How To Make A Man Happy? (34)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-01 02:26 ID:Zlxogx7p

I love my boyfriend alot but I know he is happy but I want to make him even more happy. I need tips or ideas or something. Not just sexual tricks but dating ideas and lovely dovely tips.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-01 02:32 ID:AUN4uOEF

Blowjobs... no seriously, one a day.

If you aren't in a sexual relationship. Just do things for him that he likes. If he likes a home cooked meal, cook it for him. If he sees admires something at the mall, and you have the cash, get it for him. If he is gonna be out when his favorite show is running, record it for him(Tivo!)

But most of all. Hugs and kissing. Just be close to him once in a while and don't worry about talking.

Thats all the advice I can give you sadly.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-01 04:36 ID:Heaven

> Not just sexual tricks but dating ideas and lovely dovely tips.

You are dating a man, right?

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-01 14:16 ID:bBbLrWDH

>>1
Just serve him in general. You know what he likes, you get to know those things. Learn his routines and work with him, so he can have it more comfortable.
It's mostly about the small everyday things in life, when this goes smoothly you become more at ease and satisfied. Special occations are ofcourse nice but more like icing on the cake.

Often guys are happy to just spend time with you, what exactly it is you do is of lesser importance. So you can just, think for yourself, figure something out. It will be more rewarding to you when you yourself, discover things you can do to make your man happy. And he will appriciate your effort and concern for him, that in itself is of great value.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-01 17:13 ID:Obw19HUg

COOK!

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-01 18:16 ID:C6OYJ7Bx

3 routes to a man's heart:

  1. His dick
  2. His stomach
  3. His brain being relieved that you're not a stupid bitch

So cook, suck him off, and don't be a bitch about it.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-01 20:50 ID:MwnLiL2Q

>>2

This. This this this. Though the daily blowjobs are unnecessary, at least for me :p

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-02 03:28 ID:DlZFdEm3

I started out going "WTF, guys don't all have to want more blowjobs", and then after a little self-reflection I realise that I really do want more myself, and thus would be a hypocrit to say anything of the sort here.

Anyway I'm siding with >>4. The blowjobs are just one part of service. If I think back to what made me happy when I was in my long term relationship, it was times when food was already cooking when I got home, times when random gifts were there (the good gifts anyway), and times when I got pounced on for sex the moment I walked through the door.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-02 04:07 ID:AUN4uOEF

>>8
I dream of walking into my home and getting pounced on by my dream girl, just knowing she misses me would bring my spirits up after a long hard day at work...

sits in corner looking at the reality of his life and no-girlfriend status.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-02 13:08 ID:SiRHJNEj

>>2
is it really. i don't like the focus on "serving" really. blowjobs and affection are keys, but so is giving him time to himself.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-03 19:34 ID:SF0yCD0l

easy answer sex, anything, everything goes on sex rule, if he not like that, that a man with gay problem or your not good looking lol

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-03 20:37 ID:AUN4uOEF

>>11
Unless he's religious or highly spiritual, nothing wrong with that though.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-03 20:55 ID:gPdTVSDE

Besides sex, there are many things to do to please a man. I please my boyfriend and keep him happy with cooking him dinner as much as I can. That seems to make him the most happy but his pleasure is very important to me so I like to do more than just that. Cooking for a man is so basic, it is something all women should just do anyway.

He works very hard with his hands and after work they are often sore, so I will massage them. When I see him after he gets off work I always ask how his day went, and I listen carefully without cutting him off to chatter about my own day because mine is not as important because I don't do as much as he does. So, I am careful not to bore him with workplace gossip unless I know for sure if it will amuse him.

Just relaxing quietly is nice too. During this time I like to just massage him while we watch a movie or just spend quiet time together.

When we are at a party, I am careful not follow him around the place and I encourage him to be social with his friends and drink with the boys, but despite this he is the one that follows me. I think it is just important to let a man be a man and not try to keep him on a leash. Makes him feel trapped, and if he cares for you...he'll always come back.

Then there is the part about talking. We never ever talk on the phone. Neither one of us care for it, and there is nothing so important that needs to be said that it can't just wait until we see each other. Communication is good, but mindless talk is not.

Lastly, the sex. Everyone is different, but don't lay there like a dead horse and don't treat oral sex like a chore. You are capable of giving a man immense pleasure, it's a beautiful thing. During the act I think it is important to be a bit vocal, tell him how good he feels and whatever else that might come to mind. You should not have to hold back.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-03 21:36 ID:NK3ZZ1Se

>>13

Will you marry me?

