So My friend pushed me to talk about my issues and once I started I couldn't stop. It's not that I have many issues, in fact it is just one: I don't care about anything at the moment.
I'll explain this: At this stage I'm just going with the flow, I don't have any goals and somehow I don't care about it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not depressed.
I'm smart, about to complete my degree in science and I've got many friends, no worries at the moment. The thing is I've fallen into a routine in my life and it's not that I don't like it, it's that I don't care. If I were to explain it as an analogy I'd say I'm in a boat that just goes by the flow, I don't know where it goes to, I don't know where I am and I don't care.
What I want is someone to punch me, I want to worry about something, I want to yell at someone, I want to laugh until it hurts my stomach, I want to feel depressed, I want to feel something. Things have become so predictable that there are no surprises no funny parts, i.e. I know the spoilers.
My friend said to me "so your life has no spice", and that analogy serves pretty well to explain how I got here. My whole life has been about keeping my distance from trouble. Low marks would bring me trouble with my parents --> perform good at school. Drugs make you stupid --> I stayed away from them. I'm afraid of infections --> flirt but don't have sex. Etc. Nowadays I keep an eye on my sodium intake, don't drink alcohol during the semester, avoid sugar, brush my teeth + dental floss + mouthwash after each meal etc. The thing is I don't do any of that because I want to but because I want to prevent trouble. So yeah, my life lacks spice because I know spice will bring stomach ache so I'd rather have a plain meal.
My question is: What can I do about it? Shall I go out tomorrow to do random stuff? If so, how to do that? 'cause I'm pretty sure I'll make a plan before leaving the house. Or shall I go back to fool myself by pretending nothing of this is happening (or not happening)?
Thanks for your time, I do appreciate it.
Do what you feel you want to do, worry about consequences, but not so much. Also try to do different things and meet new people to go out of the routine.
You really can't spice up your own life without doing something drastic like traveling or seriously taking up a hobby.
Usually it happens as a result of meeting someone new and that they bring it into your life. Maybe hanging with a new gang or doing something that puts you in a different social circle and circumstance.
It sucks that you're about to complete your degree. Otherwise I would of said try joining a student club/societies or volunteering in college events. You meet heaps of new people this way and I think it's pretty exciting once you get significantly involved.
All you have to do is to make risks. If you like a girl, go for her even if it looks like it is hopeless. If you want to accomplish something that you are not sure you can't, then do it.
Of course you don't have to start with something big , start small, like what >>3 said, pick up a hobby, I don't know, maybe drawing and shit.
An also , do realize that you don't have time forever.
Although I'm about to conclude my degree, there is still one semester left and after that I'll get into the honours year (I'm certain I'll get in). Although I don't have many people who I consider real friends I talk to a lot of people in the faculty and I don't really want to spend time socialising because that will take me apart from my books. Here, my problem has spoken for me again.
I have had crushes on chicks in my classes before, but I talk to them without the intention to establish a relationship 'cause i know relationships are troublesome (calling, seeing each other, buying gifts, etc.) so i intentionally install myself in the friend zone when it comes about females.
>If you want to accomplish something that you are not sure you can't, then do it
This seems the best approach to my problem at the moment. A challenge. However, I'm not interested in anything at the moment, I know I'll get into honours, uni isn't hard at all, I'm not interested in a relationship, I gave up on sports 2 years ago. I do have hobbies but they aren't challenging.
So, please help me to find a challenge/goal.
Thanks for your time.
Break the routine and take it from there.
Go to another town you've never been in before. go to a bar, go to the movies, make out with a girl and return home, with or without her number. Repeat in a week or two. Have a dinner party for your colleagues or just for a crush of yours. Every now and then it feels nice to make a meal for two...
Hey there, I'm basically the same as you.
I don't do anything: sex, drugs, drinking.. it's all by choice, just from logically thinking things through and realizing the consequences could be bad.
But I too, like you, felt jaded and bored, mildly depressed even. Life was going nowhere--- always more of the same.
I managed to have a girlfriend (who I'm still with for a year and a half now), and we don't have sex because it's important to us that she doesn't get pregnant while still in college. (That's the only 100% sure way of knowing.)
Anyway, one day I wanted to spice things up, so, like someone mentioned earlier, I drove to a different state and went to a party. I was going to try and get wasted, but I didn't. BUT, I did end up in a girl's bed (we didn't have sex, just literally slept together, in each others arms). No actual harm was done, but a lot of bad things could have happened, and I mean that seriously.
So please don't put yourself in New and Daring situations just for the hell of it. Don't abandon your use of Logic just to feel better for a short while.
Have you tried volunteering anywhere? That's a good way to spend one's time, while meeting new people.