Crawling back to your exes (10)

1 Name: (;´Д`) : 2006-10-08 23:57 ID:5jIJWbaP

Is it just me, or do both women and men most often tend to go back to their ex-boyfriend and girlfriends after a set period of time? I understand it's a rash generalization, but I know a lot of people (and have heard of a lot of people) who kiss and make up (have sex) with their exes after a time has passed.

I'd think the two would've broke up for a reason, a reason strong enough to end the relationship, but I don't think that always applies, either. That, and it may have been a long enough time to forget about the differences and try to start a new relationship.

I'm one of those people. I've had an online relationship (it was a long time ago! :() and after 2-3 years I began talking to that woman again - not to re-establish a relationship though. On the contrary, I've attempted to date girls and have failed miserably. For those girls, I swear I'd deck them if I ever saw them again. So yeah, obviously it is a generalization.

But has anyone known of people who've broken up, only to start a relationship again later?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-09 02:08 ID:umBL/7L7

Yes, that's exactly what happened to me. Trying to woo this girl for awhile now, and we were hitting it off pretty damn good, but now she's talking with her ex again who treated her like absolute shit and will probably do so again. Funny how shit works.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-10 01:09 ID:IBHCYxR8

I miss my ex... I don't think he's the type to come back to me though 'cause it was my first relationship and I was a bit overemotional. And although I have changed plenty since then (it's been a couple years), he still has that impression in his mind. So I was thinking of leaving him for a few years for him to get over that impression.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-12 10:13 ID:vN7In0fH

I guess it's that sense of familiarity. You've shared something with them that you don't normally share with other people, so you still recognise that. As for the reason behind the initial break up, time can heal mistakes and pain.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-10-12 15:19 ID:mQITblbX

Time and loneliness can also help you forget about your differences, even if they are really still there. That's why lots of people go back to their ex-significant others.

What >>4 said plays a part too. Lots of men and women go back because they've shared intimacy with this other person. Especially if it's been a long relationship. The other person has become a part of your life and your life can seem like it's missing something without them. This doesn't necessarily make going back to them a good thing, it just means that they became such a part of your life that you're having a hard time letting go.

6 Name: carn : 2006-11-21 23:05 ID:2SrQRUz4

What >>5 said hits it right on the head. I was with a girl for 3 years and we broke up twice in that 3 years. I kept going back to her because I felt alone, and I did not think anyone else would be a better choice then her, so I would go back, find out I still could not work our old problems out, and leave again. after the 2nd time leaving, I found someone knew that I worked with and she really makes me happy :) for anyone thinking about going back to there ex's just remember there really are more fish in the sea...

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-23 21:43 ID:9TNQ2Qyg

online relationship? wow quit life. sure you can forget your differences, but theyre still there, always will be there, dont forget that

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-23 22:39 ID:97STF3zE

There are a lot of people who break up, to see what else is out there. Also, they can become bored and almost too comfortable with the relationship, when they're not ready to be that comfortable in a relationship.

9 Name: Hanyuu : 2006-11-26 22:25 ID:7thBAxKP

Frankly, it depends on the situation, but there's a pride issue about going back to your exes. You broke up for a reason, and it was a good enough reason to put you apart. Why the heck are you coming back now? 'Cause you're lonely? Heck, if you break up, and still love the person, why don't you ask, "why did I break up in the first place?", huh? It's just being irresponsible, if you ask me.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-27 06:16 ID:Heaven

>>9 Then it'd depend on if you were the person that did the breaking up or took the breaking up.

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