Long distance relationship problems (13)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-13 17:05 ID:NFkr/MB6

I've just started dating a girl online again (we went for a break) and things are going great except 2 things.

  1. I can't get her to get sexual (pictures, etc) but she'll talk about sex.
  2. She has gone on some stupid college thing for a month and will probably not be able to speak to me until she gets back.

Am I wasting my time here? The sexy stuff isn't the only thing I want but without it nothing has changed since we were friends. Is there anyway I can speed up the process because I'm really thinking of leaving her.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-13 18:13 ID:Heaven

>>1
Errr, keep her as a friend, then, I suppose?

3 Name: 43 : 2008-06-13 21:05 ID:cjtDSXQ1

>>1

How far is she from you? What are the chances you or her will pay a visit to the other?

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-13 22:02 ID:NFkr/MB6

>>3
She lives in California, I'm in England so chances are pretty slim right now. The problem is I really care for her but she's testing how much I actually love her with all the shit she keeps throwing up.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-14 00:30 ID:NFkr/MB6

Ok so I just sent her an email telling her I'm going to start calling her, and if she doesn't want me to, she can just say (if she says no I'm breaking it off). Am I heading along the right lines?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-14 03:38 ID:zcG5J2xH

>>5 how long have you two been together? If it's still early, don't say something like that. You never know when love will REALLY blossom.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-14 09:56 ID:NFkr/MB6

>>6
On and off for around 8 months so it's not early but we've only been back together for like 4 days now. Do you know of any ways we could interact more? I'm getting really bored of MSN/Yahoo.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-14 10:21 ID:Qo0TWYD+

when my ex was in england and i was in japan, we often had phone sex though. sometimes on webcam too. not enough though lol

>>7
get skype. or go see her. on and off doesnt sound youre actually a couple especially when you cant see each other. i dont think youre right for each other. sorry

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-14 11:17 ID:NFkr/MB6

>>8
No need to be sorry, thanks for the advice. I left her before but she could be the one or something, I just can't be away from her... Maybe Skype is a good idea, but it feels like I'm the only one making an effort here. If I don't receive an email by tomorrow I think I'd be best to move on.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-14 14:49 ID:n8Iw4Xpd

You seem to care a lot about her, but she seems as if she's not making a lot of effort to put much into your relationship. Have you talked to her? Tell her your feelings before you decide to move on. If nothing works still, move on.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-14 18:26 ID:NFkr/MB6

>>10
Well what should I say? I can't just be blunt and tell her I'm the only reason we're still together.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 09:33 ID:NFkr/MB6

Another twist in the plot!

I spoke to her best friend earlier and she wants me to go for it and try to make things work. Problem is she doesn't know we're already dating which pisses me off - if you can't tell your friends who you're dating you're either 13 or not mature enough to have anyone right?

I'm so confused right now.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-16 06:23 ID:NFkr/MB6

Update. It sounds like she loves me alot and she emailed me sounding pretty down but caring at the same time. Is she mesing with my mind or do I really have a good thing here?

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