Ok so I met this girl, at an anime convention... (I know, I know)
The thing is we really hit it off in a big way, she lives really far away so we both went home feeling fuzzy and warm and we now talk to each other all the time online, all really great stuff.
Now here is the rub: I am 21 and she is 16, while this is not a legal issue we realised while planning a trip for me to come and visit her that there is no way I can lie to her parents about my age, I just can't do it. She has already told them I am 19. I have asked her to speak to her mother before I come and see her as I just can't be dishonest and I don't feel comfortable coming into their home and lying.
Worst that can happen is we are never allowed to see each other, which would really suck, the whole fact she lives with her parents is a total reality check... WTF DO I DOOOO?
TL;DR: 21 year old guy with 16 year old girl, will the parents murder me when they find out?
If you think the father is someone you could drink a beer or any alcoholic drink with and loosen him up so you can talk to him, go for it. It's a problem if you drink.
And why is it that people reacted to horribly to the thread where I stated I am with a 15 year old girl, but you get nothing but cheers? Sure, you're two years younger and she's a year older, but I don't see nearly as much poor advice here than in my thread. Probably my wording. Nothing against you, OP, as I'm cheering for you all the way.
>>15 I read your thread and I think the bad reaction is a simple matter of legality, perhaps, if your relationship is illegal you should, as an adult, hold back until it falls inline with the law...?
You're going to get buttraped in prison.
Oh great, now the idiots invade my thread... >>17 has a point though even if such simple English is used to express it. In the case of >>15 it IS a legal issue, in my case I am legally sound but there is a moral implication I have had to work through. No one should become involved in a relationship that could end up getting you thrown in jail, no girl is worth buttrape, right?
I think you are a perverted freak and should be in prison. Pervert!
Anyways... back on topic then... I think it should be pretty good going to see her family, both the mother and the older sister seem to like me so I think the father will warm to the idea in time.
I agree with >>14, I am not the kind of person who behaves falsely, although I may have to tone down my often nasty sense of humour... I would think the shouting of memes of making sarcastic jokes is probably not advisable...
>>15 yeah he drinks, I am thinking if I turn up with a nice bottle of wine that should loosen everyone up a bit.
We are not going to be allowed to share a bed, lol, so that will be annoying but we have all kinds of romantic outings planned so apart from that it will be perfect!
Well, I met my boyfriend when I was 15 and he 20 (now I'm 22 and he 27 <3) so I know what you are dealing with.
Be yourself is my best advice and make sure to tell the girl's father that you will protect her with your life, if necessary. Make him sure that he is putting his girl into the right hands.
And the wine it's not the best idea the first time you meet! Don't let him see you as the "alcoholic" type XD! Let the gift thing for the second time you see him, after you learn what kind of things he likes.
Good luck!
Sorry for my English x_x!
>21 year old guy with 16 year old girl, will the parents murder me when they find out?
no.her mom get naked and sucks ur young cock
You can't make her father like you, but if you can convince him that you are a reliable person you will have won the day. Most fathers are just concerned about their daughter's well being. Once convinced tht she will be fine he will be more relaxed about it.
Awww, this warms my sad little heart.
Just be friendly around the family, and show them you care about their daughter. A little bit of very casual PDA around them is okay - I'm talking about hand holding, sitting close to her on the couch, etc. If the dad wants to talk to you about her, tell him you think she's amazing, and that you'll be extra careful not to hurt her since she's so young. Just do your best to come off as a mature, likable person, and you'll be fine. The fact that you weren't willing to lie to them is already something in your favor.
Good luck, and keep us updated. I love a good love story.
OP here, and I learned 2 tripcode!
Just a quick update after the visit!
It went much better than I ever imagined, the mother really likes me, we had a really deep chat about my relationship with her daughter and she ended up hugging me and telling me I'm great! The father was fine with me too and I even managed to get the sister on my side.
Most importantly love is blooming between me and the girl, we spent the most amazing time together hugging, kissing, watching sunsets and talking endlessly. The main problem is she lives really far away (about 7 hours travel for me) and leaving her was very upsetting, the whole long distance thing is kinda hard but also pretty cool in some ways...
But anyway, if things continue to go this well I will probably just up sticks and move to her town.
We are going to stay together again in a couple of weeks so I don't have too long to wait before I get to see her again!
Oh and >>24 an amazing love story is unfolding as we speak, I will keep you guys posted, thanks for the support!
great to hear such good news, and best wishes for your relationship!
I'm happy for you but if i where you i would hurry up an move 2 her town because in my past experinces log distant relasion ships almost never work.
>>27 Waaaa! I am gonna move there as soon as I can, I can't say I know of many successful long distance relationships either... I am worried sometimes that it's all too good to be true and it might not work out, but even if I move to be with her and it goes wrong I can just come home again. I have nothing to lose and everything to gain!
good luck with your relationship :D
leave it alone friend.
take my word on this as a similar situation happened to me & it ended up horribly. (for a while it was very good though) i met a very hot young girl (she was the little sister of a girl who i was friends with, they were from a wealthy family & i was from a working class family so i was fascinated by the way they lived)
anyways i gave in to temptation & took the younger sister's virginity & started hanging out at their house. it went great for a year or so but then i realized (as you most likely will) that we were on very different levels in maturity & intellect. i'm sure, unless you are a very immature and stunted person you will want to do things that she's not ready for or can't (like anal sex or going to a bar)
so my advice is just look for a girl more your age & let the young girl go...
me again...
after thinking about this for a few moments i wold say go for it, these young girls need someone to introduce them into the world of blumkin's & jersey fishhooks. just don't get to attached to her & remember that if you let her down hard or fuck around on her she (or most likely her parents) will press statutory rape charges that will follow you around for the rest of your life...
