I turn 18 years old in a couple of hours and I still have not gotten anything whatsoever from a girl. No kissing, no dates, nothing. I know you're all probably bored of these "why the hell can't I get laid thread" but I feel as long as I'm becoming a member of this over-18 super virgin club, I might as well make a post about it.
No, I'm not socially inept or ugly as shit. I'm 5"11 and 165 pounds definitely better looking than many people I know who are getting laid. I'm not socially inept (or hikkikimori or whatever you guys call it) but here's the thing: I have a lot of friends and I like them a lot, but they're only men. I am not remotely close to a single female in terms of friendship. This sounds awful but in all honesty, I can't see how guys can stand being around girls. None of them are funny, they're not particularly interesting to talk to... seriously guys, I'm sure sex is awesome as hell but aren't you just bored out of your mind every minute you have to spend alone with a girl? I'm sorry, I know I'm wrong and everything but I just don't understand it.
You don't know what love is, do you? You're only 18 - it's not surprising that you don't know what it is. To be honest, if you go around with the mentality of feeling a need to have a girlfriend, you probably never will.
Girls hate the mentality you have. Get rid of it or have miserable relationships for the rest of your life.
Sounds like you need a tomboy. I agree that girls can sometimes be boring. When I hang out with them, if I'm the only guy in the group, I look for a way out ASAP [troll] They alway talk about dumb shit like feelings and handbags [/troll]
Either that, or the girls you talk to treat you like one of their girlfriends, and that sucks. When a girl really likes you, she'll try to talk to you like you're a boy.
But it could be your own doing. How many girls are you meeting out there? Are you even trying to put yourself out there? They don't usually fall into your lap. Do you go to any school clubs or hang out in certain places? Look for girls there. If it's hard to make a cold start with a girl, friends of friends are also a great place to start. You already have a connection, and you immediately start as an acquaintance.
None of them are funny, or are particularly interesting to talk to? I can only see three possibilities for how someone could have aquired such a strange viewpoint.
Or it could be something else, I don't know, but I can't imagine what. In any case, as long as you hold that mentality, you can forget about any sort of decent or meaningful relationship, and your chances of any romantic or sexual action are greatly reduced. As 2 said, girls hate the mentality you have. Girls want guys who seems genuinely interested in them, and what they have to say. You can cover up your mentality to some extent, pretending to be interested and such, but it won't get you very far. Females need to sense a connection and mutual enjoyment of each others company in order to bond. The best you can hope for is some slut who may want to sleep with you to boost her ego, if you're hot enough to impress her friends.
Don't worry about not having female friends.
You normally shouldn't bother spending time with a women who you aren't romantically involved with for several reasons.
As for getting some action, have you been doing anything at all to make this happen? Very rare is the situation in which a women will approach you out of nowhere and just offer her body for your sexual fulfilment. If this does happen it's probably 2AM, you're drunk, and she has a very large adam's apple.
>>3
Thank you for somewhat agreeing with me. As for clubs, I am on the rugby team, which is I guess one of the reasons all of my friends are male. When I hang out with other guys girls are basically NEVER present.
>>4
Fucked up sense of humor? You're God damned right. I can hold conversations with girls just fine, it's just that it's impossible to say what I'm thinking to them or else they'll be completely lost. They're like another fucking species.
I am not defending this inherently homosexual ideal that I hold, and I would like to get a girlfriend and talk to her and have sex with her. I just haven't met a single girl in high school who I can see spending more than five minutes alone with.
I remember two years ago my best friend got his first girlfriend. She was this incredibly hot asian girl but she was incredibly fucking boring to speak to. Every time my friend was around her he would switch into this other mode, and he wasn't my friend anymore but some stupid bitch faggot who would go on and on about the gayest shit imaginable. Pretty soon he's fucking her, but after a bit he got used to having sex I guess and they broke up for some stupid ass reason I forget. It went on for like half a year though, and he did not win her over by being the man who likes racist jokes and gears of war and injuring people in rugby games. I don't want to fucking change to cater to what a girl wants in a guy. Just strikes me as the dumbest thing ever.
>I don't want to fucking change to cater to what a girl wants in a guy. Just strikes me as the dumbest thing ever.
It's a two way thing. You shouldn't expect your average girl to care about rugby any more than you care about handbags. Try to find some common ground with any potential girl. Also expand your own interests if you can. Books and movies both make good conversation.
I also expect that you're mostly seeking out hot, self-centered girls. (If this is wrong, don't shoot me.) Try just talking to a girl who looks like she hasn't spent lots of time and money looking perfectly perfect. You might be surprised to find someone with a sense of humor who doesn't have a mind like a sieve.
>[troll] They alway talk about dumb shit like feelings and handbags [/troll]
I forgot to add: this made me lol. Whenever I'm with a group of just guys they talk about lesbians and fuckable girls vs. dateable girls. (And I actually don't give a shit... I find that a lot more interesting than handbags.)
Whenever I'm with a group of just guys we usually end up talking about science fiction, or ethics of sci-fi elements should they become part of our own timeline.
>>6 Please use Anonidate. I'm sure you'll find a guro girl soon enough.
Wait, isn't there one already here? Maybe she has some references.