Dang! I wanted the 1000th! haha
when you need someone the most. they are never there to help...
V-Day approaching! Every single to the shelters! Love-love couples sighted everywhere!
>>952
uggh singles awareness day,
the most unsavory time of year for me.
and wouldn't you know it its on a saturday too!
I guess I'll spend half the day sleeping in and the other half playing video games with friends.
thankfully I'll be drunk on 13th and spend next day sleeping
Man, I was buying chocolate for this girl, right?
I just couldn't choose! I ended up taking just plain milk chocolate only because it had a cute cat and a tiny hearts on it!
oh man what a pain.. aren't i gonna get hitched?
21 yo female, never been kissed let alone had a boyfriend.
I've been asked out several times but I'm either not attracted to them, or I don't feel like they like me for who I am. I think this is mainly owing to the fact that I look about 13-14. I get along with guys a lot better than girls, but I get friend zoned because of how young I look I think.
I feel your pain. 23 year old male, but I look like I still belong in high school. Makes it hard with the opposite sex.
awfully out of luck aren't we?
haha, I'm not against internet hookups, but anonymous posting makes it difficult to do this.
Looking young isn't necessarily a bad thing ^o^
Hey, it's Otakun! How did it work out with that girl?
Three times in a row now, the only girls who have shown any interest in me (albeit online) have abandoned me before the date we were meant to meet up. I'm developing a horrible abandonment complex as a result.
I'm not ugly, I'm not socially incapable, I'm friendly, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I wish someone kind would offer some body warmth to me for once in my life. ;_;
I guess things are on a big freeze due to the circumstances. I'm not too horribly heartbroken though.
haaaaaaaaaaaah.....im bored.... and dont have any friends to go out with.... and im bored of surfing in the net..... im bored of my life...... im bored of my loneliness......im bored of not having gf.......... im bored of my exsistence......im bored because im bored......im so bored i dont know what to write..... haaaaaaaaaaaaah.....in other words, im bored....
I have yet to have a relationship with a woman. I don't know how to make you people know what I'm feeling but I trust that you don't need my words to bring that feeling out in you since I'm sure you're victim to it yourselves.
I want someone to be close to. I want to have someone to hug and tell her that I love her. I want to have someone I can talk to hear something interesting or funny that... I don't even know. I just want someone there. I want to be there for someone. Just to be close, to have basic human contact. To care for someone and to be cared for.
Now, it's just this feeling of being unfulfilled. I am so freaking frustrated and impatient! I know that I'm not going to find someone in undergrad but I have another fucking year to go! I'm just so lonely. I feel like there's a part of me that isn't there and I'm searching and waiting and nothing seems to fill that hole. I feel like I've missed out by not having even a little bit of this contact. Why is it so lonely?!
Well, that was therapeutic though ultimately pointless since it won't help me find anyone any faster. It does make me feel better to know I'm not alone though.
If you want something you gotta work for it. Like all things in life all good things must be earned. Its not that the fates have cursed you to be single, but you cursed yourself of being single if you don't do anything at all.
Right now I may be avoiding relationships due to my hectic schedule, but in summer I'm going all out. We all got to surpass the you of yesterdays through sheer effort! Get out there and find yourself a girlfriend! GO!
To all the guys that feel like they can't live without a gf, or in general are miserable and consumed by lonliness, let me start off by saying I've been there and I know the pain.
But the most important thing to understand is that you need to be happy before someone else can make you happy. It is, in my experience, very unhealthy to depend upon someone else to make you happy. How can you love someone if you don't love yourself? You need to think about what is good in life and have the confidence to appreciate it. And trust me, confidence breeds appreciation from others.
My bottomline: you can't possibly make a relationship work if you are moping about your singleness. If you do manage to find a girl, this will lead to your happiness dependant upon someone else. And if it doesn't work out, that dependancy will destroy you.
I understand that. I'm hoping by the time I get better, I'm not completely behind in the dating race though... I'm 18 now and just starting to intend to learn to go out, socialise, etc, so I might feel very intimidated approaching dating late in the game. |:
I've been trying for over a decade to get to the point where I can love myself. Nothing works. Just when I think I might be moving upwards and out of this pit, the wall gives way and I end up even farther down than I was before.
I suppose this means I'm doomed to a life of isolation.
Like I said, you doom yourself if you don't keep trying. Whats the point in life if you don't take any risks or keep clawing through the hard times? The only one who can pull themselves out of the pit is you, stop quitting on yourself and give yourself a chance
I no longer see the point in trying. Women take up too much time and money and for what? The occasional use of their vagina? If that's what it's going to take, I'm just fine with my hand, thanks. And the chances are incredibly high that I'm not going to be the only one using said vagina anyway. Women cannot be trusted.
I'm done giving in to societal pressure to date them. I'm finished with relationships, at least until something perfect comes along, which I know will never happen. It is a pointless never-ending game where you both push your ideals on the other, never actually changing anything. It just costs time and money. And it will hurt you in the end. Not worth it. I cannot trust women again. Or at least I can't trust the things that attempt to pass themselves off as women these days.
So go prance around in slutty clothes and sleep with strangers you meet in bars. Just don't come crying to me when you're 40 and need a "nice guy" to look after your bastard children. Goodbye relationships.
