yeah i know the titles been used to death but bear with me.
ok so my roomate is a spoiled rich kid who has no values and constantly hits his parents up for money instead of trying to find a job. Also, he's been saying to everyone how he is going to be this huge actor/screenwriter and how he's going to be the biggest thing in the whole world. Meanwhile i have been working since high school to be a decent writer (i've written 2 books of short stories and 1 full length mystery novel, not that it matters) I have tried finding jobs near me but there are so many people in my town but there are only a small number of jobs available here. So while i can't find a job I have been keeping my stomach full by fixing electronics and doing odd jobs like changing oil in peoples cars, painting houses etc. So while i've been working myself to the bone trying to pull myself up out of poverty he is constantly begging his parents for spending cash so he can buy $200 cardigans and $100 pairs of shoes that he only wears once. I didn't really care about him being spoiled until recently though, I was always taught that people like him never go far in life. But I found out a few days ago that he had entered a contest held by MTV wherein you pitch them a one episode pilot for a sitcom, they then choose a certain number of people to then go to new york to pitch the pilot to some MTV executives. No big deal, i'll let him have his contest maybe once he loses he'll finally come off his damn cloud and become a man. Well it turns out he has been chosen to go to new york. Fuck me. I mean i always knew life wasn't fair but this is fucking rediculous. My other friends say i should be happy for him but i just can't feel anything but rage when i think about him even having a chance at becoming anything other than a high school drama teacher. Its gotten so bad that I can't even read words in books anymore, whenever I read a line of dialog i hear it in his stupid condescending voice and it pisses me off to no end. I feel completely done like i just want to lie in bed and never get up again, because theres no point in going on in a world where people like him get ahead while hard working people like me, and the thousands more deserving than me, are tossed aside. I've completely ceased all my writing because every idea i get the voice in the back of my head just tells me that it doesn't matter how good it is and that i'm just fooling myself. I don't know why i'm writing this, I guess its better to vent to anonymous people on the internet than to keep it inside. Oh and i would hit him (not that it would solve anything) but i'm afraid that his rich ass parents will hire a huge lawyer and send me away for life so thats out of the question.
A good starting point for dealing with your issues is to accept that some of these issues (in addition to your feelings toward your roommate) are in your head.
For instance, in regards to your roommate: you are jealous of your roommate. It's not his problem, it's yours.
everything you hate in him is just what you hate in yourself
its like mirrors bro
Agree with the above statements. Being spoiled does not hinder a career, however irksome it is for you.
You were taking comfort in heaping contempt for your roommate as a defense mechanism against your envy, which means that when your beliefs were disproved, you lost your balance.
Life is unfair, suck it up. Somewhere in the world some kid is digesting himself to death because of hunger, and another person just crashed and will remain paralytic for the rest of his days. You are sound of limb and body, but still dissatisfied... how unfair is that? Life does not own you anything, and does not have a reclamation's office. On the other hand, use your envy and jealousy to power yourself, and learn your lessons. This guy just showed you that you need to try to succeed, so be grateful for the tip and make sure to try yourself when you have the opportunity.
I understand, and sympathize. It sucks to see others on easy street their whole life while you have to work so hard.
> He's been saying to everyone how he is going to be this huge actor/screenwriter and how he's going to be the biggest thing in the whole world.
If nothing else, success in these matters requires certainty and absolute faith in yourself. Talent and hard work may just as well be secondary. If he gave up when something got him down, he would not have entered that contest and would not have this chance.
You can learn from him in this way, and soldier on with your dreams. Or you can give up and continue to hope he fails as well. Whatever you do, it's best to find a way to let go of that bitterness, it's just a rot.
ok looky here, for one thing the issues are not in your head its completely understandable for you to hate that little prick. on the other hand dont beat yourself up over it cause its only effecting you. no matter what you could have done in your life their is always one of these "roommates".
i hope you keep pushing forward and dont give up
But why is that envy there? What is the need to have such a defense mechanism? What are you trying to hide from, OP? Did you have a hard life?
I think there is an underlying issue in all this. Negative emotions and inflexible reasoning steam from unresolved issues. So, care to talk more?
No one like to be scrutinized by armchair psychoanalysts.
>>1's roommate is a spoiled manchild who never worked a day in his life and gets rewarded for it. That's it. Get over yourselves.
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"scrutinized"? Really? Issues aren't necessarily that easy to resolve, you know. Do you know his roommate personally? Why make such harsh generalizations? I like to understand people, not because i'm on an ego trip, or I have a need for self worth. If it was that simple OP wouldn't have posted.
Again with the bitingly harsh attitude. Why do you feel the need to instigate anything? If a person needs to vent, don't they do it in order to find out why they feel the way that they feel?
You don't really get to me the way you may think you do. I just want to understand why you'd be so defensive and rigid about me wanting to know more about the op.
Just take confort in the fact that this guy will never get anything done in his life and be pretty much a mcdonalds burger flipper once his parents stop feeding him.
Hard to say, really. But Karma does exist. Keep working hard, op.
I'm not going to say either way that your feelings are bad or good. What everyone is missing here is that you came on here to vent. While that is good so you don't keep the emotions inside, you have to move and see past them. Emotions whether good or bad can make you miss the whole picture. So you want to make it big keep trying, there are a handful of actors who before becoming actors were construction workers, they just happened to be at the right place at the right time.
Now that, that has been said, there is one more piece of advice I want to give you. Please don't give up on your dream you want to be a famous writer keep at it. You don't want to live your life full of should have would have could haves. It maybe hard now, but it will be easier. Who knows your room mate could win that contest, get it on the air and in a month it could be canceled. Everyone gets their time in the sun, yours might just take a little longer to come.
I know you might no want to do this but congratulate your friend you may feel he doesn't deserve this, but think he came up with an idea, and out of thousands upon thousands of people he was chosen. He deserves a pat on the back.
Amber Riley didn't make the american idol auditions but now she's on glee.
You'll fail as a person, not because of your room-mate but because of you.
Your success is independent to his and if you use his luck as some kind of excuse to quit trying then well, you just weren't going to succeed anyway were you?
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