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-03 21:40 ID:AUN4uOEF

>>13
You can't be real. That post has to be a troll.
That answer is too perfect. TOO perfect. It's unbelievable. You kept yourself out of the spotlight in the post and kept your boyfriend the main subject. You didn't go beyond the subject about how to please the man... you... you can't be a real girl...

16 Name: 13 : 2007-10-03 23:15 ID:gPdTVSDE

>>15 Thats how my boyfriend and I live. I was raised in a very old-fashioned environment with the belief that the man that takes care of you or the "breadwinner" is deserving of the most respect. I don't know how anyone can argue that. If your woman works her tail off for you and makes all the money, puts a roof over your head and does all of the traditionally male duties would you not respect her and do your part?

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-03 23:54 ID:AUN4uOEF

>>16
Damn your boyfriend is one lucky man. You are right though. The breadwinner is indead deserving of respect. Male or Female, But I grew up rather old fashion myself.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-04 02:44 ID:760CAEKu

Protip:

>>13 is a man, discussing his fantasies. Move along.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-04 03:13 ID:AUN4uOEF

>>18
It could be, We just don't care. Unless proven otherwise, I'll believe her. Not like I'm gonna go meet with her or anything.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-04 05:33 ID:eex/JOnp

> How To Make A Man Happy

Come naked, bring beer.

21 Name: lol : 2007-10-06 22:16 ID:xO8ep+cO

one sentence

"Sure I'll do that"

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-07 01:23 ID:Heaven

I can't say I'm nearly as perfect of a girlfriend as >>13, seeing as I can't cook or clean very well, but I do little things for him when I can. One of our favorite things to do is shower together, talk about our day, and wash each other. Massages in the shower are also nice. We basically do the same thing in bed after sex, except the conversation is more philosophical. What we get the most out of these activities is that we know that we are giving and receiving all of each others' attention. Physically (washing and massaging) and intellectually (conversation) we are connecting in a way that is separate from sex.

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-07 10:26 ID:bBbLrWDH

>>18

He is pretty dead on in his fantasies, which is proven by the positive response from other guys. So any girl wanting to please her BF should pay attention, wether it's a guy expressing fantasies or a girl speaking from experience.

I'm a guy, and presonally I'm all for the traditional way of building relationships. Although that is ofcourse minus the mistreatment, mutual lack of respect and sincere love, and serving only out of cold duty and/or fear.

I think men and women are suited for different social roles and I believe everyone would feel much better if they followed this.
However, I also believe that we have a society that makes it virtually impossible to live like that, which is to stressful, to focused around presonal sucess, fulfillment and materialism. We don't have a society that endorses family life, but one that forces individuality. It breaks people apart, it makes us colder.

Before, it was typical that the man worked around the house or in proximity to it. The male children would hang out with their father, learning his trade, and all the while they would still be closer to the mother and female children than we are today. The mother was close, taking care of the house, the smallest children and teaching the girls. The children always had their parents close, and eachother. The parents always had eachother close, and their children. Even though we worked more we mostly did so together in cooperation, and more directly for eachother.

That's how it should be, that is best for everyone.
Today, everyone is forced away in seperate directions, each parent to their own job where they meet mainly strangers or casual friends, who cannot give them the deep love and support family members does. Same goes for the children, they are pressed away, each one to a different class, where they are taught by strangers and impressed by children not of their own family.
And once everyone do meet back at home, they do so with a day full of impressions of seperate situations, creating a lot of emotional friction, while everyone has to stress to make use of the few precious hours they have to prepare the next day, each in his/her own seperate interest.

When you think about it, that is a sick situation to live in.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-07 13:24 ID:T9MuH/Jk

>>23 what the hell is with you, this is 2007, you are clearly downgrading women, if you think that women and men are suited for the different roles in society you are stupid. The only thing that makes a man and a woman different is pregnant, women can do anything a men can, when it comes to work wise, this also goes for men to, who sometimes not realise it, but can raise a kid just as good as the woman even better in some circumstance or depending on the person, whether the kid female or male,

this is 2007, some women don't even know how to cook, for you to say that a boy must learn from the father, and the girl must learn from the mother, you really shouldn't be giving
the kind of advice, what you should be saying specially in this day and age is that all children are whether male or female should learn from both parents,

What you was describing wasn't a society role for women or men. But a male dominated society which women are given a social role or in other words downgraded, you not really need to look very far to understand or discovered where this is taking place, course is happening all over the world,

Men like you are assholes, who give women a social role, by the way I'm a man,

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-07 13:57 ID:760CAEKu

>>24

Exactly what part of >>23's post screamed out "KEEP THE PATRIARCHY ALIVE!"? Seemed pretty rational to me.

