Hey guys, were you all clumsy on your first occasions?
I'm 23, virgin and very inexperienced. My girlfriend is a year younger than me but she has more experience.
Last night we practiced some petting and I feel ashamed because I was acting very clumsy. She made a face that looked like she's fed up with my clumsy movements.
I have collected every information I could but theory cannot replace practice. I feel bad because I'm so inexperienced despite my age. :( I couldn't bring her to the climax. I thought it will be easier, but I realized that it's pretty hard and I need to improve a lot. I know that practice makes perfect but I still feel ashamed.
What can you tell me about this? Have you all experienced this?
Communication is key. If she can't tell you what feels good, then you are pretty much just blindly fumbling. Discuss this with her.
Oh wow. "Last night we practiced some petting"! You are doing it wrong. You should both be driven together by passion, charged with animal LUST, and you should both be so fucking hungry for eachother you neither care nor worry about, this thing called sex, you are just doing what you want and feel to eachother. In that state you can't really do the wrong thing, you don't need to touch her "special places" or wtf ever, she'd be one big walking, special place and so would you.
Also it helps if you both love eachother? Doesn't sound like it to me. You worry to much, she seems, uh. Do you btw know how much your premature tampering with sexuality has fucked up your first true experience? With all these expectations and fears, things you don't need to know, things you shouldn't know. And her not being a virgin is also teh fuck for similar reasons. She will compare you to all her previous experiences, you already know that. Perhaps if she loved you so much that her past has been totally washed away and she's like a virgin anew, but it doesn't sound like it to me. If at least she loved you in that way you would definately not sit here sharing your concerns about a bad petting experience.
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I asked her "does it feel good?" and she replied "yes" and "you're starting to do it right" but her face was emotionless. I don't know if she enjoyed it...
You know... I tried to find her clit but despite my knowledge of anatomy I don't think I've found what I was looking for...
I think I have so much to learn. Once she told me that I'm a good kisser. Well, maybe but I've only kissed 3 girls in my life, including her.
My cousin (who is female, older than me and already has family and kids) told me to drink something before these practices to suppress these thoughts and to be casual. Do you think this should work? Usually I don't drink, only on special occasions and sometimes a beer on a hot day.
> Also it helps if you both love eachother? Doesn't sound like it to me.
Well, you're right. I like her but I'm not in love with her. I already told her about it and she said that she can wait. I don't know if she loves me, but probably not.
I had a girlfriend before, I loved her, but the feeling wasn't requited I think. Maybe that's the problem...
Well animal lusting comes without love if you put it in that order, so purely sexual you could get it going if you were confident about what you're doing. But without love and experience, she won't really get off, lack of tolerance, patience, interest will stink shit up while you fumble around, reeking of nervousness and fear. She might even start thinking you're pathetic and get disgusted, or if you're lucky she will think that, feel bad about it and give you a blowjob.
Maybe you should just not be so uptight about it, whats this setting up practice-time? Just wait for a moment when it's sex in the air(you should be able to savor those moments, but maybe you're to scared to seize them) and let yourself loose like a kid in a toy-store. Let your lust and excitement dictate your actions, not your fear. It's instinct, you have it in you already, and it would've been unleashed like a fucking thunderstorm without all this knowledge you have stuffed yourself with. Now with that you think theres all this crap you need to understand and that makes you unable to act without fear and doubt. If you acted instinctively, she would sense it, she's also an animal, and she would let herself go too and you would fuck like there was no tomorrow.
>>4 no, I don't think you should try drinking before the "practices" because the effects of alcohol can be really unpredictable. Sure, there's a chance that it'll make you wild and passionate, but there's also a better chance of it making you too sleepy to do anything, and also making it harder to get "it" up. And, wouldn't it be sad if you drank too much and couldn't even remember what happened? (ToT) The smell of beer isn't too attractive..
I agree with >>5, the more spontaneous it is, the better. Making a routine for these things makes it boring for girls. I'd like it if, when I was least expecting it, a guy just surprised me and went for it.
>>I'd like it if, when I was least expecting it, a guy just surprised me and went for it.
lol! Just anyone, anytime huh?
>>1
Well as you see theres nothing to worry about, what pretty much all women get off by the most is the notion that they drive men crazy, and the more evident it is, the better. So just unleash yourself.
>Well, you're right. I like her but I'm not in love with her.
Maybe you should hold off on the physical stuff until you find someone for whom you have stronger feelings than "like".
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Maybe... But I don't know if I ever find a girl like this. :( And I'm a little late with these things, I may need some experience so when I find the "true one" I won't act awkwardly.
I'm not in love with her, I don't know if I will develop stronger feelings for her, I can't control my feelings.
There's no other girl in sight so I should stay with her and get some experience, shouldn't I?