriend are very much into going out to bars everynight, something I'm just not that into. I go along with them sometimes, but usually when it's a group of us so I don't feel so awkward.
Nevertheless, I have met girls who get along fine with my quirks, so I know they exist. They just all have boyfriends. ^^;;;
I've been thinking alot latley whether i want to try long distance relationship but its very true what you guys said.. whats the point of it? your so far away and cant even see each other. i mean just now i havn't heard from her for 3 weeks so i dont think it will work, its best to stay good friends. sometimes i really wonder what a relationship is like cos i have neen single for my whole life at the moment ＿|￣|○" most girls i know are those "cool" types, i say hi to them and dont even get a reply ~~" by the way... if you have a dream... do most girls think your immature or something??
I don't know about the long-distance relationship, can't really say that if it's ever a good idea or not. However, I have a friend who's been in one for 7+ years, and is better off than when I first met him... even though he laments here and there about not being able to talk to her.
As for hating to be single: yeah, I do hate being single, but that is what I made of myself... an existence of loneliness. I made myself this way, and this is the way I shall stay. Unfortunately, it's not that easy, for me at least, to want to continue to stay single. Even though it was, at the time ( and still is ), considered "not really one", the experience of spending time and effort with the opposite gender, has ripped the ignorance of relationships from my character sheet. I can no longer look at my apartment and say "yeah, I'm single... who needs others?" Now, it's more like "well, shit" than anything... but I'll continue my course to stay single... not for that crap known as "the one" or, more expanded "the one for me"... because there is no other reason why I should not be.
Depends on the level of shallowness and other factors of the girl themselves: some thinks it's nuts to dream, others think that it's good to set a goal and whatnot. Unfortunately, there's too many variables and whatnot to work with, but basically there's a wide range of answers to that one.
hmm i see! thanks for that!~
most girls i know think having dreams are immature people or something ＿|￣|○" this girl i like is the only one that doesn't make fun of me because of my dream..
i don't think i've ever met a person that thinks having dreams is immature. foolish maybe but not immature lol
maybe i am just unlucky that i met those type~"~
btw if a girl ask you out... does that mean anything?
depends what you mean by ask out. like on a date or just to hang out? she could see you as a brother or something.
well... shes just returning some stuff she borrowed... but last time when we met, she dragged me to buy books with her and i bought her lunch. hhmm mayb just me thinkig to much ~"~
that doesn't really lean one way or another. that could be interpreted both ways.
really?? well i will just see what heppens later
hmm i just messaged the girl to see if shes free on wednday becasue apparently in the city there is going to be fireworks so i'm hoping i can ask her if she wants to go watch the fireworks... but maybe she doesn't want to go >"<
Gahah, she does it again.
Me "Yeah so next week let's go to [....]" (awesome date spot)
Her "Ok ^____^"
Two days later
Her "Oh btw I invited two of my girlfriends along, hope you don't mind ^____^"
Me "...." %#^&*$#%^&@
Give-up time?
Also, bumping this thread so someone can 400GET.