If you want to impress girls with your "look at me, I'm a male feminist" schtick, do it somewhere else and GTFO my 4-ch.

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-07 18:37 ID:rgW1G+i1

>>24
Men and women are different.
Men and women have had different roles in society for a million years, longer if you count pre-human ancestors.
Things don't change that easily.

> The physical differences are rather obvious and most of these can be seen and easily measured. Weight, shape, size and anatomy are not political opinions but rather tangible and easily measured. The physical differences between men and women provide functional advantages and have survival value. Men usually have greater upper body strength, build muscle easily, have thicker skin, bruise less easily and have a lower threshold of awareness of injuries to their extremities. Men are essentially built for physical confrontation and the use of force. Their joints are well suited for throwing objects. A man’s skull is almost always thicker and stronger than a women’s. The stereotype that men are more "thick-headed" than women is not far fetched. A man’s "thick headedness", and other anatomical differences have been associated with a uniquely male attraction to high speed activities and reckless behavior that usually involve collisions with other males or automobiles. Men invented the game "chicken", not women.
> Women on the other hand have four times as many brain cells (neurons) connecting the right and left side of their brain. This latter finding provides physical evidence that supports the observation that men rely easily and more heavily on their left brain to solve one problem one step at a time. Women have more efficient access to both sides of their brain and therefore greater use of their right brain. Women can focus on more than one problem at one time and frequently prefer to solve problems through multiple activities at a time.

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-07 22:48 ID:bBbLrWDH

>>24

Haha, well I could go further in my arguments but this issue is irreversibly lost to my efforts of reason, or anyone elses for that matter.

Majority will have its taken right, it's the spirit of our time.
God help us...

28 Name: 13 : 2007-10-07 23:23 ID:gPdTVSDE

So, I am not even going to bother trying to defend that I am actually a girl. It doesn't matter because I think I'm right in what I say and that is what is important. I would also like to agree with >>23

Morals in the United States and other western countries started to decay when feminism started becoming extreme. It goes against the natural way of things. Men have always had their roles as women had theirs. It is not a societal thing, it is a natural thing. There is always a masculine and a feminine, a dominant and a submissive in most balanced relationships. Look at homosexuality. Although they are of the same gender one is always the submissive or more feminine one.

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-08 02:22 ID:T9MuH/Jk

>>25 first of all this is not your room retard, shut the fuck up. Don't talk your just stupid kid,

>>26 you are using science as a way of defending argument, but I agree with you that when it comes to the body, men and women are different, and I realise that men are supposed to be stronger than women, but this isn't 100% true because I know that some women are stronger then men, anyway i am not talking about science and I'm talking about the social role that women and men play.

i believe when the baby is born, the baby needs to be teached which role in society that they play weather is a female or male, as well as other things, this is what parents are supposed to be for right.

>26 you should know that, even a boy with his dick, can be brainwashed to believe he a girl from a young age,

I don't know if any of you have heard a story about a girl was raised by dogs, when they found her she couldn't even speak, the doctors were thinking, is this girl even human because she was acting, eating like an dog, she was even barking like a dog. What role in society did she play, she wasn't playing a human role,

My point is women can do as much as the man when it comes to work even with some of their lack of strength but male dominated society says that a mother must be in the house looking after the children, fathers must work to put food on the table, but A father can also look after the kids while the mother works, especially in this day and age, when a man says that a woman's place inside the house, I believe that downgrading women, because he saying that women don't belong nowhere but in the house, looking after the kids. I believe that wrong.

I'm not a male feminist, I do a lot of research in human brainwash which meanly involve society roles, criminal mind, religion, relationships and other things.

>>28 is not a natural thing, is a society thing, it seems natural because we are used to.

>>23 , I may have jumped to conclusions that you were downgrading women without reading it properly, sorry.

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-08 02:39 ID:T9MuH/Jk

>>25 first of all this is not your room retard, shut the fuck up.
Don't talk your just stupid kid,

>>26 you are using science as a way of defending argument, but I agree with you that when it comes to the body, men and women are different, and I realise that men are supposed to be stronger than women, but this isn't 100% true because I know that some women are stronger then men, anyway are not talking about science and I'm talking about the social role that women and men play.

i believe when the baby is born, the baby needs to be teached which role in society that they play weather is a female or male, this is what parents are supposed to be for right.