My oh my someone has fallen to the dark side of love >_>
Lets have more hope shall we?
Well said. My prospects may be poor but I'll be damned if i give up yet
I'm still holding out that the right one is out there.
If I have not found some one yet it is only because fate has seen fit to spare me the pain of pointless relationships destined to ether fail or trap me in an emotional hell. I'll just have to keep waiting and looking until I find a women to kick the worlds ass with.
I'll keep this short and simple: Nobody controls your destiny but you. Create your own fate with your own two hands.
>>977
I only partially agree with you, Otakun. You might be one of the greatest instruments in forging your destiny, you're still chained to your surroundings and to luck. You're only a small, small piece in a vast machinery - don't think you're free to do whatever. Think chaos theory.
Now that doesn't mean you can just let yourself go by the flow; but you are not that free either.
You are as free as you allow yourself to be.
If you're a lazy person, of course you won't achieve much freedom.
Freedom is a pipe dream.
I've always believed that fate and your own actions are entwined.
Though I despise people who blame their troubles on destiny and resign themselves to it.
It's not a question of "destiny" like "it's been written in the stars, it HAD to happen", etc. But sometimes you just have to accept fatality and the fact that you're shit out of luck. Otherwise, you'll end up blaming every single mishap on yourself and it's quickly going to be unbearable. Trust me, I've been there.
Don't resign and wimp out, but don't be too hard on yourselves either. You can't control everything.
Honestly it is a numbers game. Some hit the jack pot while others are left out in the cold. But the fact is you have to keep playing before you can hit a home run. And even if you find a girl then it does not mean you will be with her forever. Think about it this way, lets say 1/10 girls you ask out will say yes. And 1/5 of those girls you will get a second date with. And 1/3 of those girls you will date long enough to have a relationship with. And 1 out of the 2 girls you have relationship with will be with you forever. So that means 1 girl out of the 300 you ask out will be the ONE. So don't give up if you cant get one.
>> So that means 1 girl out of the 300 you ask out will be the ONE. So don't give up if you cant get one.
Actually, that sounds like a really good argument for saying, "fuck it, this is hopeless; I'm gonna drink myself to death."
I'm not looking for sex, I just want a loving, stable relationship with someone who cares that I exist. Apparently that's asking a lot.
That's asking a lot of from a person that doesn't know you. Think from the other's perspective, too.
So what can I expect out of dating, then, if a stable relationship is out of the question?
>>984
Actually, I understood his point as a "keep trying" - statistically, one out of 300 is low but still possible.
And 1 in 300, to me, sounds like "impossible."
After all, you could try 300 times and still not succeed. And even asking a girl out once is hard enough as it is.
Enough with the speculating on how low the odds are! Just get out and mingle already! Meeting people is the first step to dating!
first of all - too much thinking guys (gals possibly?)... if you want to find someone, it's just about trying and not giving up... just like Otakun said - get out and search... what I'm recently finding out is that too much thinking about these love matters will just fuck you up but when you just try, it's worth it and it gets you somewhere...
also... let's say that 1 of 300 girls is the one... considering size of earth, the chances of meeting that girl sure are very low because she could also be from other state... other side of planet probably? but still, if you look around, how many happy couples can you see? couples that are together for the length of their lives (ask them if they were together from the beginning or if they needed to go through 300 other people and you'll hear myriads of different answers)...
skipping to my theory - I don't believe that there is something like ,,true love" (or the ,,one")... you just fit with the girl in a romantic way more or less... sometimes you find out after long time that you fit less or sometimes after that long time you find your friend suddenly attractive... and there's plenty of girls with plenty of possibilities also affected with plenty of things because people can change, can suddenly open their eyes, can get run over by train, can get molested by drunk man in a train and be saved by you etc. etc. ... but outcome in a form of relationship is the same, either it's happy or not - in that case you can collect experience, memories and just move on to next person... or you can just die as a lone coward
after going through some experiences, i realized you cant go "search" for it, you have to let it come to you naturally, the more you search for it the more it runs away, you just have to let it come to you =]
That still requires you to leave your basement, so hop to it!
>how many happy couples can you see?
None at all. I see some deluded lovestruck couples in the honeymoon phase of their relationship who will get bored soon enough, I see people cheating on each other, I see married couples who hate each other but stay together for their children and I see people who only stay together because they're scared that they can't do anything else.
It's nice to daydream about things like love and friendship, but when it comes down to it, those things are impermanent and nothing but temporary illusions that will hurt you in the end.
It won't come to you naturally. It won't come to you if you look. You'll get into pointless relationships over and over looking for something that only exists in fairytales. And then you'll get old and you'll just settle for whatever comes you're way because that's what society expects of you. Lasting happiness cannot be found in relationships.
You sound like someone who was just rejected or who has been rejected a lot.
Wow getting to close to 1000
http://personals.aol.com/articles/2009/04/16/how-to-ask-someone-out-on-a-date/
Read it and get out there
>>994
well, if that's true, I'd enjoy those short moments of happiness rather than sit on my ass and do nothing...
oh god, i was there when they first started the single rant thread, and here we are to the 3rd one!! 998
hell, never thought that I could have the 999 post... so... I wish luck to all of you to not be single anymore...
AAAaaaaand 1000GET!
BUT RANT IS NOT OVER, MY FRIENDS!