>>30
That's only your experience, don't generalize it. I was in a similar situation as the OP and ended up marrying the girl.
It's nice to learn how it went for you, just don't assume that it means it will always be so.
4 months, 4 wonderful months and now it is over. The doubters and the cynics of this thread have won...
>>34
Don't worry, brother. Consider it a lesson learned, and now go forth and find someone better.
what?????
what happen OP???
I don't know what to say other than I've made a mistake.
I hope that I can explain myself.
You explained yourself perfectly, and despite being incredibly drunk I hope I made some sense too! Oh That Girl, how I love you so!
Wait what?! 0_o
This is getting interesting.
What happened?
You can't just leave us hanging like that after the 3 or 4 months of this thread being here.
Explain yourself OP! That Girl? Someone?
39 here
come on! Im new in this thread and it ends like this? Explain urself OP! =[
Haha, sorry for leaving you all hanging
We had an amazing 4 months but from some personal reasons I got a bit stressed and it all blew up. But I explained myself and now I think we're okay again?
Very much in love I believe and only a better relationship awaits for us both. (:
42 here!
whaaat? stressed why....?
>42 here!
Wha? I'm 42. Oh well, it's not like it matters.
Well, it looks like OP has disappeared. Maybe he can't face all the trolls who told him it wouldn't work? So That Girl, it looks like you have to be our bearer of bad news, why were you stressed and what blew up? Details please!
Ive just had some stress at home and the distance was getting to me a little. I started an argument and ended up saying some very harsh things. I ended up ending it and having the worst day of my life; that night I called him up and just said that I didn't mean it and explained myself.
He was veryy happy and so was I and we talked about our relationship. We've both agreed not to push eachother so much so now hopefully we'll both be happier for it.
Back together and very happy :)
well
it's now a happy ending rite?
AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER.
(except for Pauly Shore)
THE END.
I see, glad that got cleared up. And great to know you guys are back together.
( ﾟ -ﾟ) Don't let stupid things get in the way of a good relationship.
46 here
ahh i see.. but. how far can we trust That Girl? i wanna hear this from OP himself!
Sorry, OP here, and I think I remembered my tripcodes!
I have been absent from this thread and That Girl didn't tell me there was all this activity... She does speak truth, we had a long chat and came to the conclusion that we shall never speak of this breakup again and move on from here.
This is not so much a happy ending as a happy beginning, our relationship is still very young, but we are very much in love. We will just have to wait and see where it goes from here.
I will try not forget about his thread and keep you guys posted from now on, everyone enjoys a good love story, right?
Thanks for all you support guys!
Think i got my tripcodes the wrong way round...
Yep I did... got it sorted now, sorry for spam posting, just testing the trips... PS: I LOVE THAT GIRL!!!!!
Yeah, keep us posted. Good luck!
nice story...
i believe true love really exist after all...
Hello everyone. I always come back to this thread when things start to go wrong, I guess cos I know the girl reads this it means I can get it off my chest and know that she and all you guys will read it too.
She has told me she isn't sure if she loves me, she feels like she doesn't love me like I love her and she can't provide what I need. She has told me to back off a bit, but she still wants to have a physical relationship and still wants to see me.
She is coming down here tomorrow to stay with me, but as she told me all this last night I am all over the place as to what I should feel about this...
I know most guys are supposed to fear commitment and its the girls who push them, but with me and her it seems to be the other way round. Having a "fuck buddy" is a dream situation for most guys but I guess I am just not like that...
It just got alot worse. She fell out of her attic whilst getting a suitcase to pack and fractured her foot. This would have put a delay on seeing her but she then decided after coming back from the hospital to finish with me completely.
She said many of the same things as our last break up earlier in the thread but without the nastiness, just a cold sort of determination. It felt very final.
Our relationship has been cancelled on Facebook and I am left with a week off work I booked for her coming down in which I can contemplate my misery.
I don't know what to do or what to feel. I love her more than anything, but she does not love me the same. She tells me she does not want "this" meaning our relationship, and at 16 who can blame her for wanting out of a relationship with a 21 year old over emotional idiot like me?
So happy Friday the 13th 4-ch, and what a wonderful Valentine's tomorrow will be...
>>58
-hugs- well atleast you should know you're not the only one! D: I'm gonna be alone on valentines day too >__<
Happy Valentines
Why would you come in here and say that? According to you "it's just another day." The last thing I need is you pointing out to me what day it is today.
Right now I am angry, then sad and then feeling like we can be friends, then I get angry and sad again and feel like I can't even begin to imagine what I do next.
I know this board must be full of people alone this Valentines, so what do we do now?
I am gonna spend the day trying to get my head round what I do next, Happy Valentines everyone, including That Girl.
I just tried to speak to that girl, to explain what I have been feeling the last couple of days. I told her how low I have been and told her what I understand of what has happened between us.
Everything was fine until I mentioned that I wanted to come see her, in a couple of weeks when I get paid.
She freaked out saying "I don't want you too" over and over. I was saying "I just wanna walk and talk, get closure or whatever" when she said she "couldn't even stand the idea of me touching her right now."
I was shocked, "I don't wanna touch you" I said, all I want to do is talk to her, but that reaction was not what I was expecting. I tried to convince her but she ended up telling me "I sounded crazy." I don't get this, she ended things with me and I love her, of course I am going to want to see her and I am going to try to sort things out, right?. I am really worried now and pretty upset that she would say this, makes it sound like I have done something really bad doesn't it?
I have been asked to stop posting here. If the mods could delete this thread it would make things easier between me and that girl. Thanks.