>26 you should know that, even a boy with his male genes, can be brainwashed to believe he female from a young age when it start thinking 'mama what’s that', I don't know if any of you have heard a story about a girl was raised by dogs, when they found her she couldn't even speak, the doctors were thinking, is this girl even human because she was acting, eating like an dog, she was even barking like a dog. what social role did she play, she wasn't playin a human role.

My point is women can do as much as the man when it comes to work even with some of their lack of strength but male dominated society says that a mother must be in the house looking after the children, fathers must work to put food on the table, but A father can also look after the kids while the mother works, especially in this day and age, when a man says that a woman's place inside the house, I believe that downgrading women, because he saying that women don't belong nowhere but in the house, look after the kids. I believe that wrong.

I'm not a male feminist, I do a lot of research in human brainwash which meanly involve society roles, criminal mind, religion and things

>>28 is not a natural thing, is a society thing, it seems natural because we are used to.

>>23 , I may have jumped to conclusions that you were downgrading women without reading it properly, sorry.

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-08 02:40 ID:T9MuH/Jk

sorry for the 2

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-08 03:20 ID:SepYV6UP

>>29
Thank you for saying that! I've been here trying to word my thoughts on this, and that's pretty much come close.

It may have been the norm in the old days for women to be inside tending to the house and kids, but it doesn't mean that's the right way. Times change.

Personally, I don't think everything would be better if everyone went back to these social roles. I think people should just live whatever role they feel happy and comfortable doing. Sure morals and family life may be messed up today, but haven't they all, on some level, always been messed up? What's wrong with their being two parents going out and working to bring money into the house? Life is getting more and more expensive. And what's wrong with going out and interacting with strangers? What's wrong with kids being taught and impressioned by strangers? I think it brings interesting experiences to talk to at home with the family. It's still the parents responsibility to teach the kids right from wrong and make sure they feel comfortable opening up with opinions and ideas they have. Moms can do that if they're out having a career. My mother has.

It's cool if a lady wants to be submissive, work mainly at home, and serve their man however they want. Heck, if I'm lucky enough to end up with a great guy who's worth treating like that (yeah, why marry them if they're not worth that? Sometimes people make dumb mistakes) I'd probably be happy to do that, so long as I was able to have my own career too. I'm not interested in raising kids like a housewife, but I am interested in making comics which will probably have me inside a lot, unless I need to get a job to help with bills.

It's all nice if a lady wants to go out and get a career. It's great women can do that now! I don't think the change in family situations are bad on morals as long as the parents involve are mature enough to deal with their kids how they're suppose to. I've been raised mostly just by my mother and I've been very happy and quite glad it was just us. I still talk to my dad occassionally, but his absence hasn't altered anything for me.

So yeah. The way people live and interact with each other is always going to keep changing. People just have to go about things however they feel. That's my two cents.

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-08 04:08 ID:Heaven

>>30
Women and men have different abilities, and sometimes open discrimination is justified. I'm not happy that my auto insurance rates are through the roof just because I'm a young male, but that's the way it is. Thankfully, I have recourse to prove responsibility and lower my bills.

Men and women are different physiologically, and as a result, psychologically. This isn't just because girls wear pink and boys wear blue. In a relationship, if we can't understand differences, there's no hope it lasting.

> male dominated society says that a mother must be in the house looking after the children, fathers must work to put food on the table

I myself have no problem with working women, most of us are long over that. Unless you suggest that my local fire department lower the bar for applicants because most women can't lift an unconscious body as easily as a man.
Personally, I feel it's best to judge each person according to their individual ability. But it's not always practical.

Maybe we can just get back to pleasing men?
You know, this thread's topic.

34 Name: Female : 2007-10-08 04:23 ID:KkZ/d/Cf

Don't get in his way too much.[Let him play videogames, go out with the guys, or watch football] Cook for him. Fuck him. Shut up and Listen to their problems stories etc. Be obidient but not TOO obidient. Don't submit to him so easily. You have to resist a little. Just and adequate amount of sex.Make him jealous sometimes. Communication is a huge thing. Don't keep him n a short leash. Just try and get a long and don't be so damn happy all the time. Trust me, it pisses people off in general. Not only guys.

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